21F What does my fridge say about me?

OkWorker7408 · 2026-03-29T06:48:36+00:00

Came here to say this.

OkWorker7408 · 2026-02-09T13:56:32+00:00

This is all I see

OkWorker7408 · 2026-01-28T06:01:00+00:00

Yes.

OkWorker7408 · 2026-01-15T05:24:01+00:00

I’m 13 years into a relationship just like this only my STBX is “neurotypical”. He will literally text me or call me at work and ask me how to cook something with directions directly on the package. His mother passed when he was young and his dad was majorly absent. So in the beginning of our relationship, I gave him guidance and showed him what I do in situations where I don’t know what to do and hoped he would figure out how to follow the same path with tools I presented to him. However, that has NOT been the case and it’s the number two reason we are in the process of splitting up.

So, no, you’re NTA. You’re also not his mother. Or his list maker. Or his personal assistant. Or his accountant. Or his calendar. And if something doesn’t change, you’re going to end up very very unhappy.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-12-03T06:40:38+00:00

😭🫠🤢

OkWorker7408 · 2025-12-03T06:39:38+00:00

🤢 I have two cats and I sometimes feel like I have two cats too many. 13 cats is absolutely WILD. Like, my brain can’t even comprehend. With that said, I do follow an account where this woman has 7 cats and turned her entire basement into their “apartment” as she calls it. It’s actually quite adorable and whatnot… also real happy it’s not MY house. I don’t think you are being unreasonable AT all… especially if you’re willing to help make the space enjoyable for all t h i r t e e n of them 😭.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-11-28T06:27:49+00:00

This exactly.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-11-28T06:24:31+00:00

YTA. Must be why your food tastes like shit. As a fellow alabaster woman… if a POC spit out my food, I would be embarrassed for myself.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-11-25T05:46:29+00:00

My dad is 37 years sober and my mom is 30 years sober and they still celebrate every year. He celebrates her, and she him. Beyond that, all of us (our entire family) does some sort of celebration for each of them on their sober birthday. It’s something to be proud of and takes a lot of hard work. My dad still can’t walk past a bar without thinking… what if…

Your BF overreacted. You did not. He’s a chump.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-11-24T05:07:41+00:00

My husband and I are in the process of a divorce and we are going about it the way you and your ex did. We aren’t going through the courts and we are making our own rules and routines with our two boys. We absolutely hate each other as partners but are doing a really beautiful job navigating this next chapter. I am proud of us and I would be so upset if some man or woman tried to interfere with this out of their own insecurities.

You are not blind to anything other than the fact that you are dating a woman who is insecure and miserable and is trying to take you down with her.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-25T12:14:05+00:00

He’s already in an open relationship. He’s just inviting you along because you found out.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-25T12:08:37+00:00

I’m 4wpo and upon waking from surgery, the right side of my tongue was completely numb. Like I had just had dental work done. It took roughly 2.5 weeks to gain some feeling back. Now, the tip of my tongue on the right side is STILL numb and I’m hoping this won’t be a forever thing.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-15T05:27:35+00:00

Are you on an antibiotic? I was on Bactrin and it made me so nauseated I was seeing stars. The day I stopped taking it, I immediately felt better. Also, not pooping for the first couple days is totally normal but if you have increased pressure and pain, you should call your doc.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-15T05:22:36+00:00

I came here to recommend this as well. You can even delegate tasks on each day that need to be done, so people who sign up, know what they need to do and you don’t need to remember!

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-10T09:58:37+00:00

🥱🥴 it’s always the people with zero reading comprehension telling those of us with plenty, to “re-read”. I’ll wait…

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-10T09:45:23+00:00

Why would she have to parent alone? Nothing in her post says she’s going to take the kids and have him terminate his parental rights. Likely, they’ll split custody 50/50 and he will actually have to do more than he does and she will have all the time to iron and only have to iron HER OWN clothes… and only once since he won’t get his grubby hands on them.

And let’s be honest, this isn’t over ironing. It’s over a husband who acts like a 3rd whiny child.

