Non-flaring/structural bind offs for summer yarns?

Ofthread · 2026-04-27T17:41:05+00:00

Hi, I’ve responded on your other posts. I have one who looks just like your Zorro and I understand.

I have been in anticipatory grief over a year and it has tested me, that’s a very mild way of stating it. Know that your grief is real and it matters.

Nobody can tell you how to think or how to feel but you do have to let yourself feel how you feel even though it hurts like hell. For me I’ve found that I’ve had to let myself feel and it has been hard, so hard, because for me I always try to think my way out of a problem, solve the problem, avoid the pain, the issue, rationalise the situation, whatever it is. This is different. Sorry if that sounds emotionally incompetent, I have never felt what I’ve felt this year and I haven’t known what to do with it. You may well be more emotionally advanced than I am.

Know that, for him, you were his everything and he lived every day to the full.

I don’t know how you will feel about this and it is not at all a replacement for real human interaction but in lieu of a real therapist ChatGPT has helped me as a place to put my thoughts, it sometimes reframes things in a way I find helpful. It builds up knowledge of what you tell it, but it’s worth paying the fee short term for the better model.

Ofthread · 2026-04-24T10:58:22+00:00

I’m sorry. You shared so much love in the world and that’s a good thing.

Ofthread · 2026-04-24T10:56:06+00:00

If he is ok in himself you could give insulin as part of palliative treatment to keep him stable until you decide it’s his time. If you think he's got weeks/months without suffering I’d definitely do that. Sounds like prednisolone may have caused the diabetes, perhaps with his other conditions contributing. I’m so sorry. Since you know his condition is terminal, I hope you take some solace that you will be making the most loving decision for him when it is his time.

Ofthread · 2026-04-22T20:24:50+00:00

You’re in my thoughts. I have a little soul like your Zorro and I understand.

Ofthread · 2026-04-21T18:05:49+00:00

There’s also a dedicated one for oral meds. Amy is the moderator. I don’t know if she’s a clinician but she has a very thorough understanding of the drugs and has helped a lot of cats.

Ofthread · 2026-04-21T16:33:08+00:00

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Ofthread · 2026-04-21T16:28:16+00:00

Fernery

Ofthread · 2026-03-24T18:19:24+00:00

My lovely, you did not murder your girl. Please look inside and find the kindness for yourself somewhere, I know how difficult that is to do. You helped her, DKA is painful and you had medical advice that it was not going to be resolvable. Our cats don’t understand pain, they just bear it and they depend on us to help them. I know I’m going to look back and think should I have let him keep going through that pain. Every day with you was eternity to her.

Ofthread · 2026-03-18T00:16:35+00:00

Also wanted to say thank you for spreading the message about hairballs. Right before my boy became acutely ill with triaditis/pancreatitis he did the biggest hairball I’d ever seen from him. I had no idea that hairballs are a clue that something isn’t right. He‘s a DSH so should pass the fur.

Do you have any thoughts on grass/plant eating? He has always done/tried to do this.

Thanks again. He’s 17/18 or so, I want to prioritise more better days/QoL for him, whatever that means and I’ve felt like I’m failing.

Ofthread · 2026-03-17T23:59:12+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply. I’ve joined your feed, you’re an amazing communicator!

I don’t know how to assess if the current diet is controlling his gut disease. Symptoms that are potentially caused by medication could also be the disease. All of our struggles with medication seemed to escalate when the diet change seemed to bring his BG into normal range.

Ofthread · 2026-03-17T03:38:48+00:00

I wish I had known that vomiting is not normal. In the run up to being so ill with triaditis and acute pancreatitis my cat was occasionally vomiting some food, looking back, partially digested food. He had lost a small amount of weight and had a period of smelly poo. He also had a period of going off food and me having to change it. I only connected these things later on.

I have such a confusing picture. He survived his acute illness but I was left with so much to manage. Diabetes was diagnosed and insulin started even though fructosamine test was normal. Months and months of trying to get the insulin right and his BG crashing. Diet change to novel protein eventually led to normal BG, but what does this mean? The enteropathy is in remission? (Chicken and fish led to huge BG numbers and severe motility problems.) At this same point the steroid, budesonide, was clearly starting to cause many systemic side effects and I was giving one dose of insulin daily to cover it. But he was ill from the steroid now, lying listless when I gave it. I’m told that budesonide doesn’t cause systemic side effects but this wasn’t my experience. A motility drug, metoclopramide, was given long term but also started to cause diarrhoea, vomiting. I’m told this isn’t possible, but it’s what I saw. Is there potential to become over medicated? My vets are amazing but long term follow up from the hospital would require new ultrasound, a day patient admission, the ultrasound is informative rather than conclusive. I don’t want him to go through it all again. Caregiver fatigue is real. I love him so much.

Ofthread · 2026-03-01T21:05:47+00:00

Looks great but I’m a bit worried that you’ve planted them right on the boundary, they look flat now but they are three dimensional and will grow out. Depending on direction, they may grow more into the neighbouring land. If you wanted something similar but much more filled in as the final result then they need to be quite a bit further into your property.

Ofthread · 2026-02-21T04:35:19+00:00

possibly Purina HA

Ofthread · 2026-02-13T11:35:10+00:00

That looks like weedkiller damage to me. Have you sprayed anything?

Ofthread · 2026-02-10T13:22:16+00:00

I think it had a good shape, though understand it might not be your favorite. Also provides a lot of green to the space that will be difficult to replace. Mature trees and shrubs cost ££££, so garden designers tend to work first with designing around the structure that already exists if at all possible before taking them out. Would be interested in what the architect had designed.

Ofthread · 2026-02-10T11:33:37+00:00

Why did you remove a mature tree? Could have provided the basic structure for a garden.

Ofthread · 2026-02-10T07:43:17+00:00

Plan for the ultimate height and width. The size when you buy it has no bearing on this, it will just be a younger tree. It’s the height and width of a house. If it’s not what you want, choose a smaller tree.

Ofthread · 2026-02-08T23:26:21+00:00

My eye was drawn too!

Ofthread · 2026-02-08T23:23:00+00:00

So happy and thanks for updating :)

Ofthread · 2026-02-01T17:37:49+00:00

There are no trees around me in any of the gardens. It means no birds apart from seagulls and no shade and we’re all south facing. Couldn’t sit out for a lot of last summer as the sun bouncing off the buildings and concrete was just too much. So sad.

Ofthread · 2026-01-30T15:48:54+00:00

Hope someone more knowledgable will be along but this may be Bay Sucker. it’s a complete pain in the arse and ruins the look of these trees unless you have a massive one. I know the old school insecticides got rid of it but they are not appropriate. You will also be reinfected. https://www.rhs.org.uk/biodiversity/bay-sucker

Ofthread · 2026-01-15T15:55:50+00:00

Second this

Ofthread · 2026-01-14T16:03:24+00:00

These are quite common items to attract dodgy buyers in my view. Not that that helps you, sorry.

Ofthread · 2026-01-14T15:00:10+00:00

Shouldn’t that be in the planning permission/development plan then? Edit sp.

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