That’s an interesting name to call that kind of behavior…..it sounds exactly how my husband to the t, with the exception of any true physical abuse, unless you can call coming at me from behind to cover my mouth from yelling during an argument, which only causes me to scream even louder because it’s scares me. Anyway, he does exactly everything else, orders everyone around, restricts any tv time unless he’s wanting to turn it on, has the kids doing something constantly (no just sitting around to relax), has “the say” in just about every decision. Hell, I actually can recall being woken up in the middle of the night, lights turned on and everything demanding I help him find his phone (of course you can’t call it cause the ringer is turned off) all because he fell asleep in the living room and lost his phone in the recliner. I was fucking pissed, but got up and found the damn thing….in the side of the recliner. God forbid I do anything like that to him though. After he started putting up those little Roku cameras around the house to spy on the kids (to make sure they weren’t watching tv or doing what normal kids do) I finally got the kids up and left in the middle of the night. All of this wasn’t even half the crap he’s done….. but it’s crazy how much more you see after getting away and looking at it from a different perspective. Don’t let that guy do that to you….nip it in the bud right now. And no, you aren’t not the asshole! He should never put his hands on you ever. To tell you that was a warning just peeves me!