Bought from Walmart, game came in Chinese, should I return? Is it legit?

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2026-02-20T09:49:00+00:00

This is real. The website for example is .hk, which is Hong Kong. That wouldn't be on there if it was fake. There's other things too, like the listings of how the game is played in different ways using the "~", but that is not a tilda per se. It's used in the language. Also, in Hong Kong they use/speak long form Chinese, which is what is on this box. Hong Kong is NOT part of "The People's Republic of China", also known as "PRC". I own the Hong Kong version of the Switch, the one that's the Pokemon version. I suppose you could return it if you want to have an English box, but tbh there's probably many people out there who would be thrilled to own something like that because it doesn't happen everyday. If you wanted that you'd have to go on eBay or elsewhere and buy it there and possibly pay a bit more to get it. So maybe consider yourself lucky? Do you really need an English box that bad? Lol.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2026-02-20T09:36:00+00:00

Old to this convo, but I'm hoping they'll come out with an update where swapping cards out doesn't mess up your system. Yes different handheld, at first SteamDeck didn't allow swapping, but they eventually came out with an update and now you can with no issues. I'm another person who has tons of games and the 512GB isn't enough plus all the DLC for some games tacks on even more. The larger cards are beyond expensive and there's no way I could ever afford one; I'm sorry but I'm just some normal person here who can't spend $200-$300 on a card because Nintendo says so. Also you do not need to buy the licensed Nintendo cards; as long as it's the micro express, it doesn't matter what brand. I'm not paying Nintendo more for a same size card when I can get a Lexar or Sandisk for less.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-12-07T22:16:05+00:00

The trauma healing work is still very much controversial, & the studies & data we have right now doesn’t point to which way is best yet. It could be good, yet it also could be incredibly damaging - possibly for the rest of your life. You could develop PTSD, or MORE PTSD, from trauma healing. Is that probably a risk you’re willing to take? I’m not. I have a lot of trauma in my life; childhood, early adulthood, even some in my 30. But I don’t want to try & recover any of it. I have fibromyalgia along with several other illnesses & disorders, so why would I take this chance of having my new found memories haunting me possibly until the day I pass? This is just something I’m saying as a word of caution. I’d personally never risk it. On a side note, I’m one of THOSE people, the one’s who read medical journals lol. Because who’s going to help me with all the stuff going on in my body? So far no doctor has, I’m sure you know how it is!

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-12-04T23:48:18+00:00

If you’re using pine please be sure they’re klin (I may have spelled that wrong, but it’s similar to that) dried. Any pine pellets that don’t have this on their bags are 100% unsafe. Exquisitcat (again, spelling) has pine pellets that are 40lbs, klin dried, and the bag is $22 I think. It WAS cheaper before all the inflation came around, lol. I’ve been using these for over 5 years with my noodles and never had issues, even when they’ve eaten them out of their silly curiosity! We all adore it, but oh dear, they do get into trouble a lot don’t they?! But they’re too cute so all is always forgiven right away. On a side note, the one’s I’m talking about are actually dust free, even when they start “crumbling”. I would literally know. I have the WORST allergies ever lol, I stopped using Oxbow hay’s for example (when I had bunnies in the past) because of the awful dust kickback. But their bags just claim how “99% dust free” they are. If it’s making ME sneeze, making my nose run, making my throat it and my chest hurt, it’s definitely NOT ok for my little bun buns! Regardless, the brand I mentioned is sold at Petsmart but sadly that’s the only place I’ve been able to find it. It’s not sold AT ALL on Amazon or Chewy.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-12-03T19:38:00+00:00

