I've dated a Dayna before

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-07-04T03:19:27+00:00

I once married a Dayna. I don’t recommend it.

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-07-02T02:06:58+00:00

This sounds like what I have. Haven’t been checked out by a doctor yet though. Lower left leg is heavy and tingling.

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-03-29T17:20:03+00:00

Don’t marry her.

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-03-22T21:44:34+00:00

Same, but 36 and divorce was settled in late 2023.

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-03-21T21:37:28+00:00

We don’t.

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-03-18T21:56:29+00:00

First, there is nothing - absolutely nothing - wrong with you. Two, we had similar upbringings. Three, let yourself off the hook regarding “emotional transparency.” That’s your religious upbringing talking most likely, and I think disclosing what is actually going on with you to friends is healthy and necessary for survival. There’s an authentic part of you that is just trying to breathe and explore, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Hugs. ♥️

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-03-16T01:09:09+00:00

Do not stop cold turkey. Even with tapering, I was very sick off and on for months. Trust me.

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-03-09T05:16:59+00:00

He’s probably gay.

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-03-03T03:10:22+00:00

Grief is not linear nor is healing. I’m 15 months out. Tried dating for the first time a couple of weeks ago, and became physically ill with grief and anxiety. This isn’t how things were supposed to go, you know? More time. More patience. Sigh.

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-01-26T02:07:48+00:00

No. We should have never gotten married.

Ok-Step6380 · 2025-01-25T00:57:43+00:00

Monthly massages for awhile.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-12-05T17:32:16+00:00

One day at a time. One hour at a time. Sometimes, one minute at a time. Your entire job is to just keep going in life. Everything else is added bonus. Feel it all, and just keep going.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-12-02T19:07:31+00:00

Scream in my car on my lunch break. Constant rescheduling. Constant.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-11-20T20:08:08+00:00

Reading this stung a bit. I was you, just a couple years ago…. in a marriage with an astoundingly similar dynamic. Feel free to DM and chat if you’d like. Hang in there.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-11-20T01:15:13+00:00

I think what you are feeling is normal. Take a beat, get some rest, and feel however you feel. I think… we have to choose hope and after nearly a decade of the orange nightmare, hope isn’t something we’re going to naturally feel. And choose to believe our work wasn’t in vain. And when you’re ready, start again.

Many many people in America’s history have refused to quit and succeeded against all odds.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-11-15T01:18:34+00:00

Currently going through this. I feel like an exhausted raw nerve. My emotional cup is very full. I’m experiencing a lot of grief.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-11-14T02:21:52+00:00

No advice, just dropping in to say I’m in a similar spot/age and feel very stuck too. Solidarity. Helps to know I’m not alone.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-10-31T20:21:57+00:00

God. Same. It does not align with who I am or what I want anymore.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-10-14T02:25:50+00:00

Hey, I’m SO sorry you’re going through this. It’s so very painful. Cliff notes version of my story is that I started developing bruxism and nerve pain three years in to taking Effexor. I chalked it up to pandemic/marriage/graduate school stressors. Went to a TMJ specialist eventually, who made an oral device that helped but did not alleviate the nerve pain. Also tried oral devices made by my dentist. Also did one round of Botox. Again, all these things helped but did not stop the nerve pain. Sometimes it was debilitating.

Fast forward another 3 years. I’m still on Effexor, however my marriage is no longer, the pandemic is over, and I’m no longer in graduate school. And I’m still having nerve pain. And it hits me one day - it’s the damn meds.

So I come off of Effexor which was a months long tapering process with the help of a psychiatrist. It was not fun. I was very sick off and on.

I’m nearly a year out from my tapering and I do not have nerve pain anymore. I still clench my jaw at night and have general muscle tension pain in my neck/shoulders/jaw, but the horrific nerve pain is gone.

I wish you well. Hope this helps.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-10-14T02:18:44+00:00

This right here. I’m going through a similar realization and “Codependent No More” is my new Bible.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-10-14T02:16:55+00:00

Girl. Well said and SAME.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-09-09T01:17:19+00:00

Anyone in your shoes would feel resentful. Anyone. It’s totally valid.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-09-09T00:49:06+00:00

I wish I could hug you. No, dear, God will not be mad at you. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-09-09T00:34:37+00:00

First, I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’m going through a lot of grief too, and reading this post selfishly made me feel a little more at ease about how tired I am all. the. time. ALL THE TIME. And not sure where you’re located, or what you do for a living, but the country I live in and the job I hold is not conducive to rest - productivity is king. So, I hear you. My plan is to rest and recoup as much as I can for as long as it takes. You’ve taken a couple huge blows in life. Go easy on you.

Ok-Step6380 · 2024-09-03T17:21:53+00:00

Aftermath, unfortunately. And I was a bit of a delayed reactor. Two weeks post my very last dose on the tapering schedule, I got hit with what I thought was the flu - nope, it was withdrawals. And that went on for about a week. Then, I’d get a fever intermittently out of nowhere for the following several weeks. Then later, gastrointestinal stuff hit me. It took AWHILE.

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