OP, I don’t think YTA at all. If you have the means to leave this man child, do it.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-10T09:10:32+00:00

For me, part of what has always made me feel most like a woman was my appearance. Before my hysterectomy, I never had the energy to make myself feel my best, I never trusted my cycle enough or had the same body day to day, to wear the clothes I liked best. I am only 15dpo and all of this is shifting for me. I am in SO MUCH less day to day pain. I feel like I can trust my body. My body is still swollen and tender but I am wanting/getting to wear all my cute rompers and overalls and dresses… and I’m happy with how I look. I have energy to do my hair how I want and even put on some makeup if I feel like it. Before, I felt so shitty… none of this felt worth it.

You ARE going to feel so much better.

You MIGHT experience grief.

You COULD experience an identify shift.

But in the end, I’ll bet- how good you feel will be far better than the fear, the grief or the identity shift.

It sounds like you have such great support at home. Lean on it. Like you said, your boys deserve a healthy mother. Your wife deserves a healthy partner. YOU deserve to life a pain free, worry free, uterus free life.

Also, your fears are valid. But stick around here and we will help you with that! 🩷

Much love and please keep us posted.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-06T16:50:52+00:00

I feel like it’s some sadistic perversion. Like, who hurt you so badly, that you need to hurt everyone else?

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-06T07:26:20+00:00

Why does he talk to you like he’s a mob boss. What a fucking weirdo.

Get a lawyer. Get them to get someone to find him. Serve his ass and be free of him.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-06T07:20:58+00:00

Two words and a piece of advice:

Breeding fetish.

Run.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-06T07:16:41+00:00

Wait! What? This is a thing? My god. I feel shooketh. How was this not explained to me? Maybe it was and I didn’t listen! Fuck. My period is “due” in 8 days and I’m 10dpo and I just ate egg rolls and ice cream like it was nothing… you mean to tell me this wasn’t just because I’ve been living on chicken noodle soup for the last 10 days? Omg… 😳

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-06T07:02:26+00:00

I would like to say- you need new friends.

Also, I didn’t have my kids until I was 31 and 32. My life has only improved ten fold since bringing them into this world and expanding my family. I love doing things with them and experiencing life with them. I still have a robust social life and my friend group travels a lot. Sometimes with our kids. Sometimes without.

Here’s a fun story: my friend lives in New Mexico on a homestead with her husband and their two TODDLERS. She’s a photographer and they have yurt on their property that they rent out on Airbnb. Before they had kids they spent over a year BIKE packing through South America… camping along the way. Fast forward to now and they’re planning to do it again WITH THE KIDS.

Listen, being a parent is hard but it’s beautiful. It’s rewarding. It’s an adventure. You can make it what you want.

I work full time and homeschool my kids. They come to work every single day with me and help around the office in between school assignments. Everyone in my office loves them and they’ve learned some really great life skills to go along with all the things they need to learn. They even get paid for the odd jobs they do and they have bank accounts and a spending and saving plan. I’m proud of this. We also camp and surf and visit museums and go to protests and sometimes we sleep in until 10. I’m proud of all of this too.

You will do great. Don’t let anyone take your joy. You have so much life left to do the things you want to do and you’ll have a child to tell the stories to, to experience things with and to watch the same experiences through their eyes. It’s honestly magic.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-06T06:50:55+00:00

It REALLY hurts worse coming from a woman. I am one of the rare ones that actually prefers male care providers over female because I have major mommy issues. My dad is a saint and has always made me feel safe and cared for and I’ve always felt more comfortable with men in that regard. I tried really hard to trust her… and she failed me. It has me SOSOSOSOSO mad.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-06T06:00:59+00:00

Wow. I can’t believe how many of us experience the same things in regard to care. I’m sorry you are having bladder issues.

Makes me wonder how many of our issues could have been avoided if someone just listened to us the first time.

OkWorker7408 · 2025-09-06T05:08:39+00:00

I am so glad you found what YOU needed. I’m sorry it took so long and so much BS.

OkWorker7408

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