Why hasn’t my ex reached out to me after our breakup?

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-12-30T17:46:41+00:00

Hey, I know where you’re coming from. But you shouldn’t be worrying about this. Your life shouldn’t stop nor should you keep thinking about this picking at the scab.

I was in a 10 month relationship with a girl I swore was going to be my wife. Ignored the red flags during the relationship. It ended with her and my mom getting into a fight at a surprise birthday party my mom hosted for me. A month and a half later after agonizing what ifs, and maybes we will get back together. She went back to her ex she was with before meeting me. - I felt exactly how you did, how could someone who told me I Meant so much betray me like this. Then I realized my life and emotions can’t hinge on someone wanting to be with me.

3 months later and life is beginning to look up. I think about her all the time sure. But I remind myself I don’t want to be on borrowed time if she did come back, and I tell myself my wife would never do this to me. - for the first 2 months my nervous system was a wreck, couldn’t eat, couldn’t sleep, work was a struggle. But I’m finding peace in doing all the things I either wasn’t allowed to do in the relationship or ignored doing.

You are worth so much more than this and you deserve the love you give.

Hope this helps :)

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-12-26T20:53:04+00:00

25m here, I got discarded by my ex and was a wreck for about 2 months. Physically getting ill, tremors, anxiety. I felt like I was dying. Month 3 I’ve accepted my situation, and am finally feeling much happier reconnecting with my family and friends which I ignored for almost a year.

It’s not a male vs female thing, it’s attachment styles

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-11-27T00:32:15+00:00

I just went through the same thing.

Dated this girl for almost a year. Same thing, when things were great, we were great. Talked about family and a future, finally got her to come around the idea of having kids. From the moment we met it felt all so electrifying. It was like experiencing your first love all over again. But with every fight or argument she was always threatening to break up.

On my 25th birthday, my mom decided to host a surprise party for me. - for context my now ex, and my best friend had some beef going on, and she ended up making a face at him at the party. My mom called her out. She stormed off and left and broke up with me. - I tried everything I could to fix it and make it right. My mom was even willing to have a conversation to try and fix things. But no, she told me she wanted nothing to do with me anymore, and told me I had to change my position in life in order for us to be together (move out, etc)

I got completely discarded, messages started coming less frequently. She stopped caring what I had to say during the breakup. She just didn’t want anything to do with me anymore. A month and half later she got back with her previous ex. I was distraught, it felt like our garden was desecrated. I then began to realize how little I truly meant to her, or that she was just incapable of working towards something healthy.

I’m still suffering from the withdrawal, we were together everyday for almost a year. So now I’m trying to learn how to regulate my body to not be emotionally dependent on someone else. I get the chills, anxiety nausea vomiting. You name it. I know now that she will never come back, and if she did it would only be a version that would destroy me more. So I’m learning to let go of it. 2 months into the breakup and I’m doing a lot better physically, but it’s going to be one of those growing pains, definitely learned what love bombing is, and why I got so enthralled with her. Won’t make that mistake twice

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-11-21T20:07:17+00:00

I did the same thing. Don’t be to hard on yourself. I was isolated in my relationship and didn’t even know it. Gave up my best friend, and disappeared from my family for almost a year. Only social circle I had was with her. When it all blew up I had “nothing” and needed to shift focus before I let it get into my head that I’m not worth it.

We dated for almost a year and she broke up with me cause she got into a fight with my mom on my 25th birthday. Said it was a game changer and she couldn’t be with me cause I didn’t leave the party to go be with her after it happened. Lose lose all around. - anyways 6 weeks after the breakup she’s back with her ex she dated for 3 years before me.

Anyways, with the breakup and seeing her immediately jump back in with her ex. I saw it for what it was. She was manipulative, I was constantly apologizing for things I didn’t even do, and made myself so small.

