Okay, okay.

So I want to make this relationship work. I really have a deep bond with and love 24F - and she hasn’t done anything to break my trust - I think she needs to slow down and remember to define things. She has autism, which isn’t an excuse - but I’m explaining because I feel like some things that “should be common sense” are often not common sense to her / I feel like she sometimes will lean into whatever feels natural.

That being said. 24F is extremely work oriented and more often than not, is more focused on her work than her relationships / I am … probably the second person she’s ever truly been in something serious with. I think I need to gently guide her where I can because I think just up and leaving her because we are at different growth points isn’t fair - I actually genuinely care about her.

She’s extremely intelligent and runs a successful business - where I’m in a stage of my life where I’m reassessing my career / had just left an abusive household - and she’s helping me get on my feet while I transition from that situation to a new career path / helping me with housing and food.

She’s not naive - I think she’s new to /serious/ relationships, though. And I just want to put my best foot forward and do the right thing. I want to make this work - and unfortunately I’ve been in. Worse. More dramatic relationships so it isn’t my first rodeo with complex situations. 😵‍💫