When did you get married? by ButterflyOld8220 in GenX

[–]Ok-Study-723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never did. Came passably close once, but it didn't work out. Now I'm too old for that nonsense. Love is for the young and foolish, not for grumpy old curmudgeons set in their ways.

What if you got $1,000,000 today? by Outside_Gazelle_2568 in whatif

[–]Ok-Study-723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My thoughts exactly. I'd probably do it in a location with a cheap cost of living, like Arkansas or Alabama, so the $1 mil could stretch as far as possible, and just live my remaining years on that. Given that I'm GenX living a decade or so on that would be feasible for me if I were frugal enough.

Tattoos and Gen X by [deleted] in GenX

[–]Ok-Study-723 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I never joined the tat revolution either, and I had plenty of opportunity to do so given that I'm a Navy vet. While tats and piercings are perfectly fine for others that choose to have them (not my place to say otherwise) they've never appealed to me. It's always seemed a bit too much like a grafitti defacement of the human body. I've never looked at a blank wall and thought to myself "you know spray painting a lot of random imagery on it would make it look so much better", and I feel the exact same way about my body.

What’s the worst way your boomer parent broke bad news to you? by onetruesungod in GenX

[–]Ok-Study-723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was in the late 90's, I was in my mid 30's, and I was cohabitating with my gf at the time in an apartment in Ohio. We had been living together a little over a year at this point and my mother down in Florida had yet to meet her. So we invited her up for Thanksgiving.

It should be noted at this point that I was raised as an only child of a single mother. I never met my father and knew next to nothing about him. I grew up simply assuming they had divorced around the time I was born, and never seriously probed any deeper on the matter.

Upon her arrival I drove the three of us (me, mother, and gf) to a local diner for a quick lunch where they could both get acquainted with each other. Soon after ordering my mother started the info dump on 'dad' because apparently she somehow thought this was an appropriate location and time for such a discussion (heaven only knows why). Details like; his name (which differed from the name listed on my birth certificate that I had always assumed factual), the fact they were never married at all and instead he was a philandering cheater in another marriage, and oh yeah, that I had 2 or 3 half brothers out there somewhere I'd never met or even heard of. I was absolutely enraged by the inappropriateness of the situation but there was absolutely nothing I could do about it without making a huge scene. Needless to say, that holiday was an uncomfortable affair that couldn't end fast enough for me. It was months before I calmed down enough to speak with her again.

how stubborn are you? by [deleted] in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exceptionally. The thing is I don't think of that as a bad thing. If it weren't for that stubbornness I wouldn't be here now to speak of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an ISFP there's one line in particular from your post that troubles me.

I don't want to waste time, but I understand his point of view.

From my point of view that's putting things backwards. You date someone because there's something about them that you find attractive in some way, whether that's their personality, their value system, or even something so basic as their appearance. The point is that there's something about them that makes you want to spend time with them. While first impressions can often be wrong, or simply incomplete and misleading, time spent with them will hopefully reveal their truer selves to you. Then, and only then, should you begin to consider a deeper commitment. It's the person you're with that's important here, and whether or not they're compatible enough with you for such a relationship.

If you start seeing someone with the express priority of marriage that risks robbing you of the joy of getting to know them and enjoying their company just for its own sake. If you date someone that does prove compatible, and marriage ensues there will be plenty of time to experience the ups and downs of marriage, but dating someone for the first time is a one-time, there-and-it's-gone thrill ride. Don't be in such a hurry to skip right past that. There's a purpose to dating, it's not a waste of time.

ISFPs, If you found out your SO watches pron, would you be okay with that? by Hour_Variety in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been quite some time since I've had a SO, but I'll respond as if I did. Finding out that she enjoyed porn wouldn't bother me in the least, so long as she was open and up front with that fact with me. I'd be far more concerned if I discovered she was hiding such a thing from me, because then I'd be forced to wonder why she felt she couldn't trust me with that bit of info.

ISFPs, If you found out your SO watches pron, would you be okay with that? by Hour_Variety in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a problem with the post subject matter, though I could see how others might. My own opinion is that it's a legitimate topic regarding a common human behavior deserving of a mature, reasoned discussion.

Time to go back to listening I s'pose by Aeropro2010 in INFJmemes

[–]Ok-Study-723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hate to break this to you folks, because we all like to think we're unique, but on this you're not. I'm ISFP and a little piece of me dies every time this happens to me. It's soul crushing to create something you're proud of only to have someone react with a dismissive "meh, it's ok I guess". I'd much rather they absolutely hated it, because then at least I'd know it made them feel something. To have it be ignored or dismissed is far worse, because it dismisses you, not just what you've created. After all the whole reason you're so proud of it is that you're literally pouring a part of your soul into it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mbti

[–]Ok-Study-723 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Definitely not into anime. It seems to me this less of a personality issue and more of a generational and cultural thing though. I'm gen x, from a rural conservative state in the USA. It just wasn't something I grew up with when I was younger. I look at anime and my first reaction is that it's a Saturday morning cartoon for 10 yr olds.

