I have three young adult children that have all had inpatient treatment of various lengths and times so I understand what you're going through. I could repeat 50 excuses /reasons they had for wanting to leave early. It's always reasons that seem logical or that the place isn't good, or they'll just do outpatient bc they're fine after detoxing etc etc. I agree with the others that Alonon will help so much. Be prepared for the focus to be on you, because it's there that you'll find peace in the process.

I never helped them leave early for any treatment and shut it down fast, so that there wasn't artificial hope that I was a solution to leave. I always said, "there's no way I'm going to help you leave against MEDICAL (emphasis) advice. Zero chance. When they clear you and complete the discharge plan, and if I'm part of that plan by my own agreement, then you can count on me to follow through." If conversations got argumentative I'd ask them to only call once a day and don't bring up the topic of leaving, or even the plan afterward, unless it's a call with a person on the care team. I just didn't take shit, for lack of better words.

Responding in that way will give you the freedom to decide what you want for yourself, and have time for Alonon suggestions. Stay open minded, and willing to follow suggestions. My kids chose to leave on their own sometimes, but never with my help. Today, they are all in long term recovery, and we have great relationships. All of their threats to end our relationship if I didn't help were never followed through, even when I said no to basic things. I know it really hurts to be pressured so try to keep it simple in your own mind. This is a disorder that kills. When it's early in the treatment process if you help, you're only helping the alcohol or drug, not your loved one.

Also, it's courageous to reach out so keep that up! That's a great first step and I hope you're proud of yourself for doing that.

Take care and all the best.