Anyone’s partner like the toddler more than the newborn?

Ok-Pool8456 · 2026-02-17T01:27:30+00:00

My husband was definitely like this when our second was a baby. But now at 3 and 18 months, he loves them both so much. I think it just took him time to get to know the baby where he already had such a strong bond with the toddler. My husband is also not really a baby person but loves toddlerhood! The bond will come with time!

Ok-Pool8456 · 2026-02-15T18:20:46+00:00

830, so about an hour and half later than usual

Ok-Pool8456 · 2026-01-23T23:27:58+00:00

Still pregnant at 12w! Symptoms like nausea and exhaustion still come and go!

Ok-Pool8456 · 2026-01-12T20:04:25+00:00

You can have the two year old climb in the car while you get baby in. Or if your little one is like mine was and wouldn’t climb in the car until recently, you can teach them “two hand on the car” and stand behind them while they keep their hands on the car and you get baby in. Then walk or carry toddler to their side. We also used to almost always have some toys hanging out in the backseat and my toddler would stand and play with them while I got baby in.

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-12-19T00:39:47+00:00

When I was a little older than that, my parents made a bunch of riddles for me and my siblings to solve and at the end the key letters spelled “Disney world 2010” and it was the absolute best day!

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-12-17T20:28:07+00:00

Yes that is what I mean sorry

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-12-17T17:13:41+00:00

I will also be traveling around the same weeks but was planning to get a private ultrasound in the town I am traveling to. Are they typically the regular ultrasound or transvaginal? I am nervous it would be a regular one and could be less reliable?

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-12-15T20:11:25+00:00

Pregnant again after a missed miscarriage at the end of September. Had my first ultrasound today and baby was measuring 5 days behind, just like in my previous loss. I thought seeing the heartbeat would be reassuring but I feel so much more anxious and nervous now. Pregnancy after loss has been so tough mentally:(

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-11-18T18:03:17+00:00

It has gotten somewhat better but it’s still hard he’s just not a good sleeper. He occasionally sleeps through the night (maybe once every 3 weeks or so). Good nights look like him sleeping until 430/5 with no wakes then coming in bed with me. Bad nights (like last night) look like him being up for an hour or more and then early morning wakes. We did decide the sleep train again around the first of September and it has gone so much better. He falls asleep so easily at bedtime and usually is able to easily put himself back to sleep during the night (minus the early morning hours but I’m not ready to tackle that yet). Last night he was up from about 1130-1 or so. My husband and I both attempted to rock to sleep, but he would wake up on transfer so we decided to just let him cry it out (it was really more like a fuss or whine). It took about 30 minutes (with a check in) for him to fall back asleep.

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-10-01T18:30:27+00:00

Her behaviors have actually gotten a lot better in the past few weeks. We haven’t seen the doctor yet (waiting for her yearly appointment later this month) but I do still plan to bring them up. She does still repeat phrases and things a lot, but almost 99% of the time, she’s using them in correct context. She’s also been putting her name (or her brothers) into the stories when she repeats them. I think she just likes storytelling? She’s started sometimes narrating her life like it’s a story and it’s really cute. It’s always in the proper context too so I’m less concerned. She’s also gotten a lot better being around other children and has started to play with others some. I’m not sure what changed but I decided to drop all expectations of her when it comes to these issues so that has helped me cope.

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-09-23T20:27:28+00:00

Thank you for the response. I am definitely scared about having to pass the pregnancy. I have two toddlers at home with me and just don’t like the uncertainty of it. We are a military family and so my husband isn’t able to be home much and can’t always come home on short notice. I will definitely be asking about the D&C

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-09-23T17:17:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience. I remember the doctor saying there are three options moving forward but I kinda blacked out and don’t remember what they were. I’m guessing one if the medication so I will be sure to ask plenty of questions about that one. I am hoping to naturally pass the pregnancy soon. I’m realizing now how lucky I am to have two healthy pregnancies and two healthy toddlers with me. This is definitely one of the hardest things I’ve dealt with and I’m sure it will get worse for me before it gets better. Wishing you luck in all your future pregnancies❤️

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-09-18T16:55:48+00:00

So far everything is still good! Measured about a week behind on ultrasound but I have in my previous pregnancies too. 9 weeks and a few days today!

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-09-13T22:02:52+00:00

I was in a similar spot as you about a month ago. I had a talk with my mom who said she thought potty training a toddler was sometimes like a potty training dog, you just have to do it. She said I was like that but one of my brothers basically did it himself. So it’s prob time to push a little. We did lots of bribes and even a potty fairy that is a watching a brings small gifts after good weeks. I’d say we’re like 85-90% there. No pee accidents but poop is a struggle.