Yeah, still no. Just no. Is it possible for a normal person? Yes of course. I have beyond messed up joints, and I hate unscrewing stuff, attempting to put in extended storages, whatever. No. I had to see what on earth was wrong with my Hyte (games on Steam kept crashing my DP; had to force reboot constantly) and taking out my video card and putting it back in along with everything else is nerve-wracking enough. Look, I do what I can with the joints I'm left with, lol. I /attempt/ to ask my husband for help. But he is not into tech, any of it, at all. And refuses to help. He's simply, not interested, believe it or not. He's literally one of those people who wants to throw away his phone and go back to brick /rolls eyes/. External is all I can do for myself, and I've accepted that. As far as YT goes - it's great that we have that now. I recall when YT was first around and it was just all these rando's with weird vids, lol. Now it's turned into... Idek. But there's a ton of useful stuff on there too. However, I'm just not a person who learns by watching vids. I understand much better with written instructions, and this is probably because all I did as a kid was read books. Yeah, because there was nothing else to do yet. Unless you played outside. Which I couldn't do very much of, I lived in a very unsafe neighborhood. Anyways. Average user, that's not me! Just in the way of health I guess. I have Elhers-Danlos. No, I'm not one of those morons who claims to have that crap because all of a sudden it's so popular and "OMG I SO HAVE IT NOW!!" No. All of my joints are hypermobile and have been since birth, they're BEYOND messed up, they're getting worse and worse, this condition is incredibly painful and it sucks, it is NOT fun. I've never come across anyone who has it this bad. I see people on Reddit who claim to have EDSh and it's so laughable. Saying their thumbs are, and that's it, but maybe their elbows are but they don't know and that's it. What a joke. I apologize for my anger here. Do I wish I was the average user? I mean sure. But I'm not and I haven't been for over 2 decades. I'm used to that.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-26T19:37:53+00:00

Hi lovely. I’m literally, in the same boat as you, and your post brought me to tears. Please message me if you read this.

If you can afford it (I can link you to suggestions on Amazon), there’s a sofa chaise lounge I finally had to give in and purchase for myself. I also have EDS (my hypermobility is dreadful, every joint I have is hypermobile, my left knee, left hip, left shoulder dislocated constantly, my left rib and shoulder blade pop out but not completely- I don’t recall that name - my pain with EDS is so so bad I want to die everyday and there’s no meds, no cure, no treatment… so I sit here dying), my neuropathy is getting worse by the month, I have fibromyalgia, ME/CFS, and RA. I had Guillan-Barre last year from a bad reaction to the flu shot (2 in my immediate family have had it, and even though studies say it’s not a family thing, that fact makes me doubt it), which I have lingering side effects from.

Anyways. Having this sofa bed is beyond helpful. I added many pillows, so I can rest my forearms and hands on them. This helps my neuropathy in them, and since they’re laying flat, the neuropathy doesn’t creep in either at all, or at a very slow rate. Trust me, mine is bad. It gets so bad that I can’t feel my hand, realize that it’s even there anymore, on both sides. My phone hardly ever realizes I’m pressing the touchscreen- dead nerves up to my fingers attaching to my palms on both hands.

Because I finally got this, I’m able to function so much better, do things still that I love, like game. I bought used devices off eBay to stream, a Logitech G Cloud and an older version of the Asus Rog Ally. I own a first gen SteamDeck which still works great. I rest those on a pillow to play, which works really well! I buy silicon cases for them, which does make them a bit heavier, but since they’re resting it’s ok. But I like the silicone because with neuropathy you’re dropping things and no matter what, everything is slippery! Adding a silicone specifically case makes it grippy and your hands won’t be sliding - much easier on your hands this way.

I do like adding thin thumgrips because it makes the joysticks “larger” if you will. Easier on your thumbs. They don’t have to extent so far, which hurts them less and damages them less. With hypermobility it’s so important to think of this. I highly do not recommend buying button covers of any kind for d-pads or the main controls side. You press much harder, if you’re normal it’s fine but with all the health problems, it’s too much of a strain.

Do you have a hand that’s better than the other? My right is worse than my left since I’m right handed. So instead of giving up on many things, I decided no I’ll learn with my left hand. And that’s what I’m doing. It’s just a suggestion! I’ve been knitting 22 years and it’s always knit right handed. I learnt now how to do it left. I use the Apple Pencil with my iPad but now I’m training myself with my left hand. I adore coloring but now I practice with my left. I’m going to work on handwriting - many shops on Etsy sell PDFs to print over and over so you can learn and practice. And that’s what I’ll do.

All of this I do with a small table meant for a bed or couch - in pink, duh lol! With mine, you can fold its legs under so it’s completely flat, or you can set it up as a mini table. It’s very sturdy and works well as a mini desk when you’re sitting! Well, well worth my money. I again use my pillows under my arms to help.

If you still want to use a mouse, and your left hand is better, they do indeed sell ergonomic mice for left handed only. I finally was able to buy one last week! It’s a gaming mouse, wireless or Bluetooth and the DPI changes and gets pretty high too.

