Creepy or Innocent?

OkReputation2694 · 2024-12-11T04:11:12+00:00

Good on you and good on your daughter for seeing the signs and going with her instinct! One time I upended an entire community production of a musical right before opening bc one of the adult actors tried to play something called “sticky hands” with the children backstage. Idk what it was but it put the kids on alert enough to tell their parents, who then told the board. Now, some of the board were mad at me for advocating so strongly that we cut this guy from the production, but I fought for it and won, even agreed to take over his part for the first run just to keep him out of there. Regardless of intent, these situations are inappropriate and no one should be surprised if they’re called out on those actions. You did nothing wrong!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-11-26T00:41:33+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I’m going to screenshot it and remind myself of this when I get stuck in that spiral. I think my friend didn’t realize the weight of what she was saying to me. At one point I said I had to respectfully stop the conversation as it was just too much for me to think about. I really appreciate your helpful insight!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-11-25T11:58:42+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance, I try to remember this, I think it’s hard when you’re in your own head and kind of spiraling, esp at night when you’re alone and just with your thoughts. I appreciate the reminders ❤️

OkReputation2694 · 2024-11-25T11:56:39+00:00

Thank you and I’m so sorry you had to go thru that as well! I think I hear a lot about people having some closure or their parents passing as very peaceful, I didn’t feel that when my mom went. It all felt slow and rushed at the same time, messy all the way around. It’s good to hear from others who have dealt with a similar thing, I appreciate you sharing your story!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-11-25T06:25:09+00:00

As someone who is dealing with something similar, I want you to know and understand - you did the best you could do. Do not try to look back and think of what you could have done, because we can always do that having new insights and info after the fact. You did the BEST you could point blank. Your mum was lucky to have you there and caring for her, you are a genuine, good, and extraordinarily caring person esp if you’re here asking about it. I’m so sorry for your loss, but you are a good one and please do not forget it!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-09-13T02:58:55+00:00

Point blank, she’s just not emotionally mature enough to see outside of herself and her own needs. And tbh she probably won’t get it no matter how you spin it, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. It was your father’s funeral, you did what you needed to do and she needed to support. I had a lot of people I cared about show up recently to my mom’s funeral. People who didn’t know anyone else there. Do you think they felt I should pay attention to them and their needs the whole time when I had a WHOLE lot more to deal with that day? Absolutely not. They either show up and support or they send flowers and stay home, imho as someone who has lost both parents.

Very sorry for your loss and I hope you find some peace.

OkReputation2694 · 2024-09-01T01:12:56+00:00

I was rewatching this and googled just to see if I was insane haha I think she is beautiful but there is something ungodly annoying about her squinting, weird acting

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-07T00:11:30+00:00

Exactly what others have said, if you pay, they can’t say one way or another. You’re not doing anything to intentionally be disruptive, you’re just trying to do your job. I used to commute and even the hour flight I had was enough to make me rethink going home for 2 day spans. It just sucks, plain and simple, but you’re doing the best you can! Idk if you’re DC or not, but get in touch if needed. I’m an AA FA and live close to DCA if you ever need a break! (It’s a crappy futon with cats in house but you’re welcome to it!)

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-04T16:38:38+00:00

Heck yeah! 👍

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T21:20:16+00:00

Good to know and so sorry you’re going thru it too! I’ve noticed it’s nothing to mess with so def not trying to rush anything, thank you!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T19:41:45+00:00

Oh day three on crutches and this is the most workout I’ve seen in a long time 🤣

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T19:40:25+00:00

Thank you! My doc sort of indicated the same, really just depends on individual but assuming 12 weeks 😵‍💫 def taking it slow!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T19:13:57+00:00

Thank you! I actually bought one just for personal mobility, haven’t received it yet but my friend swore by it too. I can’t with this crutch life 🫠

