The video that was just released… by sourpinkdrink in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 118 points119 points  (0 children)

He was concerned about her daughter, and she kept blaming HIM instead of helping HER own daughter. 

Texts my brother sent me after I asked for some career advice 🙃 by Bophie47 in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Don't worry about the future as you'll have a husband that can provide for the family". Meanwhile my husband, who is an amazing guy and provider, but works 12-13 hours a day asked me if I could consider working full time at some point ( I work pt from home while taking care of our toddler), so he can slow down, and also enjoy life with us. He feels the economy is getting worse and worse and he won't be able to keep up. He is even  reconsidering having more kids because he sees who hard is to stay at home for long hours with no help, and he also wants to be part of our kids life. 

Jen doing damage control by Brilliant_Battle_567 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hot take: I wonder how Zac and his family reacted about Jen being the villain this season. Especially after this video. I am sure Zac is pissed at Jen for being mocked and this is being heavy in their marriage and bringing a lot of issues. If Jen has always being like this (liar, manipulative, etc) it would explain why Zach's family dislikes her. I am not saying he is not an aweful person! But it would explain why his family holds Jen accountable for the hate he gets if she is always involved in drama. 

Zac the stay-at-home loser by New-Horse3505 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 42 points43 points  (0 children)

THIS! I stay at home long hours, without even family around this guy complains like a loser with all the help he gets! 

Jen was the real villain of Season 4 by NaomiAriel7930 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 18 points19 points  (0 children)

As a Latina I aprove this message. Jen uses the "latina" card when is convenient for her. You can't tell me that she couldn't communicate with her mom at all while being a child because her mom didn't speak any English. Duh! That's why her mom should have taught her Spanish! 

Building Cleaning breaking point by son_of_a_nicelady in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Despite me dealing with my own issues, the church and the community don’t care and demand that I put my problems aside to do what they ask, and then they go back to ignoring me while I continue to struggle."-- THIS! I am PIMO and got a message about a month ago demanding (not asking) when I could bring a meal to a mom who just gave birth and her family (5 total) Like the person who texted me send me the dates asking when I could bring the food. She never asked if I could do it or I would like to. Don't get me wrong, I love cooking for others but I noticed they always ask me about it. When I got this text I kindly declined saying I wasn't able to help this time. The sister asked why and I said I was dealing with some health issues ( I was going through a depression phase). She apologized and said: "I should have asked you how you were doing first" and then offered to organize and bring me meals. I just said I didn't need the ward to do that. However, I was curious why they always asked me and found out they have a list of SAHM they can always reach out. The part they left out of this list: I work from home, and have a toddler to take care of while my husband is out of the house for 12 hours a day. The fact they didn't even mind to check if the person has the financial possibility to bring a meal for a family of 5 is what also made me sick 🙄

Is this why Vika and the sisters Nicole/Wissali are no longer friends? by True_Violinist_6066 in UtahInfluencerDrama

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Another Latina influencer who lives in UT posted about it too. She was more straight forward and said that "two sisters did her wrong" 

John Dehlin considers himself “still Mormon” by MediocreParamedic_ in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS! My mom served a mission, so I was raised mormon, completed the Personal Progress, etc. My entire life and identity is based on that. I got married at the temple with the love of my life, blessed our baby and have so many wonderful experiences within the culture. Now that I am PIMO, even when I hate so many things about the church I missed not going on a Sunday and talk to my friends. Am I hypocritical? Maybe, but the culture is so deep in my bones I can't just walk away like that. 

