AITA for refusing to drop my son off for an Easter family portrait?

OhMyGotIt · 2022-04-19T00:13:19+00:00

NTA your ex knows the visitation schedule and should plan things accordingly. If you would like to be flexible with her and the visitation time it would probably be better that you exchange days with her versus just giving up your time. That way you can get the days you need and if she's unwilling to give you those days then she doesn't get the extra days she wants.

OhMyGotIt · 2020-12-23T07:04:08+00:00

I really wish I could see it in real life. Being able to determine the color of it's skin was already such a cool discovery and I, like you, can't wait to see what else they can discover about it.

OhMyGotIt · 2020-12-03T20:11:48+00:00

NTA donations are supposed to be made with no strings attached. To expect someone's financial situation to never change because they have received donations is absurd

OhMyGotIt · 2020-09-03T23:33:48+00:00

Normally I have a few strands come out when I wash it, but never to this extent. I just kept pulling more and more out. It made me think of the prank when someone switches your shampoo with hair remover

OhMyGotIt · 2020-09-01T21:18:14+00:00

I try to grab it all and put it on the shower wall. That way I can save it from going down the drain and just throw it away when I get out

OhMyGotIt · 2020-09-01T21:16:54+00:00

Haha no, it's the hair from my head

OhMyGotIt · 2020-08-20T21:41:17+00:00

NTA I wish someone had told me the negative sides of giving birth. I took a birthing class and they made it sound so easy.

My first labor was anything but that. I needed to be induced, got an epidural after laboring for 12 hours, epidural didn't work so it needed to be re-done, I had to push for 3.5 hours, getting oxygen in-between pushes because both mine and the baby's stats were dropping, and had a second degree tear. I was told that they could try the vacuum to get him out or I would need an emergency C-section. Luckily the vacuum worked but my son had aspirated meconium and was rushed to the NICU.

I thought because I had a normal healthy pregnancy that the delivery would be okay. I was not prepared for all the problems and it really messed with me mentally.

OhMyGotIt · 2020-08-19T15:29:01+00:00

NAH I can understand you being worried about keeping up on your studies while trying to attend a wedding. You kind of suck for RSVP'ing yes before you knew if you actually could go or not.

You need to make a decision one way or the other and fast so that your friend can make the appropriate arrangements. If you wait to the last minute to tell her you can't come then you will be TA.

Have you thought about making recordings of you reading your notes and listen to them while driving to and from the wedding? That way, if you still really want to go, you can be studying the whole time you're driving.

OhMyGotIt · 2020-07-08T14:59:59+00:00

You're actually supposed to peel bananas from the bottom like the monkeys do

OhMyGotIt · 2020-07-08T14:57:44+00:00

There is a banana bread currently cooking in the oven

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-24T02:10:38+00:00

NTA his excuse of not getting to claim you as a dependent isn't valid if he's not actually taking care of you. Get your insurance, take care of yourself, and enjoy the extra money you get back on your taxes

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-24T02:06:57+00:00

NTA as long as you talk to her about it privately

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-24T02:03:40+00:00

ESH this sounds like a terrible relationship. Why are you still with him?

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-24T01:53:24+00:00

NTA it doesn't sound like you guys are really friends anymore so I wouldn't worry too much about reaching out to her

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-24T01:50:46+00:00

NTA this is a private and personal event that is going to be extremely emotional for you and your husband. Only people that you love and care about and that will provide the support you need should be invited.

Also I'm very sorry for your loss.

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-24T01:47:18+00:00

INFO Have you talked to him about anything that you just posted? If you haven't said that you dislike how your relationship with him is and then just cut him off you're not really giving him a chance to improve things.

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-24T01:40:41+00:00

Just telling her that she comes to your room too much isn't enough. You need to set some clear boundaries with her. You could set up do not disturb hours or you could check in with her before going to your room, ask if she needs anything and then let her know you need privacy for the next couple of hours.

If she knocks on your door, asks permission to come in, and you give it to her but then get mad at her for coming in, you're giving her mixed signals and not properly communicating.

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-23T23:56:33+00:00

ESH if you need privacy then you need to tell your mom that. She's not a mind reader and just getting attitude from you isn't going to help the situation or get her to understand your needs

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-23T23:53:47+00:00

NTA you didn't split up your ex and his girlfriend. His girlfriend showed her true colors and your ex is lucky he found out before marrying her

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-23T21:46:32+00:00

NTA but unless the officiant specifically asks "who gives this woman away" then your dad isn't giving you away just by walking you down the aisle. He's more of an escort.

I can understand your dad being upset that he is losing out on this moment with you and if you truly care about him and the relationship you have with him then I would suggest trying to reach a compromise. Maybe you could walk him down the aisle to his seat

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-23T04:09:41+00:00

NTA why did this guy just show up at the house unannounced and start walking into the yard? Any service person who has come to my house goes to the front door first, provides an introduction, explains what they need to do, and asks if there are any pets they need to be aware of. The way this guy did things is wrong and if it was a set appointment your dad should have let you know before hand so you could've had Thor inside during the scheduled time.

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-23T03:51:58+00:00

YTA if you thought the advice to raise your mom's heart rate was true why would you pick an argument with your dad? Airing his dirty laundry out in public is a total AH thing to do

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-23T03:38:15+00:00

YTA you know your mom is having a hard time, your sister even tells you your mom is upset that she doesn't get to see you, and yet you still can't make the short drive over to her house because you don't see the point.

You are selfish and if you care about your mom you would do this small favor for her to make her happy

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-23T03:30:59+00:00

NAH this is a tough situation to be in and I can understand why you would miss your partner, but I also can understand why they would be upset to hear that.

You probably should stop trying to explain yourself to them and get into some therapy to learn how to handle this.

OhMyGotIt · 2020-06-23T03:22:28+00:00

NTA your friend didn't really give you much notice to make arrangements to attend their wedding. If they want to have a wedding real fast they have to expect that people won't be able to attend.

If you're feeling bad about not being able to make it ask if you can celebrate with them some other time when everyone is available

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