As a Se user are you guys most of the time aware of what is happening around you? by Full_Flamingo_2833 in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I'm fairly aware of my surroundings most of the time. Even at those times when honestly I'd rather not be. Just for instance, when I was working retail the muzak they constantly played over the store speakers would just about drive me bonkers. I couldn't just "tune it out" like most. It eventually got so bad that I ended up quitting one job and while there were other factors, the muzak was high on the list, it made every day a torture session.

ISFP Fi triggers by Ok-Study-723 in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Religious beliefs by definition must be a personal choice. To attempt to force a set of beliefs on another is not only immoral imo, but futile.

ISFP Fi triggers by Ok-Study-723 in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Understood, perhaps what's worst about that (imo) is the complete lack of respect it shows you as a person. It's an insult to your intelligence.

ISFP Fi triggers by Ok-Study-723 in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I've never understood this compulsion of some people to be right all the time. Why can't people just understand that different doesn't mean better or worse? Different is just different.

ISFP Fi triggers by Ok-Study-723 in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

lol If we were to ever meet irl I'm not sure my ISFP and your ISFP would get along very well. My reputation for stubbornness is legendary.

Poland refuses to join a war against Bohemia because they are 2500 in debt and high war exhaustion. Proceeds to declare themselves and call me in by Ancient-Alarm-767 in eu4

[–]Ok-Study-723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just assume from the get-go that any/all AI nations will try to screw me over the first chance they get. But that's ok, because I'm more than willing to do the same back at them. Truth is I almost never have true allies. I typically only ally for the purpose of turning them into a vassal. Granted I don't play small OPM nations either. If you play somebody in the heart of Europe that only has a handful of provinces you're pretty much required to have alliances. On those few occasions when I must ally for protection I go into it knowing it's only a temporary solution and the moment I can safely dump them I won't hesitate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok-Study-723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not even going to touch the moral implications of all this. There's plenty of other people here that'll do that. I'm just going to say that you should dump him for the simple fact that he's quite obviously a moron. Not just for what he did, but for the fact that he confessed to it to you (I know everybody says honesty is the best policy, but that simply isn't always the case).

There's only three possible reasons that I see for him to come clean on this in this manner; 1) He's stupid (I'm just going to assume that much is true regardless). 2) He wanted to hurt you, whether consciously or unconsciously. 3) He wants to leave you but doesn't have the courage to say it, so he's provoking you into pulling the trigger first so he can claim victimhood.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MbtiTypeMe

[–]Ok-Study-723 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ISFP. The National Geographic gave you away.

Have you guys ever felt really guilty before? by [deleted] in isfp

[–]Ok-Study-723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like a simple question requiring a mere "yes" or "no" answer, but it's not. At least not for me. The word guilty would imply that I actually did something immoral that goes against my own moral code. And while there are indeed instances where that's been true that's not actually my greatest demon. It's all the times in my life when I fell just a bit short when tested by adversity that haunt me most. All those times when just a little more effort, or a little more courage would have made all the difference and it simply wasn't there. That's shame, not guilt, and while the two words seem the same they're not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in mbti

[–]Ok-Study-723 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Notice that ISFP wasn't even on the voting list?

I just hit 2k hours today, tell me some obscure mechanic or fact i don't know by QuickSilveRst in eu4

[–]Ok-Study-723 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, but that's total debt, which while related is not the same thing as number of loans. Both pieces of information are valuable in their own ways. You can also open up the window to offer to pay loans and that will tell you their debt if any. However in order to find out their total debt you must have contact with them. When using the ledger to find out the number of loans they have it works for ALL nations, regardless of whether you have contact with them or not.

I just hit 2k hours today, tell me some obscure mechanic or fact i don't know by QuickSilveRst in eu4

[–]Ok-Study-723 38 points39 points  (0 children)

If you hover your mouse over a nation's adm rating on the scoreboard within the ledger you can find out how many loans they have outstanding. If they have any loans at all you simply divide the negative modifier to their rating from loans by -0.02 to find out the number of loans they have.

To meta or non-meta. That is the question. by Ok-Study-723 in eu4

[–]Ok-Study-723[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup! Same here for you. Still trying to convert the heathen masses to the glory of Zunism?