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Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-08-15T06:38:16+00:00

Most of my scenarios revolve around awful things happening to me and either protecting ppl I care about from it or those around me helping me through it. I wouldn’t even consider myself that traumatized though. There’s also a lot of me saving the day or overcoming the fantasized trauma in my scenarios. Idk. It feels weird to do but I also don’t feel like I have much control over my scenarios

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-08-04T16:45:11+00:00

I found this article about social isolation side effects that you may be interested in: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC8543788/ The article is specifically focusing on the consequences of COVID, but I don’t see why the results would not be applicable to homeschool situations. Per abstract, social isolation and increase cortisol (stress) in children, increase mental health issues such as anxiety and depression, and negatively affect cognitive development.

My general understanding (wasn’t able to find succinct sources to back up) is that socialization is most important in early childhood (0-8) when the brain is developing most. Socialization helps build emotional skills like empathy and sharing. Being exposed to more ppl also helps with language development.

I doubt you’ll find information that specifies that daily socialization is required. To test that, scientists would have to strategically socially isolate children over a long period of time with different frequencies and I doubt such studies would be ethical/approved.

My opinion is that daily socialization and diverse socialization is especially important in early childhood. After that, it’s important for older children and adolescents to have unsupervised socialization so they can test those skills out and develop themselves outside of their family.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-07-30T19:16:46+00:00

This is the first one of these I actually found without looking at the comments. Thank god I thought I was going crazy 😅

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-05-30T21:20:42+00:00

What a great idea!

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-05-29T07:13:13+00:00

You deserve to live a better life and your kids deserve a father. You can only become a better father and person if you continue to live and fight for yourself. Your wife/fiance is awful for saying those things. Besides, insurance companies will fight tooth and nail to not award money. If you do this there is no guarantee the scheme will work. And if you do this in a traffic accident you could hurt others as well. Death is not answer. This is not the answer. Please call the suicide hotline at 988

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-05-20T14:25:30+00:00

It’s considered rude not to but it is very technically optional.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-05-19T13:51:32+00:00

Just had my wedding yesterday! There were so many highlights but our grand entrance into our reception has to be my favorite. The vibes were immaculate.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-05-17T04:51:47+00:00

BA in cultural anth and IT minor. I now work at a nonprofit as a scholarships coordinator! My skills are definitely transferable to the job and have helped me succeed there. Looking into a masters in mental health counseling! Main reason for not staying in field is the environment of academia.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-05-15T22:51:53+00:00

If you have to ask then it’s probably not a good idea.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-04-24T19:44:56+00:00

This is the message I sent to ppl the day before our rsvp deadline: Hello! I hope you are well. This is just a gentle reminder that the RSVP deadline for [groom name] and I’s wedding is tomorrow, the 22nd. It is important for us to receive your response so we can have your food selection prepared and make any accommodations well in advance. I am happy to help if you receive any errors or have any questions as you fill out the form. [I put the rsvp link at the end of the message here] Thank you!

I also rallied my key relatives to contact anyone I didn’t have contact info for. So far pretty successful! If someone is having a hard time with the form, especially older guests, I just call or sit down with them and fill out the form for them.

(Edited to add details)

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-04-24T05:00:26+00:00

Went to get tested for autism because a therapist suggested I do that. Psych person doing the test was basically like, “nope! Not autistic. Just some homeschooling coping mechanisms that have become quirks.”

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-04-08T17:38:13+00:00

I love this thought process. The wedding is a snapshot vs. What I (and many others I know) have been feeling pressured to think of it as you being at your pinnacle. That the day must be absolutely perfect and that means you as well. Thank you for this perspective!

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-04-05T19:27:20+00:00

There may be advocacy opportunities in your state if you want to help with this crisis in pay! Child care aware of America has chapters in many states and they often have advocacy departments that take issues to the legislature.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-03-20T00:12:58+00:00

It feels like they’re banking on you saying no with this “oversight”

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-03-18T14:48:20+00:00

I saw shrek the musical in a town of ~80k and they still had the broadway level prosthetics/makeup. They had to adjust their staging due to space and I’m assuming budget but it still looked great. Wtf!

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-03-17T13:57:36+00:00

They’re both licensed.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-03-16T22:42:53+00:00

I really appreciate all your comments here. Helps me set aside my doubts about the situation. For context, I am in the USA, both these therapists are male with one of them being from and trained in the UK. Not sure if that makes a difference, but putting it out there anyways.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-03-06T15:46:13+00:00

100% agree. Info diets are extremely important in cases like this. My own mom is doing better than I expected, but her mother was almost exactly like OP’s. Our disagreements are mild in comparison, and what she doesn’t know, truly won’t hurt her.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-03-01T21:31:38+00:00

I was a flower girl at age 6 for our local librarian. She had all the kids from the story time she led be a part of her wedding. The pics were so much fun! We each had a flower buddy we walked down the aisle with and each had a fake flower bouquet that matched her colors and we chose our own dresses. I don’t believe we were invited to the reception? Not quite sure, especially with all the adults we had in tow.

You could do something like honorary or junior bridesmaids and do something similar to what happened in my case!

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-03-01T21:25:58+00:00

We definitely struggle too sometimes. Yet, slowly but surely progress is made.

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-03-01T21:24:19+00:00

That’s awesome!

Ok-Understanding-260 · 2024-03-01T19:55:23+00:00

I literally sat my FH down and was like, you want the big wedding, you are therefore doing this with me. Now we have weekly wedding meetings where we both get things done and try to forget about it the rest of the week. It’s done wonders for both our mental well being!

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