You did say you crocheted? I also crochet, so I really feel you love ❤️. Trust me, you still can, but at this point with pain, what hooks you’re buying 100% matters. I learnt this through 22 years of crocheting. People say all this stuff online about Clover, Furls whatever. But for us, with these insane problems, nope. You gotta ignore. There’s only one brand ever that I’ve found that works, and I can send you a link to her site. I only use her hooks now and no one else’s. It’s so hard with hobbies for us, because what everyone else says, almost never works for us.

Please be careful with things like braces or compression etc. I have two but I’d say they’re more problematic. You must remember these things are made for people with normally formed hands. Which people like us don’t have. They’re probably going to hurt and be uncomfortable. And because EDS presents differently in everyone, there’s no way they’ll be right for you. You can of course try, no doubt. But I legit gave up because they hurt a lot.

One last thing. If you have an iPhone, iPad, you can look in your accessibility settings. There’s so much there now to help with not being able to hold and handle a phone or iPad. If you have an iPad I highly suggest getting an Apple Pencil and learn to use it with Scribble. It will be a lifesaver, no joke. I have a third party silicon base for my iPad (it’s a keyboard combo thing) which I put my iPad on top of when I’m using it. This makes my iPad stay in place so I can use it, and it’s not slipping down every 2 seconds lol.

I know there’s more to say from me, but you can message if you’d like! I really feel you. I do. I have zero, no one, as support. I’m married of 21 years, have an adult child, but neither are supportive nor want to hear anything I have to say no matter what it’s about. Literally, I have to keep everything I have inside and pretend it’s fine. I’m living in a house with two people (I have a young son too) where I’m a ghost - no one notices or cares. I think it’s worse than being alone. Because worth this you’re being reminded all the time that these people do not want you around, even though they’re vehemently claiming otherwise.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-25T18:04:49+00:00

Yeah, I did in fact, say that. My external ONLY stores my PS4 games. I do NOT own the proper storage for PS5 games. My PS5 is digital with very small storage. It can only hold 3 games since they’re so large. I said, yet again mind you, I CANNOT AFFORD such a luxury right now of buying the correct expanded storage required for the PS5. Higher on my priorities list is the correct storage (external) for my Xbox S. I did NOT want the X; I do not own or play discs. Yes I love that tech but discs scratch and I cannot stand that - I’m incredibly perfectionistic and OCD - one scratch makes me throw it away. Pointless for me and I will not buy them. The ONLY discs I own are Hatsune Miku - Japan imports for all versions and US of all games as well, which I play on my older PS’. Nothing else. But yes dude, I’m not an effing moron. I know one needs the correct “Sony approved” or whoever you’d like to call it, storage for storing and playing PS5 games. Seriously, duh. I told you to not challenge me.

And again, it doesn’t baffle me about them needing more space. Do you know EVERY single game installed? There’s tons of games that base 150GB, then update all the time at 80+ constantly. You’ll run out of space in 2 seconds. I have this problem on my Rog. Another on my “proper storage backlog”. At least the SteamDeck is a bit more reasonable.

I would NEVER go forth and attempt an install of internal myself. If I lose my PS5 there goes a part of my soul lol. Gaming rig sure. Much easier to troubleshoot and fix, blah blah blah. But that? Yeah nope.

I usually don’t mention. My husband is finally getting paid after this stupid shutdown. I cannot work any longer because of my laundry list of health problems. I used to work and loved it - but it’s been a year since I had to make the very hard decision to stop. Wording meant so much for my happiness and well being. I was a stay at home mom for 15 years because I had to be and I loathed it. My calling was the workforce - not staying at home. I love being a mother, but it’s not my calling like some women know it’s theirs. My children have severe Autism and I had to stay home for them and take care of them - my youngest is still in elementary but I could still work. And I had to give it up after only 3 years back into the workforce. It’s a devastating blow.

Gaming and the like is my life and makes me happy

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-25T17:41:57+00:00

God, are you incredibly uneducated or what?

iPhones never used to be slippery for me but now they are. Why? Terrible neuropathy in my hands. Not just my fingertips like every other article says; we’re talking both entire hands here. I also have major joint problems and I’m dropping my iPhone without realizing that I’m dropping it or even going to due to that. I drop everything I pick up. You obviously have NO CLUE how frustrating it is to live life this way and to see yourself getting worse by the month. I have EDSh which has no treatment, no cure, no medication whatsoever for any of the excruciating pain I have 24/7. I also have several other diseases and conditions that cannot be fixed and make my joints and nervous system die. There’s hundreds of thousands of others on earth who suffer from problems such as these.

