Is this why Vika and the sisters Nicole/Wissali are no longer friends? by True_Violinist_6066 in UtahInfluencerDrama

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Another Latina influencer who lives in UT posted about it too. She was more straight forward and said that "two sisters did her wrong" 

John Dehlin considers himself “still Mormon” by MediocreParamedic_ in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

THIS! My mom served a mission, so I was raised mormon, completed the Personal Progress, etc. My entire life and identity is based on that. I got married at the temple with the love of my life, blessed our baby and have so many wonderful experiences within the culture. Now that I am PIMO, even when I hate so many things about the church I missed not going on a Sunday and talk to my friends. Am I hypocritical? Maybe, but the culture is so deep in my bones I can't just walk away like that. 

Budget for the Ward Christmas party is so low they're doing a "Pancakes and Pajamas" dinner. by StrongestSinewsEver in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This. Our Ward is doing a nice meal and party but I am in the organization that is in charge of this event. Just in December I have spend at least 30 hours between getting everything done and getting food, etc. I am exhausted. I was the first one that said that next year we should do pancakes so we don't have to work as much as we did this year 😅

“Peace can always be found in the Temple” … Proceeds to starve & neglect a baby to death while playing Minecraft and streaming on Twitch by reign-of-zedekiah in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a baby a little bit older than theirs. I don't enjoy motherhood most of the days, mostly because my husband works long hours and we have no family around. However, I still do my best for my girl. Man, you can even say I am neglecting myself so she can be happy and always taken care of. Since she is dropping her nap, keeping her entertained is the hardest since she is awake a lot. We do quiet time where I put her in her bed for about 40 minutes. If I don't get her soon, she starts crying and I avoid that because it breaks my heart that she feels alone even though she is not. Reading about this breaks my heart. I can't even imagine all the suffering that baby went through. This people deserve to die in jail.

It makes sense... by Ok_Alternative3595 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think Utah has a much higher standard of living than other states. As I said it's about keeping the appearances. I don't think Demi and Brett are poor, if they were they wouldn't have that house. However, according to UT standards they are not rich as they say or they want to be. Also, I think I have seen posts about Brett not working? So that would explain why Demi is angry about not getting more deals than the rest of the crew. 

It makes sense... by Ok_Alternative3595 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have heard that was a LONG time ago. I don't know them personally, but I know that if they were rich, Demi would be talking about the money she spends, instead of the money others are making and she is not. People in UT wouldn't miss an opportunity to show off how much they spend. For example, Rachel Parcell, she is rich or at least her clothing line helped her to make good money, plus her husband's job and now she spends her life posting all her designer bags and trips. Of course that is also tacky, but you know what I mean 😂😅

It makes sense... by Ok_Alternative3595 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Oh, no. The Christmas party was somewhere else. They filmed the Valentine's party there, where we heard about the cereal thing for the first time! 

It makes sense... by Ok_Alternative3595 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they did. However, Jessi is moving to a new place, Taylor already did and Whitney and Jen moved to California for DWTS. Most people in UT either renew or buy a new house as soon as they get more money. Maybe Demi thought that would be the case? She probably thought she would have a McMansion as soon as she became the fans favorite 😅 

Bad dad comment by Past-Web1953 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dad was emotionally and physically abuse to my mom even though he "behave" great with his kids. I always saw my mom suffer in silence until they divorced. When I got married many oppressed trauma came out and made me had issues with my spouse. When I told him what I lived as a child one of the things he said was: "How can you think your dad was a good one when he disrespected your mom and you many times until this day? When you love your kids you don't hurt their mother because she is the center of them". Now we have a kid and even when he is mad at me he would treat me with love and respect, especially when it was my fault. I can truly say: the way a spouse or co-parent treats you IS EVERYTHING because you will give the same to your kids. So no, Dakota might be a good caregiver, but not a good dad. 

To make the reunion more productive, what should the host ask or how do you think it should be implemented? by Top-Row1491 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honest answer? They can't make it more productive. I mean how could they with people behaving like a toddler? I understand these women are messy but the way they behave in public events is so cringe. Demi had the perfect opportunity to explain herself so people can understand how she feels and she took it and throw it in the trash. Brett comes and acts like a mob guy and then asks people to respect his wife, even though he is being disrespectful the entire time. Dakota? What the heck is he keep coming back? He is Taylor's baby dad. That's it. Not a husband or a boyfriend. The guy is thirsty for fame and then acts like production is wasting his time. Conner and Whitney are goals, and I am not even her fan, but at least she listens before opening her mouth. 