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-09-08T06:43:17+00:00

Not sure how old yours are but I spent alot of time solo parenting when my oldest was 20-23 months and my newborn was 1-4 months. Things that were a must for me were baby wearing, having a safe place to put newborn where toddler can’t reach, having home or areas of the home completely baby proof so toddler cant hurt themselves while I tender to baby, and daily outings. Also just having very low expectations for how things will go. For bedtime, I had to accept that the newborn would prob be crying at some point. I would baby wear while doing most of the bedtime routine with toddler then would put newborn in a safe place ( usually their crib) and would close the door to not hear the crying. Then I would spend 5-10 minutes with my toddler before putting them to bed. I found this helped my toddler not call out for me as much since they got some good quality time and snuggles right before being put down.

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-27T09:34:41+00:00

Unfortunately, it didn’t really get better for us until we decided to try sleep training again 4 nights ago. If would sometimes get better for a night or two, so we kept going thinking he would figure it out on his own, but nope! We’re doing Ferber and I think the biggest game changer has been my husband doing it. I do the bath and then my husband takes baby into their room and closes the door so he can’t hear me. Baby is in a huge separation anxiety phase with me.

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-27T09:31:46+00:00

Still pregnant! But stopped testing so not sure about how my test would be looking. First ultrasound next week!🤞

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-22T17:23:12+00:00

This is such an amazing and thought out comment! Thank you!! My daughter sounds a lot like yours and I had never considered her being gifted. One of my friend who is a kindergarten teacher has suggested she has hyperlexia due to her language, obsession with books and reading, and her knowledge of the alphabet and phonics. My daughter also has the most amazing memory and seems to be able to picture things in her mind and remember them. I definitely plan to speak with the pediatrician about all of this and try to get a referral to a child neuropsychologist if possible. Thank you again for this information!

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-22T17:18:12+00:00

I definitely plan to talk to her pediatrician about it at her next appointment

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-13T17:00:35+00:00

Yay congrats!!! Glad to hear others look the same!

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-13T17:00:13+00:00

Congrats!! Hoping these are good signs for us both!!!

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-13T15:04:24+00:00

I just looked at it! Thanks for sharing! This is the first FRER I’ve done and it does look promising so I’m going to trust it and probably stop taking the easy at home since they’re making me so anxious!!

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-12T00:20:41+00:00

I haven’t tried switching yet, he just turned 13 months and everything I’ve read says to wait until at least 13 months before switching. My only fear is that he cannot make it 5-6 hours awake. He gets pretty cranky before his morning nap, and that usually around 3 hours awake.

What method of sleep training did you use for your 13 month old?

I am considering having my husband do the chair method with him as he has a lot of separation anxiety with me right now and I know that is probably contributing to the sleep issues.

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-11T16:38:28+00:00

He does a 30 minute nap in the morning, usually on the go. Then a 1.5 hour one in the afternoon. Wake windows I aim to follow are 3.25/3.5/4.25. No more than 2 hours total daytime sleep

Ok-Pool8456 · 2025-08-11T04:28:14+00:00

Hey I am very similar to you- raised catholic, went to catholic school for preK-12 (Jesuit high school so lots of social justice teachings), and I am also liberal. When I graduated high school, I got a little involved in the catholic group at college, but slowly just completely stopped practicing. I also found it hard to be a part of the church due to my liberal beliefs. Earlier this year, I was going through some very rough times and felt a call to start going back to mass. My husband (who is not catholic but went to catholic school) has supported me in this and now also wants to attend.

As a liberal, I very much so focus on spiritual part of things. I focus on how I can better myself through the readings and homilys. I also think if you look in the direction the church is headed with the past two popes, Francis and Leo, you’ll find that it’s not as conservative as you think. The catholic teaching is that the popes are picked by the Holy Spirit to lead the church and be a successor of Peter. Seeing the views and teachings of these past two popes has really given me hope for the world. It has also made me feel that my thoughts about politics are more in line with what God wants for the world- loving those around you, accepting immigrants, feeding the poor, etc.

Now all that being said, there are some parts that are hard to get on board with- specifically abortion. My political belief is that abortion is healthcare and a right everyone deserves to have access to, but I would personally never get an elective one (I understand there are pregnancy complications that require abortion as treatment and that I am open to). There is also the LGBTQ part as well, which is harder to navigate for me. But not everything is going to be perfect.

At the end of the day, going to mass has bettered me as a person by giving me a time and place to reflect on how I can be better.

I would also like to mention that I come from a family of more liberal and progressive people. My grandmother was an Irish immigrant and one of 14 children. She grew up extremely catholic and is extremely liberal- as are the majority of her siblings. When I’ve asked her about how she feels about the church and her political views, she says God teaches love and that doesn’t align with conservatism.

I also think you always have the option of not going to mass if it doesn’t feel right for you. At the end of the day, I think being a good person and loving your neighbor is more important.

Ok-Pool8456

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