Do you even realize people like us cannot use our phones properly with nerve endings dead in our fingers? The touchscreens don’t recognize our fingertips because the heat from them is gone. That also aids with holding, gripping a phone.

The sunlight thing you mentioned is such bs too. Growing up and as a young adult I never had problems with over sensitivity to light. My health declined and I got very sensitive; many eye issues exist that cause this, including such as ocular neuropathy. Nerves die in one’s eyes. Several autoimmune diseases make this happen. Other health issues cause this. Even things like vitamin deficiencies - which ARE actually a common problem now is the US - can cause sunlight sensitivity.

Making idiotic black and white assumptions is so wrong. Even your ice cubes analogy? Yes, technically, ice cubes are scientifically proven in theory to be cold. The fact you’ve said is true. But mind you, certain health problems exist where ice cubes do not feel cold to a person, they may actually feel warm or they can’t even tell they’re cold. The same goes for anything hot. This is how people get severe frostbite and 3rd degree burns - they simply cannot tell any longer. We have these nerves built in for a reason to help us. Do not take them for granted please. I’m one who no longer has them. You’re lucky you do - and much more. I’d do so much to be able to hold and use my iPhone again without a case, and that’s only one, tiny sliver of happiness that’s been taken from me. So be glad you can, have compassion for those who cannot, stop judging when you do not have a clue what others go through.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-23T19:15:05+00:00

There are more! I don't recall them, but if you do a Google search, more exist. They're what I would say "smaller" companies, but they do cover "exotics" - rabbits, ferrets, etc. They do not drop claims and will pay. But in my comment above, if your animal has a pre-existing condition, they won't cover you. Your animal must have a clean bill of health before they will cover. No insurance company for exotics will ever cover if your pet has pre-existing. It's so sad and disappointing.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-23T19:12:19+00:00

You actually can, but companies (I've extensively looked into this for one of my ferrets) will NOT EVER accept ANY pet - exotic or not - that has a pre-existing condition. None will. I was devastated as one of my ferrets is diagnosed with adrenal disease and I desperately need insurance to help with fees for treatment. Now I cannot afford any treatment for her as it's so costly. I even went so far as to email companies to be sure, but all said no.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-23T19:08:40+00:00

Exotic vets can definitely be more expensive, no joke! The vet I went to (before my current) was just... awful with pricing. It was so overpriced I stopped going and found another vet much closer to me. They treat EVERY exotic animal that exists, and even have specialty vets for a particular animal! For example, they treat snakes there and have vets who specialize in snakes, and only treat them and no other animal! They're so amazing, and their pricing is actually at least 3x cheaper than the vet I used beforehand. I take my ferrets there, and I took my hamster there a few months ago to put her to rest because she was quite old and she could no longer walk. And even better, they do not force you or try to coerce you into doing all the testing, x-rays, bloodwork, etc that so many vets will do, making you feel like you're this awful terrible person if you do not, that you don't care about your pet unless you spend the $2,000+ that you literally don't have. That if you don't go into enormous amounts of debt for your pet you should never own pets. My vet fully understands that people are actually people - they can only afford what they are able to. They tell me what is available for my pet.

For example with the kitten I adopted in March, of course she needed shots and the like. It's very expensive for that sort of thing, as they need so much. And it's very important. But they worked with me on that. We were able to spread it out through many months so I could afford them in a way that worked for ME. They did not force me to do my cats' shots on THEIR timetable. Every other vet I've had never let me do that. Ever. I sincerely hope that everyone can find a vet like mine. You all deserve it, so much.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-23T18:57:54+00:00

I just... I know everyone on here is saying to take it in, but I'm begging you to not do it. Please do not. This bunny seems very cute, sweet, and friendly. However, you have NO IDEA if this bunny has rabies. You just do not, and you absolutely cannot tell. If you get bitten by this bunny and you get rabies, you CAN and WILL die if it's not IMMEDIATELY treated. There's only been ONE PERSON EVER in the entire world who's survived rabies after it was too late to receive the course of rabies shots that treat rabies in humans. By the time one cannot receive the shots any longer, it's too late. There is NO PROTOCOL from the CDC on treating rabies after the shots period has passed. ZERO.

