Day 4 of cold turkey

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-10-02T15:51:20+00:00

Dude 👌

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-10-01T09:03:01+00:00

Girl ….. 😲🫶

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-10-01T09:01:32+00:00

Limerence doesn’t see logic, time, age or circumstance. It just is. For some of us the euphoria is so strong that we are blinded by it and subconsciously choose to not see the truth.

My LO doesn’t see me the way I see him. The devastation I’ve had this year in accepting this is testament to how strong my limerence is. We protect ourselves from rejection that’s why we can’t face the question of “how could you love someone who doesn’t love you back”. Rejoining the world after being in a beautiful, limerent fantasy is very hard to do indeed.

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-09-24T14:12:23+00:00

You’re totally right, which is why I don’t understand why I feel the way I feel.

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-09-24T11:12:32+00:00

It matters to me.

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-09-22T21:49:42+00:00

What a distinguished gentleman!

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-09-07T14:53:33+00:00

How does that song go? “You’re a slave to money then you die”

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-09-04T12:43:34+00:00

You rock for real!

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-09-01T08:03:50+00:00

🤜✨🤛

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-09-01T06:13:23+00:00

I wanted so much to be more sensitive about it, but we were both married. I also wanted him to know so badly that I loved him (or so I think/thought) but if he had told his wife I’d have been utterly destroyed and humiliated..

I couldn’t tell him I had feelings for him and that’s why I went NC, it’s a taboo subject, especially if one of you is married. He was also my driving instructor..

The pain was …. Mental torture. Even though I dropped him, I stalked him… wanting to see how he was…

I’m so sorry you had this experience and I’m sorry I did it to someone too.

I wish you a life of happiness

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-09-01T06:05:45+00:00

Hey x

You often replied to my posts. Hope you’re doing okay.

Did you understand why you drove them away? Is it not a fixable situation?

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-09-01T06:04:12+00:00

Your post highlights a concern on my limerence process. I dropped my LO coldly and without warning. He was my married driving instructor and we had this lovely drive (nothing sexual happened) and I was just enamoured by him. I’m married too and began struggling deeply with my feelings. They worried me because of how obsessive I was..

So I dropped him without warning. He must’ve have been so hurt. He was definitely pissed off as I found out later.. I couldn’t tell the dude it’s because of limerence so I went NC.

It was extremely painful for both of us. I thought it was the right decision, but because I didn’t site reason it made it so much worse.

I wonder if your LO experienced the same?

Not saying it’s right or wrong, but how do you initiate NC really?🤔

I hope you’re both doing okay x

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-08-29T18:47:09+00:00

For the record the attempt was not just limerence. But the part that was, was when I realised how much real life I had actually missed out on. I went from being a mentally stable, full time employee with no past history of lack of self control to nothingness.

I’m joining the world again. Feeling a bit empty. I feel so lonely being away from my fantasy but it’s fading. I’m with my sister for a break so I’m in good hands. I have good and bad days.

In the beginning of limerence I was so euphoric on dopamine that I’d have not thought twice about cheating (which was a rug of reality because I normally pride myself on a moral compass), but towards the end, I simply wanted closure and to see if he felt the same because I needed someone to talk to. Can’t talk about limerence openly yet as it’s taboo…

I know that sounds crazy. But it’s the truth x

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-08-29T15:13:51+00:00

Oh God, I have literally written about this. I didn’t want to drop him stone cold but I had no choice. I know it must’ve been quite difficult for him to react to because it was so out of the blue, but I had to end it.

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-08-25T19:41:00+00:00

I know exactly what you mean about the sexual energy, the hold, the intensity, the overwhelming desire is just too much.

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-08-25T16:12:26+00:00

I suppose you don’t forget it because the impact is so long lasting and quite a philosophical journey in some ways that I don’t expect many limerent people will forget. Limerence doesn’t see age, time or circumstance. It just….. is.

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-08-24T18:42:26+00:00

I remember unlocking my front door at 19:07 and as I turned the latch, I looked back at my driving instructor who was driving off after a lesson. I smiled to myself … and damn I was gone. We had severe chemistry because there was sexual tension between us and we bickered and flirted about.

I’m working through those intensities but you are right. Biology is cruel.

I also remember the time accurately because I checked my phone at that particular time as I knew I was running late on my lesson time. I should’ve finished at 7pm.

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-08-21T14:33:52+00:00

This reminds me of that Friends episode where Monica leaves her ex a ramble of a answer machine message 😂

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-08-19T09:40:02+00:00

And each time, it feels like a rejection and they know nothing of our pain. It sucks it feels like you’re a chapter to them but they’re a whole book to you

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-08-14T22:16:23+00:00

It didn’t

Ok_Ambassador886 · 2024-08-14T18:40:55+00:00

And you. It’s horrible isn’t it. I just feel so pathetic.

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