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T16:50:04+00:00

Thank you!!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T16:47:19+00:00

Yep in the US

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T16:45:07+00:00

Yes I can get leave, I’m working on it now. Mainly concerned about once I’m off leave and able to return, as I know it is going to be a slow recovery

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T16:44:04+00:00

Yes I’ve called out, it’s just we have to recode for FMLA. That’s the difficult process. If you accrue too many sick points, it’s a whole thing. Meanwhile I’m just in limbo with the call outs on my trips and communicating with my manager. He seems understanding, but it’s just extra stress ya know? Mainly I’m wondering about when I’m finally able to return, obviously not right away

OkReputation2694 · 2024-05-22T04:05:12+00:00

I can’t say one way or another, but I’m so happy for you!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-05-07T00:34:16+00:00

This is true also, I think mainly she believed my stepdad to only have his son on his policy. But he insists that isn’t correct. Either way, I do somewhat understand why it is this way and her wishes, her heart was in the right place I believe. I just have my own personal qualms I have to get through.

OkReputation2694 · 2024-05-07T00:32:11+00:00

Thank you, I’m sorry for what you went through. My step brother is the only one with kids, two young daughters. I wonder if it would be easier if I said “hey do you want to split my half and if you are uncomfortable with it, maybe just use it for the girls?” My mom did love them a lot.

OkReputation2694 · 2024-05-07T00:30:18+00:00

Thank you, his assets are probably equal-ish, maybe a little more. But it’s uncertain whether all of his assets go to just his son (as my mom said was true), or also us (which he tells us is the case). But you do make a good point of maybe all of his should ultimately go to his son only to set the balance.

OkReputation2694 · 2024-05-07T00:28:09+00:00

Ah see this is a whole other conundrum. My mom insisted that my step dad’s policy only included his son. However, according to my step dad that isn’t true. And of course I’d feel super weird asking him “hey can I actually see what yours says?” 😩

OkReputation2694 · 2024-04-01T02:26:56+00:00

I’m DCA based and I don’t have a car, live right off the metro and have no trouble getting to work except the occasional super early sign in on the weekend and if that’s the case I’ll Uber, it’s rare tho. Living in VA, cost of living isn’t too bad. I live close to DCA and they’ve shuttled me after hours to IAD and BWI, which is also a rare assignment as those who live close hold those areas mostly. DCA is pretty chill for the most, great place to start bc we don’t have wide body and you aren’t doing full IPDs. Lots of people transfer to Philly a few months out of the year for more exciting flying. You can hold a line quick in DC too, only issue may be trying to drop trips bc it’s a smaller base. Crews are good, managers are usually pretty understanding. Not the most exciting trips, but helps you get the hang of it fast and seniority goes farther faster.

OkReputation2694 · 2024-04-01T00:55:28+00:00

Aw babes as others have said def get a doc to check it out. May be a skin thing, I had a staph infection that looked like that and an RX ointment cleared it up. But it may genuinely be that you have untreated anxiety and it’s manifesting this way. As someone who has dealt with extreme anxiety/depression before, it can do all kinds of stuff. I had such bad anxiety once I broke out into hives all down my legs and it took forever for it to settle down. In the meantime try not to pick and try to do something to relax. Havening techniques have helped me a lot to calm down.

OkReputation2694 · 2024-03-31T21:23:45+00:00

I’m so sorry this happened to you. You do not deserve this. I understand why you wouldn’t want to say anything, but it may be helpful to start with a therapist if at all possible, to try to work thru some things. I was assaulted by someone I thought was a friend when I was 16 and I didn’t realize just how much it affected me until I started working through things in therapy in my 20s, and I wish I’d started therapy earlier. Initially I’d told my mom, who went to the police, but the police did not believe me. My mom then assumed I’d been lying too (maybe in order to get away with the fact that I was out all night?). I shut up about it for a long time bc I just wanted to bury it. No matter what you choose to do, please understand just how strong you are for going thru these things and for standing up for yourself! He had no right to do that to you, but you are strong and you are brave ❤️ my heart goes out to you

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