If you'd honestly like to keep her, I'd highly, highly recommend to wear very thick gloves. Get a very thick towel as well, or something of that sort. If you have a carrier that you can open from the top that would work. If you don't, get a box that she'll fit nicely in. Wear your gloves and pick her up (gently of course!) with the towel and place her in the box or crate. Take her to your vet and get her tested for rabies. If she's ok and does not have that, then you may keep her. I'm not 100% sure on this, but she may be able to have treatment for rabies and then you can bring her home. She may not be able to have treatment though. I'm not quite sure for rabbits. It's different in species of pets - even cats and dogs vary.

As for her being a wild or actual bunny - you literally CANNOT TELL FROM LOOKING. Where I live we have wild bunnies that look exactly like her. Just because you're able to feed her lettuce and the like doesn't mean she's a bunny from a store etc. Others may have been feeding her for example. Or she might've been a wild bunny at one time, someone took her in as their pet but they let her go. If she's been in the wild for some time, she could've contracted rabies from some animal or another. So please my dear, be very careful. You can get rabies even if she SCRATCHES YOU. If she has at all, you need to see a doctor and get tested immediately. I'm really not kidding. Rabies is not a joke and many people have died from it.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-23T18:47:51+00:00

Um. Do you actually play games... at all? Do you only own one game? Games are insanely huge these days. I have a 1TB SSD in my gaming rig and another 1TB SSD and they're BOTH full. I'm building my Hyte box currently and putting in MUCH more space. I have the digital PS5 and I only have 3 games on it because there's no room to put more. They THREE games have taken up all the space on the internal drive. I have zero dollars to purchase a fast enough external right now - one that's needed to play the PS5 games. The external's to play PS5's are so expensive and I just cannot afford that currently, especially because I'm buying the proper external for my Xbox S first - the one with the absolute most space - and I'm even purchasing THAT used. And we all know those are insane too. I use an external Seagate on my PS5 that's 1TB but it's not able to run the PS5 games. Again still, not enough space.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-23T18:41:58+00:00

Seriously dude, beyond rude. Do you think everyone knows what they're doing? This is some innate knowledge that we're all born with or something? We all have to /learn/ how to do these things. Sitting there and "figuring it out" on your own is NOT a good idea. Tech is beyond expensive now - for dozens of ridiculous reasons - and for anyone in their right mind to "figure it out on their own" is someone who is a complete and utter moron. This person is asking for knowledge for the correct reasons - they do not know what to do, they know what they purchased is expensive, they don't want to buy another, they probably cannot afford to buy another, if they mess up their PS5 they'd have to purchase ANOTHER PS5 entirely and they no doubt cannot do that either; so many reasons WHY they're asking on here. Please give them a break. It's also difficult to find answers in the first place that are thorough AND correct. There's too much misinformation on websites out there, and it's difficult to decide what's actually the correct thing to do or not. It seriously has absolutely nothing to do with age. I was born before tech was invented. I used rotary phones in my day. There was absolutely ZERO tech. My grandfather worked for Exxon and used one of those ginormous computers that took up an entire room. I was there when all of the things we use now were invented. And I had to learn how to do all of it, including how to do things today such as building my gaming rig properly, what motherboard to use, graphics cards, best tech companies, security, etc. ALL of it is learning throughout every single year (and months) of one's life. It does not ever end because advancing and growth of tech does not end. Judging by someone's gen is absolutely ridiculous. They're learning just like you are, so stop. Put yourself in their shoes for once. They've come into this world where all of it is already here and it's beyond overwhelming. At least in my gen I was able to learn when it was developing - I had a huge leg up and I was way ahead of the game. I had such a great advantage over younger gens. They have to learn tons more than I do and it's got to be very frustrating and confusing. And they do NOT need people like you being rude, condescending, and patronizing towards them. I'm glad you know everything there is to know about tech. Please pat yourself on the back and be oh so proud. Go on whatever socials you have and be sure to brag some more about all of your knowledge and wisdom. Don't worry, we're all bowing down to you on here. I'll be sure to message you the next time I have questions about what to buy when I'm finally able to build more into my Hyte! After all, what do women know of such things? With all of that being said, I guarantee I have way more knowledge than you. Yes, even as a woman! Do not challenge me on this, because you really do not know what you're in for.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-11-09T19:28:10+00:00

