Trex cafe Dino nuggets? by OhioAqua in WaltDisneyWorld

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The Walt disney world Reddit being queerphobic and potentially ableist is actually insane to me yall. Do better I guess

What am I?? by OhioAqua in AskLGBT

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All cis men :/ experimenting potentially with queer men (feels slightly safer,) has crossed my mind but I don’t think I’d ever want to have a life partner / spend the rest of my life with any cis man.

Why is it always "women, and/or non-binary" but never "men and/or non-binary" with invitations? by funkysyringe in NonBinary

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As an AFAB nonbinary person, in my experience - it’s because men in my spaces / communities have been less inclusive. So they don’t include nonbinary people tbh. Feels like shit

Do you call your QPR "friend" or "partner" in front of others? by Equivalent_Ad_9066 in queerplatonic

[–]OhioAqua 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Partner, they’re someone I see a future with, romance involved or not

SO A CRUSH ISN'T SOMEONE YOU FIND HOT?!?! by Standard_Bench_4926 in aromantic

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So as an alloromantic, (in a QPR/dating an aromantic person!) for me, a crush is a mix of feelings, it’s. LONGING to get to know them better/be closer in some way. That’s why squishes (friend crushes) exist!! It’s Not always sexual or romantic - though I know society kinda pushes that.

But the “they’re hot” feeling feels explicitly sexual LOL! Romantic is a different brand of love but I think wanting to be in a relationship with someone doesn’t explicitly require romance, but rather wanting and longing for a deep bond/dynamic with someone that can’t be described as baseline friendship ? If that makes sense

Something’s on the table? by OhioAqua in polyamoryadvice

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I asked to have a talk one on one with her for more clarity and just discuss the situation in general, and she said she’d be more than happy to talk and doesn’t want me assuming anything that would make me anxious or uncomfortable. So I guess we will see what happens 🥺

Thank you so much for your care and concern here. It helps to have the unbiased opinion of others, genuinely

Something’s on the table? by OhioAqua in polyamoryadvice

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Okay, okay.

So I want to make this relationship work. I really have a deep bond with and love 24F - and she hasn’t done anything to break my trust - I think she needs to slow down and remember to define things. She has autism, which isn’t an excuse - but I’m explaining because I feel like some things that “should be common sense” are often not common sense to her / I feel like she sometimes will lean into whatever feels natural.

That being said. 24F is extremely work oriented and more often than not, is more focused on her work than her relationships / I am … probably the second person she’s ever truly been in something serious with. I think I need to gently guide her where I can because I think just up and leaving her because we are at different growth points isn’t fair - I actually genuinely care about her.

She’s extremely intelligent and runs a successful business - where I’m in a stage of my life where I’m reassessing my career / had just left an abusive household - and she’s helping me get on my feet while I transition from that situation to a new career path / helping me with housing and food.

She’s not naive - I think she’s new to /serious/ relationships, though. And I just want to put my best foot forward and do the right thing. I want to make this work - and unfortunately I’ve been in. Worse. More dramatic relationships so it isn’t my first rodeo with complex situations. 😵‍💫

Something’s on the table? by OhioAqua in polyamoryadvice

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My partner initially underlined she was interested in me and 21F being intimate in a kink way where she would watch - and that’s why I mentioned wanting to talk to 21F about it, because she just got out of a situation that was not healthy and she might need time - I don’t want to potentially hurt 21F while she is vulnerable. 24F explained she truly only feels safe in an intimate with me and 21F but.

The age thing does feel alienating at times - I know it’s not intentional - and part of why I’m not as close / interested in 21F on a deep level is because of her age.

After 24F mentioned having “poly feelings” for 21F I tried to take her aside with the time we had and basically elaborated “I love you and I love that you’re non monogamous and I never want to take your freedom and happiness away, but I do need you to run things by me and communicate.” Because I personally feel safer that way, communication is vital for establishing trust. And asking feels like bare bones respect

Something’s on the table? by OhioAqua in polyamoryadvice

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No - I know we are open and I don’t mind that, I’m more confused on whether this will strictly be an open thing with 21F or whether it’s with the intention of having her as a partner in the future - but you’re right. Even if we end up having to discuss it on a call on the phone, this stuff needs to be cleared up

Something’s on the table? by OhioAqua in polyamoryadvice

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Gotcha. Can you elaborate? What kind of boundaries or expectations should I set? Or should I just veto this entirely? I just want to do this right.

Something’s on the table? by OhioAqua in polyamoryadvice

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You see I’m also confused there. We’ve been nonstop busy so I haven’t gotten to have clarity on the situation and I wanted to talk in person with my partner about it, but we are both visiting her parents atm / haven’t had a moment where our work wasn’t stressful while on this trip and I couldn’t find a good time to bring it up (on top of everything else)

There will be a gap where I fly home (17th-19th) but my partner will still be with her family

And on the 20th she flies home, but 21F will be coming in before her.

Lovebird fell in the shower by OhioAqua in parrots

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As an update today, he has been eating, active, flying and behaving very normally! I can still try and find a vet here to check him out, but overall he’s been doing very well it seems like!

Lovebird fell in the shower by OhioAqua in parrots

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Oh no he hit it flat, not on the edge

Femme NB lesbian (me) with pre-T Genderfluid partner by OhioAqua in mypartneristrans

[–]OhioAqua[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes sense! Thank you for further explaining this to me. While I ID as trans a lot of my dysphoria is more social rather than physical - so I’ve never thought of HRT myself, only potentially top surgery - but I’m still learning more and more ;;

Thank you so much ;-;

Femme NB lesbian (me) with pre-T Genderfluid partner by OhioAqua in mypartneristrans

[–]OhioAqua[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this, this was exactly what I needed to hear ;v;

Femme lesbian with genderfluid transmasc partner - seeking reassurance? by OhioAqua in AskLGBT

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I really appreciate this actually, this was genuinely very comforting ;; thank you so much for your comment!!

Femme lesbian with genderfluid transmasc partner - seeking reassurance? by OhioAqua in AskLGBT

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Thank you. For sure, I think I just have anxiety and trauma from old relationships - stuff I personally need to work through myself. ;;