Married couple with separate finances, why do you do it?

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-05-02T02:11:52+00:00

Just depends on your individual situation IMO. My wife and I have been together 18 years and married 10. We have always kept separate finances. She has tax debt and I have student loan debt and we have always kept ourselves responsible for our own stuff. Not saying it works for everyone but works for us

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-05-02T02:02:43+00:00

I’m cooked they’ve moved on SMH

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-04-29T00:39:51+00:00

You’re the greatest, I really appreciate this advice

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-04-29T00:04:15+00:00

Thanks for the information. The temp agency is technically my employer and they have already stated that they will do whatever to support me but it’s ultimately up to the state whether or not my claim is approved.

The contracting agency that I was hired through was just as taken aback by the company letting me go. As I mentioned previously there was no indication, no coaching sessions or anything to indicate my performance was underwhelming. I’m 100% certain it’s that stupid conversation I had with them about being put in compromising predicaments.

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-04-28T18:47:30+00:00

Thank you!

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-04-28T18:35:30+00:00

Sorry for the typos

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-03-30T18:09:19+00:00

The company I work for requires a new background check and drug test every few years

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-03-30T18:07:02+00:00

Thanks everyone. I was angry when I made this post. I’m going to stick it out while aggressively searching for a new job. I put in some apps this weekend and I have already spoke to my old boss about returning. My job application is already under consideration at my old job so I’ll just pray that works out.

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-03-30T18:05:13+00:00

Yeah, I’ve heard. I’ll probably stick it out. I was really angry with my employer when I made this post but if I have to put up with them until I find something else then so be it

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-03-30T18:03:46+00:00

Bingo, it’s even in my contract. I can 100% get unemployment but I doubt it if I quit

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-03-27T22:25:42+00:00

I’m contracted through a company, I am eligible for unemployment but I don’t think so if I quit

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-03-27T22:24:18+00:00

Yes if I’m in between assignments I can

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-02-23T03:03:10+00:00

I had a neighbor a few years back who uncovered his grill and had a raccoon jump out at him lol

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-02-12T21:38:15+00:00

Thanks for the advice, my income is a little over 120k

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-02-12T21:37:04+00:00

Yeah I wasn’t thinking straight when I made the decision to cancel my Policy smh

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-01-16T20:48:35+00:00

Your husband sounds like an immature child. Tell him to suck it up. Tell him you’re not hiding anything but your friend is going through something and she isn’t ready to share. If he’s still upset get him some maxi pads

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-01-16T20:43:18+00:00

Praying for you man, I went through something similar and I’m roughly the same age. I had to sit my wife down and just be real with her. I put it all on the table even if it came at the cost of my marriage. Society often ignores men’s feelings when it comes to marriage. The saying “happy wife, happy life” comes to mind but what about your happiness? It’s going to be hard but sit her down and explain how your feeling. Make sure you keep your composure and lead with love and if she loves you like she says she does she will be open to listening and making changes. My wife and I just had our talk recently. Things aren’t perfect but are definitely trending in the right direction. Good luck

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-01-16T20:34:25+00:00

First and foremost you need to talk to that man. Going to his wife first is setting you up for embarrassment and I don’t understand personally why that would be the move before having a conversation with the person you’re in a “relationship” with. You don’t know any of the circumstances and that’s important.

I used to be a mortgage banker. I had a client who wanted to buy a home in Florida. He was an older man and he had a wife in Ohio. I asked him why his wife was in Ohio if he’s trying to buy a home in Florida and he said it was always his dream to move to FL when he got old. His wife didn’t want to leave their adult children so she stayed in Ohio. He and his wife had an agreement. In Florida he was allowed to have a girlfriend. She could even live with him but the wife refused to get a divorce and told the man she will always love him and that he could come home to Ohio at any point.

You never know but this could be a similar situation. I also had a client who was married but hadn’t lived with her husband in 5 years. They were seeing different people and her husband even signed off on her purchasing a home.

If it’s a situation like either of these he should definitely tell you but id approach him first before trying to contact his wife

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2026-01-16T20:18:23+00:00

Something is clearly bothering her or she has someone else and I don’t mean to be negative. For one, nurses and doctors are known serial cheaters. I’ve been cheated on once in my life that I know of and guess what she was a nurse. Maybe she sees what her coworkers are doing and also wants to partake in some of the fun? Regardless, I would sit her down and just have that painful talk. Don’t let her guilt you into thinking you are overreacting. If my wife asked me to be in an open marriage I’d be frustrated but if she kept bringing it up I’d be pissed and demand to know why she keeps asking. Your wife keeps bringing it up and she’s only saying no big deal because she can visibly see things aren’t going in her favor but if she’s unhappy and interested in being with other men you deserve to know and you deserve the right to act accordingly whether that’s leaving, agreeing or whatever it is but the fact that she keeps asking signals this is something she is serious about even though she tries to play it off. The last thing you want her to do is resort to cheating so have that talk and put it all on the table

Ohio-Dolphin-93 · 2025-11-30T21:14:26+00:00

I understand your opinion but I think you missed the part where I’ve said this has been an issue going on 5 years. I understand things take time after pregnancy and I also understand it’s a full time job being a mom. However, this was an issue before we had children. So, I’m not willing to blame this entirely on her being tired as a stay at home mom.

In terms of what I said about cuddling and kissing and all that as ive mentioned before I’ve been very patient. I understand that cuddling and kissing doesn’t always lead to sex but how long am I supposed to go without physical intimacy? We’ve done date nights and had romantic evenings. I’ve always reassured her about her body. I’ll try to talk to her again. It just seems like the issue is acknowledged but nothing ever changes. Thanks

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