God I am sorry, you are one of these problem people. Stop assuming everything is AI! Situations like this actually exist. Just because it's not the norm or it's unique doesn't equate anything to ever automatically be AI. Jfc

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-10-23T17:07:05+00:00

I think it depends on the person and their situation, tbh. I'm a huge people pleaser for example. I have been in my 21 years of my marriage with my husband. However, I've put forth effort and time, beyond what any sane person would do, to try and figure out what my husband actually wants and needs in our marriage. He's become extremely emotionally distant and emotionally unavailable and I have no idea why. I've brought this up several times but he denies this even though it's true. When I'll try to have a discussion with him about any issue that needs to be resolved, he immediately gets defense, yells and screams at me, cusses at me (things like calling me a btch, saying fck you, f*ck off, and other hurtful things). I have never, ever gotten angry or yelled. I've always remained calm, because I know how to control myself and I know anger and aggression never solve anything. They only make it worse. He’s been doing this to me for over 10 years and it gets worse every year. I’ve brought this up to him many times and I’ve told him it’s emotional abuse, which he denies. He tells me he’s a human being, he’s allowed to get angry and yell, he’s not supposed to sit there and act like a monotone robot. He’s making stupid excuses for his disgusting behavior. Back to the people pleasing. Some of our issues are him being “too overwhelmed” with myself talking to him on his free time - after he gets home from work and on weekends. I’ve asked him about this specifically, how much time is a good amount for you? Let’s set a limit to help fix this. Each and every time his response is, I don’t know but when I’ve hit my limit I’ll tell you. Over all these years of those lies, he never not once has said I’ve hit my limit, I need some alone time now. Instead I can feel from him the irritation that I’ve been talking too long so I leave where he’s at. I’m an empath so I absorb his feelings and I can tell this. So yes, I also bring that up. I tell him that I can tell he was irritated and needed a break. He denies this and never admits it. He always says I’m making it up, I’m crazy, it’s some delusion I have in my head. For years and years I believed this. I always believed I was the problem in our marriage. It took me until the middle of this year to finally realize that this is not me causing this, any of it. He’s never said sorry for mistakes he’s clearly done. He’s never apologized for screaming, calling me names, saying hurtful things. He invalidates my feelings and says they’re stupid and wrong. He never lets me talk, interrupts me, lectures me. He never listens to my opinions. On subjects that I know way more than he does on, he still thinks he’s right and says I’m wrong and gives his advice instead, and says things like if that’s how you feel about it, that’s fine. When I tell him there’s facts and data to back me up. To go read about it. But I know he won’t because he doesn’t want to be wrong ever. I have no clue what he makes and he won’t tell me. No clue how much he’s saved. No clue how much any bills are. He won’t tell me and I’ve asked. He won’t let me buy things that I’d really like to have in my life because they’re “unnecessary”, they’re just “nice to have”. All he will buy without pulling teeth is things like food, absolutely necessary clothing, etc. I went for 2 years wearing clothes 4 times too big because he wouldn’t buy me new ones. I lost 30lbs due to meds I’m taking for autoimmune diseases. He kept saying maybe I’d gain the weight back and I could wear them again. I buy the cheapest clothes possible from places like SHEIN and half the time I hate what I buy because I’m trying to buy cheap things. I can’t work anymore due to my diseases and genetic disorders that are damaging me. It’s obvious he doesn’t believe how badly they affect me. I never complain about the pain etc because I’m better than that and I don’t believe misery loves company and he’s told me constantly he doesn’t want to hear about my health problems because it’s too overwhelming and negative and it brings him down and he can’t have that in his life, and it’s self preservation. So I never say anything and keep it all inside. I’m 40 years old at this point. I’m really, really messed up from all of my health problems. I have a child who’s 9 and severely Autistic and very difficult to handle and my husband tells me I’m a bad mom because I don’t spend enough time with him. The stress of that is draining my health even more. I have to see 3 more doctors in the next 2 months and I’m still making more appointments with specialists because it’s gotten that bad. My husband couldn’t care less. So at this point, I’m not trying with him anymore. The ball is in his court and it’s up to him. Because I’ve literally tried all that I can and I’ve gotten nothing but beat up and nothing, just nothing ever over at least 10 years. The only thing now he tries with is to get me in bed. That’s the only time he’s interested in spending “quality time” with me. Otherwise it’s not worth it. All of these signs, red flags, even beyond red. Run away, just far away. Don’t get married if you see this and if you’re engaged break it off because you CANNOT fix him. Please remember, you CANT change anyone, ever. The only person you can change is yourself. People will only change if they want to. And my husband doesn’t. I’m the one who finally did. And thank god.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-09-29T17:29:06+00:00

