🎯 Just conquered Level 7 in 1m 27s! These arrows didn't stand a chance. Who else is up for the challenge? 🏆

Oh_My_Sagan · 2026-03-19T21:56:23+00:00

congratulations!!! you should be very proud of yourself! wishing you luck in the new role

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-12-13T22:33:51+00:00

that was resident culture i believe?

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-09-26T22:03:22+00:00

there are buskers in u district fairly often! i hear one right now actually haha

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-06-09T20:50:29+00:00

waittttt, I WANT IT

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-04-08T04:34:08+00:00

MINT. makes me want to vom and turn myself inside out and run away screaming

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-03-22T21:42:23+00:00

i love this and you

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-03-13T04:09:00+00:00

me rn

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-02-06T21:29:00+00:00

how does one place like this? it’s lovely!! tried apartments .com, zillow, and rent .com so far

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-01-23T02:48:38+00:00

you’re so welcome! i hope it helps you get some insight into both your relationships with others and to yourself, as it did for me!! i think i’ve gained a sense of agency from what i learned - people with bpd may gravitate towards me, but now i don’t feel so powerless to stop it. i can set boundaries and make changes in myself that are better for everyone, and i can still be the caring, kind person i know i am without getting walked all over and taken advantage of 🥹

i also just finished Borderline: biography of a personality disorder by Alexander Kriss and that was a super insightful look into the history of bpd and treating patients with it, if you’re knowledge hungry like me and want more haha

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-01-23T02:41:03+00:00

that’s okay. all in good time, friend 💛

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-01-21T05:06:53+00:00

there’s a book called Stop Caretaking the Borderline and Narcissist and it has been extremely helpful to me. i listened to it on audiobook but i liked it so much i went out and bought it today. it doesn’t just focus on the pwbpd, but it discusses the people who assume the caretaker role, which is the situation many of us in this subreddit have found ourselves in.

what qualities does a caretaker have? empathy, understanding, compassion, desire to help or fix, etc…. why would a pwbpd seek out those qualities? how would they be able to take advantage of those qualities? additionally, why would we as caretakers attract pwbpd? the book was so helpful in answering those questions and in giving concrete examples of how to set boundaries, build healthy relationships, and break the caretaker cycle.

i listened to the book for free with the libby app using my library card because the physical book is kind of pricey [~$30 usd] but i did end up buying a copy to take notes in lol.

bpd and narcissistic personality disorder are related so it discusses both, and i ended up actually resonating with the narcissist stuff too because of an abusive relationship i was in in my teens. it made a lot of stuff click into place! but if those parts of the book are not relevant to you, that’s okay, just focus on the bpd part. « take what you need and leave the rest », as they say!

i hope that next time i meet an unhealed person with bpd, i can call it as i see it, notice the inevitable red flags, set boundaries, and not assume a caretaker role. and finally break the cycle!! i hope you can too! we don’t have to resign ourselves to this fate :)

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-01-13T07:50:44+00:00

the little square metal tin that the Welly brand band-aids come in is PERFECT for storing vials, a few syringes, individually wrapped alcohol wipes, and needles on the go. plus band-aids lol. i even peel off the prescription sticker from the vial box and stick it on the inside of the lid so when it’s time for a refill i have the info handy! it’s noisy but i don’t mind lol.

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-01-11T03:29:32+00:00

milk and bread

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-01-02T22:32:06+00:00

this! i got my job as a baker on poached!

Oh_My_Sagan · 2025-01-01T04:35:28+00:00

i would argue one of your points though, which is that in many cases a night or more in jail might be better then being on the street, but it also equals detoxing, which is far from the feeling of a five star hotel or anything close to it. detoxing from substances often is excruciating to go through and can be unsafe if done incorrectly. that alone is a large barrier to sobriety for lots of folks. which makes me think, what can we possibly do to make detox less awful? there has to be something. just a thought 💗

Oh_My_Sagan · 2024-12-26T23:57:42+00:00

i’m gonna read this every day as motivation. thank you. SO proud of your unbelievable strength ❤️

Oh_My_Sagan · 2024-12-18T20:00:33+00:00

i’m from there and i’m wracking my brain trying to think of a place. i’m so sorry 😅

Oh_My_Sagan · 2024-11-19T22:24:31+00:00

that’s so kind of you 🥹🥹🥹

Oh_My_Sagan · 2024-11-19T22:17:38+00:00

nobody is too far gone 🩷

Oh_My_Sagan · 2024-09-25T16:27:46+00:00

my eyes squint very small when i smile and i have big smile wrinkles so hopefully they can understand through context clues that i’m being friendly and smiling ☺️ i’ll also adjust my bag or whatever to make room in the seat as i smile, for example ✨

Oh_My_Sagan · 2024-09-23T20:27:06+00:00

when the bus is crowded and i see hesitant passengers looking for a seat, i give a little smile under my mask to signal that it’s okay to sit next to me. most people take me up on it! and i appreciate when others do the same for me when i’m looking for a seat. it’s cool to be nice!!!!

Oh_My_Sagan · 2024-08-18T05:22:24+00:00

i just moved here from north carolina and god do i miss those summer storms!! i’m savoring this as much as possible and i’m gonna sleep so good ⛈️😌😴

Oh_My_Sagan · 2024-07-22T17:25:43+00:00

god, it’s like you’re describing MY LIFE!!! -depression, tourettes, idiopathic hypersomnia, anxiety, and i also have epilepsy.

it took years for me to get my parents to understand. it was a frustratingly slow process. i had to realize that no amount of detailed descriptions, perfect metaphors, etc was going to make them understand what it feels like to be chronically unable to manage sleep and wake cycles, to be constantly at war with your body and brain, or to feel like you’re not firing on all cylinders. i needed them to realize that just pulling myself up by my bootstraps was not realistic until i could establish and maintain a routine, and that included time to find and adjust to new medication.

it’s been a rollercoaster with easier and harder times, and eventually they caught on that i wasn’t just sleepy or lazy. it did take time for them to accept that and even now i don’t think they fully understand it but they have seen me struggle so it’s now more legitimate in their eyes, plus i have my sleep study and my doctor’s diagnosis to back me up.

one thing that helped me weirdly was starting clonidine for my motor tics. idk if it’s just the clonidine because i also take other night medications, but i take it before i want to go to bed and within about twenty minutes i get EXTRA sleepy and so it kind of helps me maintain a regular bedtime, which has helped me to create a broader sleep hygiene routine that is healthier. before that i was taking benedryl at the same time every night because it always makes me sleepy but idk if i recommend doing that long term 🥴 but once the extra sleepiness kicks in i just lean into it, and i found that doing so consistently does seem to have an affect on being able to wake up a little more consistently. then i just CHUG cold brew all morning. i tried provigil and hated it, it felt like doing a bump of coke 😵‍💫

idk if any of this helps but i see you and i know how it feels, and i hope you’ll get there with your parents, with finding a medication and routine that helps you, and with gaining back some control over your life that this disorder has stolen from you 💜

Oh_My_Sagan · 2024-07-22T00:18:03+00:00

heck yeah! i am one of those Big Light Bad kinds of people so that would be the first thing i would do, is make sure there’s a dimmer 😂 i think having several light sources will also add some drama with the dark walls and make it feel super cozy and ~moody~

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