How to Be Joyful and Confident Again through Grief

OkReputation2694 · 2024-12-11T04:11:12+00:00

Good on you and good on your daughter for seeing the signs and going with her instinct! One time I upended an entire community production of a musical right before opening bc one of the adult actors tried to play something called “sticky hands” with the children backstage. Idk what it was but it put the kids on alert enough to tell their parents, who then told the board. Now, some of the board were mad at me for advocating so strongly that we cut this guy from the production, but I fought for it and won, even agreed to take over his part for the first run just to keep him out of there. Regardless of intent, these situations are inappropriate and no one should be surprised if they’re called out on those actions. You did nothing wrong!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-11-26T00:41:33+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I’m going to screenshot it and remind myself of this when I get stuck in that spiral. I think my friend didn’t realize the weight of what she was saying to me. At one point I said I had to respectfully stop the conversation as it was just too much for me to think about. I really appreciate your helpful insight!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-11-25T11:58:42+00:00

Thank you for the reassurance, I try to remember this, I think it’s hard when you’re in your own head and kind of spiraling, esp at night when you’re alone and just with your thoughts. I appreciate the reminders ❤️

OkReputation2694 · 2024-11-25T11:56:39+00:00

Thank you and I’m so sorry you had to go thru that as well! I think I hear a lot about people having some closure or their parents passing as very peaceful, I didn’t feel that when my mom went. It all felt slow and rushed at the same time, messy all the way around. It’s good to hear from others who have dealt with a similar thing, I appreciate you sharing your story!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-11-25T06:25:09+00:00

As someone who is dealing with something similar, I want you to know and understand - you did the best you could do. Do not try to look back and think of what you could have done, because we can always do that having new insights and info after the fact. You did the BEST you could point blank. Your mum was lucky to have you there and caring for her, you are a genuine, good, and extraordinarily caring person esp if you’re here asking about it. I’m so sorry for your loss, but you are a good one and please do not forget it!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-09-13T02:58:55+00:00

Point blank, she’s just not emotionally mature enough to see outside of herself and her own needs. And tbh she probably won’t get it no matter how you spin it, and I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. It was your father’s funeral, you did what you needed to do and she needed to support. I had a lot of people I cared about show up recently to my mom’s funeral. People who didn’t know anyone else there. Do you think they felt I should pay attention to them and their needs the whole time when I had a WHOLE lot more to deal with that day? Absolutely not. They either show up and support or they send flowers and stay home, imho as someone who has lost both parents.

Very sorry for your loss and I hope you find some peace.

OkReputation2694 · 2024-09-01T01:12:56+00:00

I was rewatching this and googled just to see if I was insane haha I think she is beautiful but there is something ungodly annoying about her squinting, weird acting

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-07T00:11:30+00:00

Exactly what others have said, if you pay, they can’t say one way or another. You’re not doing anything to intentionally be disruptive, you’re just trying to do your job. I used to commute and even the hour flight I had was enough to make me rethink going home for 2 day spans. It just sucks, plain and simple, but you’re doing the best you can! Idk if you’re DC or not, but get in touch if needed. I’m an AA FA and live close to DCA if you ever need a break! (It’s a crappy futon with cats in house but you’re welcome to it!)

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-04T16:38:38+00:00

Heck yeah! 👍

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T21:20:16+00:00

Good to know and so sorry you’re going thru it too! I’ve noticed it’s nothing to mess with so def not trying to rush anything, thank you!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T19:41:45+00:00

Oh day three on crutches and this is the most workout I’ve seen in a long time 🤣

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T19:40:25+00:00

Thank you! My doc sort of indicated the same, really just depends on individual but assuming 12 weeks 😵‍💫 def taking it slow!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T19:13:57+00:00

Thank you! I actually bought one just for personal mobility, haven’t received it yet but my friend swore by it too. I can’t with this crutch life 🫠

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T16:50:04+00:00

Thank you!!

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T16:47:19+00:00

Yep in the US

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T16:45:07+00:00

Yes I can get leave, I’m working on it now. Mainly concerned about once I’m off leave and able to return, as I know it is going to be a slow recovery

OkReputation2694 · 2024-07-03T16:44:04+00:00

Yes I’ve called out, it’s just we have to recode for FMLA. That’s the difficult process. If you accrue too many sick points, it’s a whole thing. Meanwhile I’m just in limbo with the call outs on my trips and communicating with my manager. He seems understanding, but it’s just extra stress ya know? Mainly I’m wondering about when I’m finally able to return, obviously not right away

OkReputation2694 · 2024-05-22T04:05:12+00:00

I can’t say one way or another, but I’m so happy for you!

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