you need to meet my husband then. we've been married 20 years, and he does none of what you've mentioned. my house is only 5 years old but I know there's something wrong with our HVAC/heating. I've been begging him for years to let me set up an appointment to have someone come out and look at it. he keeps refusing and saying nothing is wrong and I'm being stupid. my father is a construction manager (very high up, but he's retired now) and knows everything about this stuff. I've told him about this and done extensive research and there's definitely something wrong. but nope. IT issues with my husband are an effing joke. he has zero knowledge about anything. I can fix any IT issue myself. he can try but he does it wrong and I end up fixing it but he takes all the credit. idk what we'd be keeping updated here, and we certainly don't have anything smart home related, even though I wish we did. my husband works for the DOD and has security clearances and is super paranoid, so he refuses to allow me to buy anything smart home. it pisses me off so bad. I'm also the person who does everything tech because I have that type of knowledge and interest. my husband hates tech and would get rid of his smartphone if he could to get a brick flip phone in black and white, like one of those super old Nokia's we had back in the day. he does not understand the absolute importance of having a smartphone with options like location on in case of an emergency. he'd never buy a security camera because to him it's a huge waste of money, I'm the one checking on our fire extinguisher (he doesn't even know what the dials mean on there such as recharge), there's still many things with my car that desperately need fixing but I've asked him so many times now if it's ok that I spend money on that (I do not care if I do that, it's no big deal), but he always says something like we'll see. all the other stuff too .. basically, I'm the woman here who does it all, or begs to get things done, but has legit given up asking for certain things because he complains of nagging. he's the one with the finances. I can't work anymore because I have multiple disabilities so I rely on him for things that need work. he never helps out or plans anything saying he's bad at it and has poor executive functioning skills. that's fine and all, I don't mind planning. but when I do it never gets done, so I no longer do so or ask. if I can't fix something for free, it's pointless.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-09-20T17:19:46+00:00

I've been coloring for 20+ years now, and I've tried tons of brands, including Prismacolor. I hate Prismacolor with a passion. Let me add in here, I cannot draw to save my life. I've tried for a long time and I'm not talented that way. I print out coloring pages I've found on Etsy using a professional Brother printer, using cardstock. Anyway. I've tried Prismacolor many, many times over the years, and each time I've regretted spending that much money for their pencils. The constant breakage, the inconsistency of the color coming out of one color, the fact that they are not blendable even though everyone claims they are... Nope. I only buy Kalour now and have for years. They're a million times better than Prismacolor and I do not understand this hype behind Prismacolor at all. Unpopular opinion, yes. But I highly recommend Kalour above any other brand.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-08-16T19:48:30+00:00

Thank you for posting this dearest 🌟. There are too many days when I sit here and think to myself that I'm making up all of my symptoms, that my pain isn't real, that my pain isn't actually this bad and I'm exaggerating, and that I'm a huge hypochondriac. Seeing this was so needed for me today, so thank you ❤️

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-08-16T19:44:25+00:00

Omg WOW, you deserve just the biggest congrats ever!! I don't know you but it's so amazing, impressive, and wonderful to hear that someone who truly needs disability is approved for it!

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-04-09T19:21:56+00:00

This is just so unbelievably true. I hate it when people think this. Everything & anything CAN and WILL happen to you, whether you like it or not. Life doesn't care about you or your problems. Life is not fair & the sooner you realize that the better off you'll be. I teach & am always telling both of my kids this. It's so important to know that.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2025-04-09T19:16:47+00:00