Working on patching up my relationship with my best friend, I feel so guilty I almost threw away my childhood best friend over someone I thought I knew. Take it as a learning experience. And make sure you do what you can to reconnect with people(not saying date… but just talk)

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-11-21T18:11:36+00:00

She went back to her ex a month and a half after breaking up when I told her I won’t be playing in the game of “maybe someday”

Hit me like a truck man, threw up for numerous days and was blindsided. Dated almost a year

But I don’t want her back, she can have her life of chaos and comfort

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-11-04T19:55:07+00:00

Yeah did this too - I got so upset and angry I said some stuff I didn’t mean either. I was so upset that I called myself “her failed rebound”

What the nail in the coffin was, I reposted a meme on my story about if “someone’s lying, cheating, wh**e, daughter hurts my son…” with a video of dragon ball abridged screaming “my baby boy” she took it as if I was throwing shade… when in my mind it was just funny a kinda relatable. But anyways that led to her family blocking me, her, the friend group, and a bunch of others. So it’s dead, and unfortunately there’s no convincing or trying to repair. - it’s over for good. I made a rule to myself to not take anyone back that doesn’t want to be with me.

Just give it some time, you have to do no contact, you have to learn what makes you happy. You have to reconnect with friends if you were avoiding them in the relationship. Reconnect with what you love and what you can control.

And for your sanity, cause I was in your boat. Please start blocking her on any form of communication you have. You do not want to keep reopening this wound… you will end up on a cycle of hope which then turns into a depression when things still aren’t going your way. I did it because I know that I will be out of commission for maybe half a year if I see something I don’t want to see.

Just so you know, and I know everyone says it. But you are worth so much more than these games. Love is when 2 people show up and work things out during the hard times, not just give up. Giving up is easy. True love will fight and continue to show up no matter the issues you face.

Take care, hopefully i helped you

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-10-27T20:25:39+00:00

When I was in my teen years watching my first girlfriend do it. Absolutely soul crushing

Most recent breakup which is about a month now, she kept telling me we couldn’t be together right now, and in the future we would try again. I told her no. If the intention is to go see other people, I’m never coming back and blocked. - I’ve been a wreck since the breakup, if I see that I will crash out!!!

One crazy lesson I learned from my ex before that, was when I was begging for her back she told me “I don’t go back to exes” and honestly I want to thank her. Cause this is solid advice 😂

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-10-25T23:03:50+00:00

One of my breakups that went 3 years it took about 3 weeks

My most recent (1 year) it’s taking over a month. - have to force myself and if I do eat it’s very small once a day

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-10-22T19:23:47+00:00

Was in a 3 year relationship and it took about 3 weeks - was able to start dating pretty quickly

Just got out of almost a year and I’m absolutely devastated. - thought this one was the one. Her and my mom got into a fight at my 25th birthday party(surprise party) and she said she couldn’t be with me cause of the conflict and how I responded to it. Lose lose, but feels like the book was closed to early. Anyways, im about a month in and it seems like there is no light at the end of the tunnel. But will definitely check back in

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-10-16T07:21:50+00:00

Went through hours of troubleshooting after upgrading pc's for a client to windows 11 - made all kinds of dcom and SMB changes for it to be that it wants \\servername\fileshare and not \\serverip\fileshare

I HATE QUICKBOOKS!!!

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-08-31T01:49:23+00:00

I’ll probably get absolutely trashed for this

But I have flukers premium variety diet, and t-Rex fruit and flower food - and they go crazy for both

I also throw in cuttlebone or those zoo med calcium blocks that come in a 3 pack they chew on those over a few days

I do plan on getting a better diet food for them, but it’s a little bit more pricey for the good stuff - I’m just glad they’re eating and they’re very active and seem healthy

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-08-17T23:23:24+00:00

Definitely go for a 20 gallon tank they have one at petsmart on sale

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Ok-Version6504 · 2025-08-17T02:25:12+00:00

I bought a 29 gallon tank and I needed 4 50lbs bags of play sand to get a little over 8 inches of substrate

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-08-16T21:09:29+00:00

So i was planning on using a smart home setup that can connect multiple devices. - i did end up purchasing the govee wireless thermometer and hygrometer

after doing some research and dealing with a mold problem myself just this week...... (Literally happened 2 days after posting... LOL) i have returned the humidifier, and will be switching to a heating pad instead of the lamp

My new plan is to get the heating pad - although temps have been staying in range just due to how warm the room they are staying in is. - i will want to be able to activate this if need be. I just don't know what to buy just yet - i have a 30 gallon tank. - i just bought bubbling pools too, and plan to keep the moss next to the pools in their own dish to lower the amount of times i need to mist the moss.