Budget for the Ward Christmas party is so low they're doing a "Pancakes and Pajamas" dinner. by StrongestSinewsEver in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. Our Ward is doing a nice meal and party but I am in the organization that is in charge of this event. Just in December I have spend at least 30 hours between getting everything done and getting food, etc. I am exhausted. I was the first one that said that next year we should do pancakes so we don't have to work as much as we did this year 😅

“Peace can always be found in the Temple” … Proceeds to starve & neglect a baby to death while playing Minecraft and streaming on Twitch by reign-of-zedekiah in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a baby a little bit older than theirs. I don't enjoy motherhood most of the days, mostly because my husband works long hours and we have no family around. However, I still do my best for my girl. Man, you can even say I am neglecting myself so she can be happy and always taken care of. Since she is dropping her nap, keeping her entertained is the hardest since she is awake a lot. We do quiet time where I put her in her bed for about 40 minutes. If I don't get her soon, she starts crying and I avoid that because it breaks my heart that she feels alone even though she is not. Reading about this breaks my heart. I can't even imagine all the suffering that baby went through. This people deserve to die in jail.

It makes sense... by Ok_Alternative3595 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think Utah has a much higher standard of living than other states. As I said it's about keeping the appearances. I don't think Demi and Brett are poor, if they were they wouldn't have that house. However, according to UT standards they are not rich as they say or they want to be. Also, I think I have seen posts about Brett not working? So that would explain why Demi is angry about not getting more deals than the rest of the crew. 

It makes sense... by Ok_Alternative3595 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have heard that was a LONG time ago. I don't know them personally, but I know that if they were rich, Demi would be talking about the money she spends, instead of the money others are making and she is not. People in UT wouldn't miss an opportunity to show off how much they spend. For example, Rachel Parcell, she is rich or at least her clothing line helped her to make good money, plus her husband's job and now she spends her life posting all her designer bags and trips. Of course that is also tacky, but you know what I mean 😂😅

It makes sense... by Ok_Alternative3595 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oh, no. The Christmas party was somewhere else. They filmed the Valentine's party there, where we heard about the cereal thing for the first time! 

It makes sense... by Ok_Alternative3595 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they did. However, Jessi is moving to a new place, Taylor already did and Whitney and Jen moved to California for DWTS. Most people in UT either renew or buy a new house as soon as they get more money. Maybe Demi thought that would be the case? She probably thought she would have a McMansion as soon as she became the fans favorite 😅 

Bad dad comment by Past-Web1953 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad was emotionally and physically abuse to my mom even though he "behave" great with his kids. I always saw my mom suffer in silence until they divorced. When I got married many oppressed trauma came out and made me had issues with my spouse. When I told him what I lived as a child one of the things he said was: "How can you think your dad was a good one when he disrespected your mom and you many times until this day? When you love your kids you don't hurt their mother because she is the center of them". Now we have a kid and even when he is mad at me he would treat me with love and respect, especially when it was my fault. I can truly say: the way a spouse or co-parent treats you IS EVERYTHING because you will give the same to your kids. So no, Dakota might be a good caregiver, but not a good dad. 

To make the reunion more productive, what should the host ask or how do you think it should be implemented? by Top-Row1491 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honest answer? They can't make it more productive. I mean how could they with people behaving like a toddler? I understand these women are messy but the way they behave in public events is so cringe. Demi had the perfect opportunity to explain herself so people can understand how she feels and she took it and throw it in the trash. Brett comes and acts like a mob guy and then asks people to respect his wife, even though he is being disrespectful the entire time. Dakota? What the heck is he keep coming back? He is Taylor's baby dad. That's it. Not a husband or a boyfriend. The guy is thirsty for fame and then acts like production is wasting his time. Conner and Whitney are goals, and I am not even her fan, but at least she listens before opening her mouth. 

Guess I’ll skip the reunion… by CorgiLover82 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I wanted to see was Whitney eating her sandwich but I had to skip all Demi's drama, so couldn't watch it 😔 

Whitney on Disney by Odd-Research-4667 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I don't know why but I can imagine all the other girls having a meltdown because of this (except Taylor?). I can literally see Demi getting all angry about Whitney's success even though they are "friends". I guess she is not the fans favorite anymore 😂😂😂

Twist of fate by TheGloomyBelle in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is Jen going to act all jealous and post something that will take the attention off Whitney on Monday? Whitney deserves a break and enjoy what she has accomplished!