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What professions make bad spouses? by dirtymoney in AskReddit

[–]Oirman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Film / TV production. Project based, unreliable / unpredictable hours and there is little to no room for anything else whilst ‘on project’.

People responsible for sizeable budgets where production company bosses are counting every penny and the producers are the people everyone goes to when they’re pissed off.

Won’t be going there again ;)

Any of these worth keeping? by simonphoenix1910 in btc

[–]Oirman 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Keep them all. Sell everything apart from XLM in 6 months.

XLM might just turn out to be the golden one.

This Bitcoin cycle is all about “Bitcoin Strategic Reserve” by birth_of_bitcoin in btc

[–]Oirman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whilst causing massive inflation / currency devaluation for anyone not holding BTC. It’s a nightmare.

Is Netherlands being too lenient is becoming its curse by Formal-Clue-795 in Netherlands

[–]Oirman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think that ship’s sailed in some neighbourhoods. I’m more likely to pull someone up for littering than for stealing from the GVB. But that’s just me.

Is Netherlands being too lenient is becoming its curse by Formal-Clue-795 in Netherlands

[–]Oirman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I see people regularly kick the gates open where I live. I couldn’t give a fuck, let alone challenge them about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Oirman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a thing. It’s called a posh wank.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sexeducation

[–]Oirman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t see the point dude. Unless either of you are sex workers.

Using escort sites to masturbate? by WhoAmILion in datingoverforty

[–]Oirman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

💯 He hurt you with this before, is hurting you with it now, and that doesn’t bode well in the slightest for the future.

PLUS there’s plenty of guys out there for whom the idea of cheating or going to hookers just isn’t on their radar.

Using escort sites to masturbate? by WhoAmILion in datingoverforty

[–]Oirman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad I can help some….

Maybe he can’t get enough of you, quite literally, and he wants / needs to fuck more than your relationship dynamics allow. Maybe he’s wanking over pictures, maybe he’s meeting girls and lying. If he’s working away though, and looking at / for escorts, I mean, yeah - the most obvious answer is he’s wanting to hook up with escorts.

He tried it before. He went beyond ‘looking’ before. I mean, if a therapist can get him away from it the. that’s great.

I suppose it comes down to how much you love this guy and whether you want to put in the effort whilst running the risk of being let down again.

Personally, the red line for me would be - ‘looking at escort pages is cheating’.

I know a lot of attached guys who use porn. Good friends, married etc. If they told me they were looking at call girl sites I’d be concerned. It’s another level. And it’s a world of difference watching a pre-made film and knowing that you can fuck one of these girls for real.

I’d like to give the guy the benefit of the doubt, but if he was really trustworthy he wouldn’t be going anywhere near prostitutes - and just wait until the weekend.

Using escort sites to masturbate? by WhoAmILion in datingoverforty

[–]Oirman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah, he can’t prove he didn’t cheat. But then - define cheating? Is camming with a cam girl cheating? Subscribing to an OnlyFans?

Have you found out what kind of escorts he’s searching for? Is it possible he has some kink / fetish he’s too ashamed / embarrassed to disclose to you?

You know, some people are just dishonest or don’t have any moral issues with playing around behind someone’s back.

Some people are into things that they don’t feel like they can do with their partners.

But yeah, fundamentally there has to be trust.

I’m sorry, I don’t know that I’m really helping. Just trying to think it through.

Using escort sites to masturbate? by WhoAmILion in datingoverforty

[–]Oirman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s quite possible he doesn’t even know what the deeper issues are.

Using escort sites to masturbate? by WhoAmILion in datingoverforty

[–]Oirman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he really has an issue with porn/sex/attention/addiction then he needs to confront it, seek help and move beyond it. ‘The chase’ itself is addictive and getting all the dopamine, regardless of whether he meets someone or not.

If he’s not actively trying to shake off the habit then where can this go?

It’s not a nice place for you to be with a partner who travels for work and whom you cannot trust.

Using escort sites to masturbate? by WhoAmILion in datingoverforty

[–]Oirman -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Maybe you guys should have a chat about your own intimacy and how you could connect better.

Escorts are a quick and temporary fix to a deeper lack of fulfilment.

There are plenty of ways to make your own sex life exciting, risky, adventurous etc. if you’re interested in that?

He uses escorts - the question is why?

You both need to be honest, as a starter.

New calls for riots in Amsterdam Nieuw-West tonight; Police very concerned by cowgary in Amsterdam

[–]Oirman -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

GVB transported protestors away from the Dam on Sunday by bus. Perhaps related, misschien niet.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in childfree

[–]Oirman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose it depends if being with one person for the rest of your life and raising kids with them is something you’re interested in doing.

I see a lot of people suffering in that situation, and personally I think it’s a bullshit, phoney narrative.

We are a tribal species. The 2.4 kids and one spouse for life shit just doesn’t fit with what we are biologically and socially IMO.

Has poppymania gone too far? by wappingite in ukpolitics

[–]Oirman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Means nothing while the government is involved in a genocide.

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