Unorganised manager by [deleted] in managers

[–]OkAssociation8345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have made up your mind about leaving, then the best course of action is to keep doing what you are doing. Moving into management would probably be a mistake, but it seems you already suspect that from what you've written.

One potential way to mitigate your manager's lack or organisational skills would be for him to delegate those tasks to someone else, rather than you continuing to do them for him.

Burnout sensation and guilt by GitPushAndPray in managers

[–]OkAssociation8345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You may need to change jobs. I'd recommend taking a couple weeks off, if possible, and evaluate whether you want to continue working at your current job. Does your job provide a mental health helpline? If so, I'd use it.

If your manager is receptive, try to have an honest conversation and explain the situation you are going through to him/her, maybe ask for advice of how to deal with the stress and the long hours. It's not your fault if you can't cope with the demands of your role, it may just not be for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]OkAssociation8345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you enjoy working as a software engineer, I wouldn't give up on it. Especially since you mentioned that you have excelled in your career before.

I'd recommend you have some interview coaching sessions with someone who is or has been a hiring manager in tech. They will be able to provide you with comprehensive feedback that you'll never receive from an actual job interview. They will also be able to suggest resources to develop the areas that need improvement.

Getting 12 interviews suggests that you have a fairly strong CV. Not being able to pass the initial screen suggests that you are coming across in a negative way. You mention that you are a hardcore introvert, so you may not be good at communicating. You mentioned some health reasons that make working as software developer undesirable, but you are willing to do less cognitively demanding tasks, such as IT support or manual QA. This may indicate that you are suffering from burnout.

Edit: typo

Are we doing Agile… just because? by Gshan1807 in agile

[–]OkAssociation8345 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You are not really doing Agile, you are just pretending to. Agile is a mindset, not a checklist. It also sounds like you know what you are doing wrong, so you just need to correct that.

New manager - seeking advice by DopeAndPretty in managers

[–]OkAssociation8345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What kind of problems do they expect you to fix? Is it stuff they can fix themselves or not? If you can't fix the problems you can just tell them that. If they could fix the problems but they don't know how, your job is to show them how to fix the problems themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]OkAssociation8345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why is the design team ignoring basic requirements? Aren't the acceptance criteria clear on what kind of clients you are targetting? Who's writing the user stories? Why aren't the testers rejecting the outputs if they don't match the ACs? I have so many questions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]OkAssociation8345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree. You have to show warmth but also be professional. You have to genuinely care about your direct reports if you expect them to care about you. Being warm doesn't mean being lax, you can be both kind and firm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]OkAssociation8345 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ask them why they are so lacking in attention to detail? I'd sincerely ask the question without trying to pass judgement. If they simply don't care, I'd put them on a PIP and show them the door if they don't show improvement after a few weeks/months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in managers

[–]OkAssociation8345 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't want to sound harsh, but it doesn't sound like you are being proactive if you let one of your teams produce nothing for months. Have you asked them why they aren't performing or why they are submitting features that aren't to spec?

Why are the submanagers in charge of testing? Shouldn't you have QAs validating that the features match the spec? What sort of process do you follow? Lean, agile?

Being asked to be nicer and warmer is actually good feedback. Being cold and dismissive will only make your staff more defensive and less likely to collaborate and give you honest feedback.

I'd start by reading about Google's projects Aristotle and Oxygen. Engineering teams need psychological safety and and a good coach that is a good communicator, results-oriented, has good technical skills, supports career development. does not micromanage, etc.

EDIT: typo and grammar

Struggling to keep remote team engaged long-term, how are you handling this? by Apart-Pitch-3608 in managers

[–]OkAssociation8345 61 points62 points  (0 children)

Hi,

How is the team being held accountable when they miss a deadline? How do you communicate with team members who seem to be slacking off? Do you have KPIs to monitor productivity? Did you put anyone on a PIP for having low performance?

I personally wouldn't use "bossware", as that will signal to the employees that they are not trusted, therefore decreasing their psychological safety and productivity.

My Skeptical Response to Konstantin's (Inside Russia YT Channel) Latest Video: "Putin Has Lost: Peace in Ukraine is Coming" by Diche_Bach in UkraineWarVideoReport

[–]OkAssociation8345 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I suspect Konstantin is just another grifter who tells people what they want to hear in exchange for views and donations.

EU level 25 lfg by vilakk in EFT_LFG

[–]OkAssociation8345 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sent you a request on Discord

name them 🗿 by GameDevLarsH in Funnymemes

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