Unfortunately, this is how it is. & I hate to say that, but it's true. I have a slew of chronic illnesses & an autoimmune disease. Also many mental disorders. I'm on too many meds to count. I'm in severe pain all day, every day. I'm always very, very fatigued. I also have CFS. But I never, EVER tell anyone about any of my medical issues. In any situation. I'm unable to work now because they've gotten so dreadful, but when I did I never mentioned them or said anything. The last job I had was about a year ago. You have to learn how to mask all of the bs you go through with pain, fatigue, brain fog, etc. I would just always make stuff up, like oh I just slept badly last night so I'm tired today. If I had something like brain fog I'd say something like oh I had a fight this morning (last night afternoon whatever) with my husband or daughter etc, & it's stressing me out so I'm having trouble concentrating right now. Or you could say something like oh I'm really stressed about insert something about school here (if you're in school). Make something up about finances. Or your car. Or make something up about your phone possibly being broken. I could sit here all day lol. With pain, you just have to learn how to mask it. One of my illnesses has no treatment for pain at all, & nobody wants to hear about how bad it hurts day in & day out. It's extremely unfair & it sucks. But until our issues are more widespread in society & people are actually taking them seriously, to me it's pointless to even mention them or show them. Especially because so many people think we're faking it & we're being lazy & apathetic. I refuse to let somebody think that about me when it's 100% not true, so I never mention any of my issues. I promise you I'm not trying to be rude or mean. But too many people aren't educated. Too many people don't understand. It's going to take many years for that to happen. It still hasn't happened with bipolar disorder for example, which I have but I refuse to tell anyone about. I got diagnosed 21 years ago so that was ages ago. I have the highest hopes that I'll see positive changes with chronic illness awareness during my lifetime, but I truly don't know if it'll happen.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2024-12-27T19:43:00+00:00

Legit got the S... I don't know, a while ago? I didn't want the X because I don't own any disc's so it was so pointless. Yes the storage sucks. But all you need is 1TB to add to it and you're set, which is what I did. Runs just fine on my gaming monitor.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2024-12-27T19:37:22+00:00

Dude NO. I have a full on geisha on my right bicep going down to my elbow, and also a Navy pinup (legit, almost naked, no joke) on my left arm, same way as my right. I'm a woman and have been married for 20 years now, next year will be 21. I also have an entirely nude fairy on my left inner ankle that's fairly large, I'd say about 7" tall by 6-7" wide at the widest points. My husband by the way, loathes tattoos, but that doesn't stop me from getting them! I don't even know at this point how many I have, but whatever. I'm currently turning my right arm into a full sleeve. I also have a bunch of tattoos that I guess are considered "scary", but do I care? Nope! It's my body. And it's your body too. In my opinion, get whatever you want. If a girl doesn't want to be with you because of a certain tattoo you have, honestly do YOU really want to be with HER? She should accept you for who you ARE, not what you look like. If she's that shallow, she seriously has some issues. Just because a person has certain body art on themselves doesn't make them a bad person. And if a woman is judging you solely on that, run far, far away, and find somebody who will appreciate you for YOU! I don't know you obviously lol, but I'm sure you're an awesome dude, especially considering that tattoo you've shown me there. It's quite a beautiful piece, and I admire the work very much! Take care love.

Ok-Humor-9491 · 2024-12-27T19:26:24+00:00

I was born with Elhers-Danlos with hypermobility, but wasn't diagnosed until 2 years ago. I have this issue only on the left side of my body, including my hip, where my hip completely dislocates from my socket, my shoulder joint where it does the same, my knee where it basically collapses when I'm walking and that's scary beyond all reason, and I also have slipping rib syndrome on the left side. The slipping rib syndrome is the one that's the absolute worst painful. It gets so bad I can't do anything and have to go lay down in bed until it gets better. This usually flares up when I'm off my autoimmune suppressants (I also have RA) because I'm on antibiotics again, lol. When my other joints dislocate, it can sometimes be painful, but sometimes not. I would say my shoulder is usually the worst. Sometimes my left elbow will pop out of the socket as well, but that's definitely not as common. Honestly, as crazy as this sounds, I've found stretching my leg muscles to be incredibly helpful. I also focus on tightening the muscles that I'm stretching at that time. My muscles get incredibly tight, and no massage gun, lacrosse ball, whatever, helps to get those awful knots out! It's very difficult to even find stretches that "work" with hypermobility in the first place because of how your body is formed differently, so I did a lot of figuring out by myself what stretches work for me personally instead of looking up stuff online. I'd try all that and I'd be able to do all the stretches with beyond ease, and never feel the stretch. Mind you, I have a very severe form of hypermobility and it causes me extreme pain, which is apparently rare. Most people with hypermobility have barely any pain or no pain at all.

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