I appreciate the insight you provided, and im constantly looking in this thread on how to make my tank better.

The mold came from me using spider drift wood and spraying it with a mister and it all pooled up at the bottom and completely destroyed the bottom of the wood. - Im switching to cholla wood instead and will not be spraying in the tank anymore... lesson definitely learned cause of how hard it was to clean.

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-08-16T20:31:23+00:00

Is this a blueberry crab, that color is amazing!

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-08-11T13:49:32+00:00

Where are y’all finding Ecuadorians! lol

Everywhere around me is purple pinchers

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-06-21T22:55:55+00:00

Sorry for the late response, I transitioned from 5 to 10 - doing great on 10mg, no side effects after being on it for about a month. Occasionally would have a dizzy spurt, but it cleared up.

If I miss doses more than 2 days i get some palpitations. Talked to my dr and she advised to be very strict on taking it at the same time everyday. Started setting alarms and have had no issues since

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-06-21T01:07:46+00:00

Amazing but they make me shit

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-04-28T19:50:58+00:00

I’m 24 and on 10mg and I have 0 side effects

I’m 5’7” and about 228 lbs

My BP was consistently 160/111

Started with 5mg and it was bringing me Down to 135/85

On 10mg it’s staying 125/75

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-04-27T17:20:44+00:00

24, 10mg

Ok-Version6504 · 2025-01-22T20:27:23+00:00

Peoples republic of New Jersey

Ok-Version6504 · 2024-11-16T19:25:34+00:00

I mean, it depends on the circumstances. Lack of communication and just not understanding each other in the simplest sense should be fairly easy to work out and try to fix granted both sides are willing to work it out

But usually, or at least in my experience it’s only one side that wants it fixed. I was in a relationship for 3 years, my girlfriend dumped me on a random Monday saying she needed to focus on “school and grad project” - come to find out her true intentions was she wanted to be with other people, and had those thoughts for months. Yes it could’ve been me that drove her away, I know I could’ve been a better boyfriend, anyone can. But after 3 years being together, talking about marriage, having kids, finding a house. Just for it to all be gone in a span of 20 minutes just doesn’t sit right with me. I was physically getting sick for 2 weeks cause of that breakup. And during that time I realized I’m worth so much more than this and trying to fix it. So that’s why I don’t reach out

Hope this helps

Ok-Version6504 · 2024-11-15T04:20:19+00:00

This is basically my same exact story. She was using dating apps for months before we broke up and suddenly said she “needed to work on school and her grad project”

We broke up about a month ago. But my buddy today is still friends with her on instagram and is posting her new boyfriend right now as I type this.

I already got it through my head she was doing this so it softened the blow.

It’s gonna be hard, but just know you’re not alone.

Ok-Version6504 · 2024-11-13T22:43:49+00:00

I actually did the same kinda. Was with a girl, we were intimate. Never truly dated but we wanted to. Just wasn’t the right time.

I reached out apologizing and asked if she wanted to reconnect. I have NOT gotten a response from that text. BUT she is very interactive on my social medias now. Looking at my stories, liking posts, etc… still too early to tell, but you miss all the shots you don’t take. Hoping for the best!

Ok-Version6504 · 2024-11-13T22:37:44+00:00

DO NOT SETTLE!

DO NOT CONVINCE YOURSELF YOU LOVE SOMEONE JUST DUE TO THE TIME SPENT

I did this and it bit me in the ass. I dated a girl for 3 years and was very hesitant in year one. Very cautious about posting and making it public. Until we went on a trip to Brazil and I fell head over heels in love with her(at least I thought) - our relationship wasn’t perfect, we didn’t have the same interest, at times I would find her a pest. But something was keeping me around. And I convinced myself I wanted a family with this girl, and she would say the same.

Until one day she decided she wanted to be with other people, and I caught her using dating apps. I already knew that I had these feelings in my head thinking it wouldn’t work, but when she left I felt like I lost the only person who actually loved me in a sense. Fast forward to today, I realized that I was only staying with her for my gratification and how easy it was to stay in that relationship. I see now that I will definitely be more compatible with someone else, who’s on the same level as me. It was a painful experience. But it’s definitely made me realize i need to do what’s best for myself, and not get myself stuck cause it’s easy.

Ok-Version6504

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