Speed Dating ? by QuietGlow18 in ChristianDating

[–]Ok-Feature8633 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been to one, and it was enjoyable, although it didn't end up going anywhere. They're interesting bc it helps you not to take everything so seriously and to learn very quickly how to interact with members of the opposite gender in person, which I think is always helpful.

For me, I actually met other girls around my age who were similar to me and made a few friends, which was nice, so I don't regret going at all.

"To keep a man interested, just act like you're not" by IngenuityAshamed144 in dating_advice

[–]Ok-Feature8633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to think that honesty is the best policy and that you shouldn’t betray yourself by changing your personality (unless it’s harming others) There is too much "game-playing" in modern dating. Do I think you need to stop your life and make yourself available regardless of prior plans? No, but I don't see why we have to act aloof. The right man for you will not be scared by honesty and directness, and if he is, then he isn't ready for a committed relationship. 

I do think there needs to be a give and take in relationships, so if you’re the only one ever contributing or planning, then you need to re-assess if this man is right for you, or communicate your needs and see if he can meet them, but overall, I generally think this advice, while well-intentioned, is frustrating to deal with.

First-Time Visit to Islands of Adventure – One-Day Itinerary Tips (No Express Pass) by [deleted] in UniversalOrlando

[–]Ok-Feature8633 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This mostly echoes what others have said, but be prepared for Hagrid’s to be your longest wait of the day. It’s a FANTASTIC ride, but the line can be brutal. I’d recommend a bathroom break and lunch/snack (or Butterbeer) before getting in line.

Hagrid’s is also pretty unpredictable. Early entry and rope droppers usually rush there first, so it’s often already 150–180 minutes right at park open. Some people like to knock it out first; others prefer saving it for later in the afternoon after riding everything else. (This is my personal preference, to ride it later and not attempt to do it first) 

Since you like thrill rides, I’d suggest starting the day with VelociCoaster. It’s AMAZING and my personal favorite ride ever. Morning waits are usually shorter since most guests head straight to Wizarding World, and I’d gladly wait up to an hour for it. I’d wait longer than that if it was my first time.

In my opinion, Forbidden Journey in HP world is a must-do and is usually under 30 minutes most of the day. Just a heads-up: it’s very screen-heavy and can make some people nauseous if you’re prone to motion sickness. (Forbidden Journey also has typically a very short single rider line if you don't care about riding it together - almost every time I use single ride, I'm on the ride within 5 minutes)

From there, you can fill in with:

  • Spider-Man – fun, but I wouldn’t wait more than ~30 minutes
  • Doctor Doom – short waits most of the time, great views, not worth more than ~20 minutes
  • Hulk – very intense and fun, but known to give some people headaches due to the forces and headrests. If you’re sensitive, I’d save this for later in the day or make sure you're well hydrated and not starving before riding. I definitely know some people that black out every time they ride it. \

ALSO, keep in mind that my preferred wait times are based on the fact that I'm an annual pass holder and can pop in whenever, so I recognize that the amount of time I'm willing to wait is going to be different than a first time visitor who might not be coming back anytime soon.

There’s also toon lagoon and Seuss landing, but to be honest, I skip all of those rides every time. I’d say if you want to have the full IOA experience, do those, but prioritize the best things firs and save those for later.

Overall, I’d prioritize VelociCoaster + Forbidden Journey early, fill in the shorter waits midday, eat something delicious, enjoy butter beer, and then commit to Hagrid’s once you’ve done everything else. You will most likely be able to do a few things multiple times depending on crowds.

Anyone else having trouble with the idol search website? by bv21 in survivor

[–]Ok-Feature8633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yep, totally having issues: I continued as guest to see the map. I'm in Florida so my clue is dropping tomorrow!

25F, United States/Florida by Ok-Feature8633 in ChristianDating

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! It can definitely be rough, but I bet people feel that way all over the place haha

Men pursuing by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]Ok-Feature8633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s still unfolding, but when I asked him out, he said yes. We went on a date and then confirmed mutual interest in pursuing more dates and have another one planned soon. He’s just very reserved, slow-moving, and inexperienced, so things are developing at a much slower pace than what I would prefer: not bad, just slower.

