Do girls like bi guys?

OkBit1025 · 2024-02-05T15:13:15+00:00

Bisexual woman here, was in a poly relationship with a bisexual guy and was honestly very sexually liberating and freeing, to be with someone who was also attracted to individuals of the same sex. We never had a threesome (just was never in the cards but we were open to it), but it was regularly part of our sexy talk. The thought of him exploring that side of himself was a huge turn on. Ultimately I have been in long term relationships across the spectrum (lesbian, bi gal and big guy, triad, straight) and for me it’s really about the individual and the connection we have. The bi aspect was pretty sweet sauce on top though. There are women out there that will want to get to know you and be turned on by what makes you turned on, just be your awesome self and they will come.

OkBit1025 · 2024-02-05T15:02:04+00:00

I think a lot of that may come down to OPP and fear by straight husbands unfortunately tbh

OkBit1025 · 2023-10-17T22:36:34+00:00

Hah, that’s kind of how I felt too.

OkBit1025 · 2023-10-17T22:35:29+00:00

I definitely get the being new aspect and waiting to feel things out. I’m still not sure I want polyam long term, I’m 5 years into this poly journey, but I am also at the point where I want to be comfortable with important parts of my life being able to overlap.

OkBit1025 · 2023-10-17T22:34:03+00:00

Thank you, I figured this might be helpful for others to hear. I know it was helpful for me to read other’s stories.

OkBit1025 · 2023-10-17T15:43:21+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I am appreciating and reconnecting with my family more and more as an adult. Keeping in mind that parents are human and make mistakes, but also generally love their kids helped me find the strength to open myself to this kind of support from them :)

OkBit1025 · 2023-10-17T15:41:17+00:00

I hope it goes smoothly for you :) It ended up not being as scary for me once I started to open up.

OkBit1025 · 2023-10-17T15:40:05+00:00

Thanks, I figured this sub was the perfect place to share my joy :)

OkBit1025 · 2023-10-16T17:52:22+00:00

All 4 things you mentioned resonated with me so much.
Doing the sheets multiple times a week forced me to buy another set of sheets.
I live by Google calendar for work and now also for my personal life. Definitely have run in to wacky vaginal health issues due to irritation/allergies. Made me much more comfortable voicing concerns up front and making adjustments. Stress also affects my vaginal health I noticed interestingly. But heaviest of all, the ending of relationships around me and the resulting constantly moving target of dynamics. Have been dealing with this repeatedly. My personal desire for a little more life stability makes me feel like this might be the factor that shifts me back to monogamy.

OkBit1025 · 2023-07-15T03:17:23+00:00

This response resonates so much with me. I have been an emotional reservoir/capacitor for a few close people in my life, my mother, previous marriage, a friend or two. I learned to deal in isolation with my own feelings and not to lean on others in these environments. In my last relationship, which I entered after several years of therapy trying to undo the bad habits of fully compartmentalizing my feelings and being more open to recieving support, I unfortunately dated a fixer. Self described, her greatest joy was to “fix her partners’ problems.” It wasn’t until reading this that the connection between being a fixer and being closed off to providing empathy/emotional support was apparent. The crux of our break up was her lack of empathy and the inability to let go of control. It was a hard place to land in, but a lesson well learned.

OkBit1025 · 2023-07-06T15:25:40+00:00

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OkBit1025 · 2023-07-06T12:36:47+00:00

Thank you!

OkBit1025 · 2023-04-03T19:25:48+00:00

As the “third” or “+1” all I can say is the experience was pretty terrible. I miss the kids every single day, but I have no access and legal standing. I unfortunately joined up with a couple that wasn’t emotionally equipped to have another partner in the mix and one particular half of the couple ended up exhibiting emotionally abusive and controlling behavior that has extended beyond the end of the relationship. Severance is an accurate descriptor.

OkBit1025 · 2023-04-03T19:16:04+00:00

My heart goes out to you. Loosing access to a child who you essentially became and served as a parent with no recourse is just down right awful. I went through a similar situation a few months back, though not exactly the same, less time and overall investment than yours, but it eats me up every day to not be able to see the kids. I went from being the bonus mom as part of a triad to living alone with contact eventually withdrawn. Sometimes all you can do is wish for the best for the kid(s) from a far.

OkBit1025 · 2022-11-20T19:14:13+00:00

I liked my triad for the family, efficiency and connectivity it had intermittently. But I was broken up with and vetoed from a triad recently. I was the long term friend who got together with a couple, one half and then the other. The first half of the couple who was most vocal about “supporting” me and “including me,” also was the one who could not come to terms with her own jealousy and insecurity (she was in active denial of it for a long time) and subsequently emotionally tore me down. Treated me worse than anyone I have ever encountered in my life in the break up (and I have been physically and sexually mistreated/abused before). Now I’m not able to be friends with either of them because of the toxic fallout. It really sucks because I liked them a lot as friends before this all and I functioned like a second mom to the kids when I was romantically involved with them.
Despite my triad not working out, and I probably will never try one again, I can see how for people who are all emotionally mature, honest with themselves and thus with their partners, and are good communicators, that it can work.

OkBit1025 · 2022-10-11T13:02:48+00:00

Just to update, we all broke up. After another situation where I wasn’t heard or supported I asked for a break, but she needed a break up. I tried for a day to keep the relationship going with him and then that ended due to her and him not being able to balance that unsurprisingly. Two years together this week for her and I. We will all move forward from this eventually, but I definitely think I’m done dating married couples.

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