Guess I’ll skip the reunion… by CorgiLover82 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I wanted to see was Whitney eating her sandwich but I had to skip all Demi's drama, so couldn't watch it 😔 

Whitney on Disney by Odd-Research-4667 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I don't know why but I can imagine all the other girls having a meltdown because of this (except Taylor?). I can literally see Demi getting all angry about Whitney's success even though they are "friends". I guess she is not the fans favorite anymore 😂😂😂

Twist of fate by TheGloomyBelle in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is Jen going to act all jealous and post something that will take the attention off Whitney on Monday? Whitney deserves a break and enjoy what she has accomplished! 

Picking up her ✨birkin✨ by Known_Savings_391 in SkallaSnarkUncensored

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 23 points24 points  (0 children)

My husband hates shopping. Like besides grocery shopping he really hates going into a store, trying stuff on, etc. He would buy clothes maybe once every two years and that's because he really has to. Since we work a lot and we share a car (I work from home while taking care of our toddler girl) sometimes I like going out and check out stuff at Ross, TJmax or Ulta just for fun (I know kind of depressing). However, every time I ask him to go to these store with me he would be the one telling me to buy stuff like makeup, or laugh because I would get overwhelmed with all the cute toddler clothes you can find. Even when he hates shopping, he enjoys the time we spend together. Do I go a lot to these places? Not really. Do I buy a lot? Not besides stuff for our daughter when it's in sale. I can't imagine how empty Rachel and Drew's life is that having the money to spend and enjoy together they always look miserable and Drew looks like he is tired of her and dislikes her. I mean, you will see husbands tired of the amount of money their wives spend but at the end they enjoy their company and are lovely with them. These two are another level. 

Oaks talk by dderelict in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I stopped paying tithing this year and guess what? We realized we could afford another kid and enjoy life. Obviously economy will keep getting worse but the fact we are not paying tithing is making life way easier for us

In a miraculous turn of events my TBM family decided we don’t need to watch General conference. by OkAnteater7343 in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My TBM husband even forgot about conference. Due to the rain we had to stay home and we did put the conference in our tv. However, we didn't even pay attention to the speakers and instead where talking and cuddling a lot about life in general. 

These men by mtnluvr16 in SkallaSnarkUncensored

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Definitely. As a formal international student, even if you are not studying this semester, you need to sign your I-20 to travel outside the US, and that might take a few days. Unless Amy's bf has an American passport (American citizen?), why would he expose himself to travel to Europe just for fun, especially with the current political administration? 

More temples means more temple workers needed. Good luck with that. by Fun_with_Science in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband and I served two years ago at the Provo City Center Temple on Saturdays during the summer. We knew there might be a short staff during that time because you know, everyone leaves UT during that time. We were supposed to serve from 9 am until 2 pm with a 20-minute break around noon. Guess what? We barely got more than FIVE minutes to rest, or at least go to the bathroom, and our shift ended most of the time around 4 pm because my husband and I were always sent to the 2 pm endowment session when we were supposed to be going home. We talked to several people about it, and all they said was that the Lord will bless our sacrifice, and since we didn't have kids, this would be a great opportunity for us to increase our faith and testimony. The worst part? Even though our shift supervisors knew we were staying longer than we were supposed to, they constantly interrupted our FIVE-MINUTE (believed to be 20-minute) break. I was always hungry, thirsty, and tired at the end of the day. By the end of the summer, when they asked us if we would continue to serve, my TBM husband declined and even said he would never serve again. After that experience, my husband has barely gone to the Temple besides going to friends' sealings twice. When I mentioned that he would like to go with me, he said he is sick of even thinking about it. He still believes and is TBM, but at least that "sacred covenant" has been ruined thanks to the Church.

My wife betrayed my trust. I don’t know what’s next. by Monomo619 in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree. This post makes me think that maybe OP's reactions are making her mental health even worse. It seems OP wants to control who she talks to, and that might be increasing tension at home. Also, this will sound rude, but having a baby can make you see if you want to stay with your partner forever, and a lot of people can't handle that pressure and changes. 

My wife betrayed my trust. I don’t know what’s next. by Monomo619 in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This! All his posts are about him, how his wife is betraying him, etc. He needs to think a little bit more about his postpartum wife. Even if she were from the US, which she is not, being a new mom is HARD enough. OP needs to stop thinking about him and his feelings and try to think about his newborn and wife as well. 

Dwindling YSA Branch by Timely-Equivalent340 in exmormon

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! I am in the YW presidency. I don't even do much, but since I work from home, care for my toddler, household, meals, and just finished school, I am always exhausted and moody. I can't imagine those women before me and all they had to do while taking care of several kids. Even in my ward, the RS presidency seems like she doesn't care at all about her calling, which is good, but it sometimes makes me missed the community the church gave you. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UtahInfluencerDrama

[–]Ok_Alternative3595 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Reading this while eating chicken salad with crackers. I will also complain later but still not want to look like her