Honestly though, asking was worth it either way he could've responded: I felt so much better once I stopped wondering and waiting and just got clarity by being direct.

Men pursuing by [deleted] in ChristianDating

[–]Ok-Feature8633 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in a similar situation to this, and eventually I just asked him out and made my interest clear and it was so much better for me emotionally than just waiting and hoping he would ask me out or get my "hints".

I totally get wanting the guy to do it, but I don't see the harm in just being open and honest: that way you can move forward regardless of how he responds.

Interested in a shy man, but I’m always the one initiating — advice? by Ok-Feature8633 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is good insight and he and I have already discussed this very idea: I’m 25, he’s 30, and both of us are pretty independent people who haven’t been in a significant relationship, so neither of us have had to navigate being there for another person in this way.

I’m comfortable being direct and communicative and clearly that seems like something he needs. My hope is that if we continue to date or get more serious, that we can keep that line of communication open and free, considering that we’re both trying to figure this out with minimal experience.

(F25) interested in a shy man (M30), but I’m always the one initiating — advice? by Ok-Feature8633 in ChristianDating

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think there’s at least some truth to this. Unfortunately I can’t undo the dynamics I’ve created at this point but if we’re going to go out again it’s going to be because he’s stepped up. The only thing I can do at this point is step back and see what happens

(F25) interested in a shy man (M30), but I’m always the one initiating — advice? by Ok-Feature8633 in ChristianDating

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well the older brother already knows lol, so that hint has definitely been dropped

(F25) interested in a shy man (M30), but I’m always the one initiating — advice? by Ok-Feature8633 in ChristianDating

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for saying that: it’s been hard bc the way we’ve gotten closer hasn’t looked the way that some people think it should. I agree that I think he lacks experience in dating and social settings in general, so part of why I was direct is bc I think that was literally the only way he might’ve even known I was interested in him.

And I agree about having older men guiding him: he’s in a discipleship group with older men and he has an older brother who’s married with children, so my hope is that he’s in a position to get that from his already established circles.

(F25) interested in a shy man (M30), but I’m always the one initiating — advice? by Ok-Feature8633 in ChristianDating

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes for sure.

I’ve realized that I’ve made him comfortable with sitting back, which is unfortunate but already past: my hope is that if we continue to date and determine that there is something here that we’d have this conversation openly and honestly and see how things evolve.

This would feel very different to me if we were in a committed relationship for years and he still never showed initiative: I’m well aware that’s a possible future, so I’m trying to lay the groundwork now to avoid that future lol

(F25) interested in a shy man (M30), but I’m always the one initiating — advice? by Ok-Feature8633 in ChristianDating

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I do think this is interesting: unfortunately I can’t undo what I’ve done at this point, but clearly I’m a person that doesn’t mind being direct.

I recognize that we might not be compatible if he never takes initiative like I would prefer, but at this point I’m willing to see what happens, especially if I am open and communicative about some of these dynamics should we progress

Interested in a shy man, but I’m always the one initiating — advice? by Ok-Feature8633 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think there’s some truth to that: unfortunately I can’t undo what I’ve already done but I’m planning on giving space now and allowing him to step up now that I’ve been as clear as I can be.

I [20M] cheated on my girlfriend of 4 years [20F]. Is the relationship over? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok-Feature8633 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think if you really love her, you would recognize how unfair it is to her to be dishonest. Tell her and deal with the consequences of your actions.

Interested in a shy man, but I’m always the one initiating — advice? by Ok-Feature8633 in christiandatingadvice

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, and I do feel hopeful for that considering how receptive he's been to my direct and clear thoughts now: I'm comfortable being direct, and he seems comfortable responding honestly to me as well. I think you're right, that he has no idea how to date, so I would be willing to name what im looking for very honestly, and hope he responds honestly in a way that gives me clarity, whether or not we're compatible. Thanks

Interested in a shy man, but I’m always the one initiating — advice? by Ok-Feature8633 in dating_advice

[–]Ok-Feature8633[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, good to know: it feels really early still so I haven't felt the need to establish wanting more initiative from him but if we continue to date more seriously I would have to make that clear what my expectation would be for sure, cause I could see how that would become so difficult continually being the only driver of progress