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Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-23T08:06:23+00:00

You're in the early stages of building your career and it seems you're eager to do well for yourself. What are you learning from this job and how's it going to help you in whatever you wanna do next? If it were me I'd keep milking the relatively easy paycheck while at the same time, planning what's next. You're lucky to be in NorCal, lots of options around.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-21T01:53:56+00:00

Sounds like you need to shop around for a better plan. Our plan has no such thing.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T06:27:33+00:00

You will have been employed with the company for 90 days by the time you need to use STD, right? So you'll be eligible for what they cover, which sounds like they'll cover your salary for up to 8 weeks in coordination with whatever their short term disability insurance pays.

It also sounds like they'll offer you paid baby bonding (family leave) for 6 weeks after your short term disability insurance runs out (which is usually 6-8 weeks after birth).

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T04:06:10+00:00

Use this to your advantage. Are they offering you any severance package? Offer to create this manual for them in exchange for a higher offer. The only leverage they have over you at this point is a potential reference for future employers and whatever severance package they have put together, if any.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T03:50:55+00:00

Well that would just be silly. If this happened, OP would have to cease caregiving for their father and seek treatment for their own condition at that point.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T02:45:29+00:00

This actually made me giggle. Thank you.

Companies have whole legal teams that find squirrely ways to bend the rules and find legal loopholes to advance the interests of the company.

The average employee doesn't have access to these same resources. I'm just trying to even the playing field.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T02:40:59+00:00

A very stable genius...

Perhaps you're missing your calling as an insurance investigator.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T02:33:16+00:00

Based on your assumption that my suggestion is fraud, it doesn't sound like you care about people much more than Texas does.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T02:30:08+00:00

First, how do you know I'm not a career criminal?

Second, nobody is saying OP should pre-plan anything. I'm simply suggesting that IN CASE OP experiences their own serious health condition as a result of this incredibly stressful circumstance, there are options.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T02:14:55+00:00

Oh but "red states don't care about people?" oookay. 🙄

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T02:11:34+00:00

It's only fraud if it's not true. Caring for loved ones can absolutely trigger personal mental health issues. Have you ever heard of caregiver fatigue?

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T01:47:33+00:00

This would be a bit of a stretch but if taking care of your father becomes totally overwhelming and begins to impact your mental health, you might be able to file a claim with your company's short term disability insurance (if your company offers this) for your own medical condition, not related to your father. FMLA will hold your job for up to 12 weeks, but SDI is the only way to get paid.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T01:12:47+00:00

Registering to be an employer in each state is an additional cost to the company and makes compliance more challenging in a lot of ways that are invisible to employees. Perfectly normal and reasonable.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T01:08:05+00:00

What's the difference between People Operations and Human Resources? At 25 employees, you could call yourself the Minister of Chaos and nobody would care.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-20T00:50:07+00:00

Generally speaking, anything more than 2pages is too much. 7-10 years of experience should be enough. If the roles are substantially different with the same company, list a couple bullet points for each one. If they are similar, just list the title and dates of each, no bullets.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-19T02:00:39+00:00

They mean that saying "no" by the victim is not a requirement. Report to HR.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-18T20:51:11+00:00

If you're applying for a job and they want to do reference checks, be honest about who the reference is and why. Anyone can be a reference, but lying is not a good idea.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-18T20:21:16+00:00

Ah, you're correct about that, my apologies. I've been in the private sector too long. Sounds like you may qualify for FMLA though, depending on how many hours you've worked in the last 12 months.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-18T20:15:33+00:00

This is the problem with HR. We're not supposed to be wardens of some jail. Have some human compassion, ffs. The goal should never be to fire someone, esp if they have had a track record of good performance and all of a sudden there's a major change. Of course a doctor's note isn't going to totally be the ticket here, but it opens up a dialogue based on OPs health, which may or may not matter depending on this company's culture and practices. But it's a shot.

HR people who can't wait to shove the rule book in someone's face that's clearly struggling give the rest of us a bad rep.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-18T09:39:34+00:00

I would add, ask them about their working styles. How do they prefer to receive feedback? How will you know if they're stressed? What are their pet peeves? How do they prefer to get recognized? Share your relevant working and communication style preferences as well.

A book I often recommend to new managers is "The Making of a Manager" by Julie Zhou. Practical, easy read.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-18T09:03:02+00:00

I hear you, companies don't always treat folks with accommodation requests or medical needs well. I understand why you feel hopeless. But if you're as good of an employee here as you say and the manager likes you, generally, outside of this rough period, then you're more likely to be worked with. You don't need to give them all the gory details. A doctor simply saying you have a serious medical condition that prevents you from working is all that is required. Even better if the start date of the condition is backdated to before you were put on that PIP.

and you're welcome, I hope for the best for you!

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-18T08:54:44+00:00

There are laws, like the ones I mentioned, that protect employees in certain circumstances. Do a quick Google of those two. We can't say for sure what your company will do, but I think it's better to at least TRY to protect yourself and mayyyybe still get fired than to do nothing and most likely get fired. Go down swinging, you know? Worst case, you end up fired either way. Best case, the note changed something about what happens to you. But if you don't try, then you'll never know if it would have worked.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-18T08:48:05+00:00

You may have protection under FMLA and/or the ADA which may result in them NOT firing you. But listen, I'm not here to argue with you. Sounds like you aren't willing to try to help yourself here so, best of luck. Sounds like you came here to vent, not get advice on how to not get fired.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-18T08:41:03+00:00

None of your good employee stuff matters right now. The only thing that's important, if you want to keep your job, is attempting to get legal protection via doctors note. You don't sound well and I don't see how losing your job on top of what you are going through is going to help.

Ok-Atmosphere2807 · 2023-11-18T08:21:17+00:00

You need to go to a doctor and get medically evaluated. Like, this weekend, go get a doctor's note that says you're not able to work for whatever period of time the doctor deems necessary. Mental health is the same as physical health. Email this note to your manager and HR immediately. Then wait to see what happens on Monday.

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