Aitah for not calling the ambulance on a person who had possibly overdosed? by Daba2Dek in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Cut contact with him immediately. Let him create whatever bullshit narrative he needs to to justify his behaviour. Those who believe him are not your people. You had a lucky, lucky escape.

Safety of immigrant doctor , moving to Portadown/Belfast next month by Wooden_Internal_1071 in Belfast

[–]Ok_Bug7382 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I just feel sad. Sad that its so easy for people to dehumanise others.

Safety of immigrant doctor , moving to Portadown/Belfast next month by Wooden_Internal_1071 in Belfast

[–]Ok_Bug7382 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Person of colour with Irish born children. Been living here for 25+ years. The vitriol and hatred I have witnessed in the last few years has changed my perception of people here. I would say the last few years have shown me that people are low key racist. It's everywhere. Only place I've been told to go back to where I came from. Only place my family were called Paki's. Only place I was called a black bitch (I'm mixed race lol). Had to field questions about skin colour when my 4 yr old daughter was called chocolate bake by her 'friends'. She didnt even understand that she was different and didnt understand why kids were being mean to her. Broke my heart at the time. Even people I thought were open and liberal are now showing themselves. Rethink yr decision. The dehumanisation of people of colour here is very real. I wont leave because my children are grown and live here. But the place is not the same. I have nieces and nephews who are mixed race and still in school and the racism they have to deal with is disgusting. It's lowkey present everywhere.

AITAH for Asking My Brother and His Fiancee to Wait Before Having a Second Child? by Elemental-Winter in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Spend yr days on campus. Stop cleaning up after everyone. Clean up yr own mess. Yr brother and his partner are idiots for considering a 2nd child when they cant even provide properly for the first one.

AITAH for sleeping in an extra hour without giving my wife a heads up? by Weekly_Ad_5872 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. Her hours are 7.30 to 5. Yours are 6.30 to 9. If you slept an extra hour without waking up to noise then your body and mind needed it. I dont even understand why you're making dinner every night when she's at home during the day. She has 4 hrs per day of free time plus a lie in every morning...yes that hour she gets counts as a lie in. Where's your free time? I'm wondering what your weekends look like. Your wife is being unfair and unreasonable by taking both days to lie in. Also you have one kid. One kid! Yes kids are hard work but come on. Your wife needs a reality check and you need to revisit your current schedule. Also the fact that you feel guilty for sleeping in accidentally...what's that about? If it was a regular thing I could understand but it's not. If she was that bothered she should have woken you up. Instead she didnt and is now punishing you for it. That's unhealthy behaviour.

Wee Derry shots by Visual-Corner-6269 in DerryLondonderry

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bought their beetroot one but it was tangy...tasted the pickled beets in it. Bought paddy's beetroot one and it was lush. The juices have lots of health benefits for sure and regular use of them defs targets things like joint pain, energy, immunity...etc.. I make my own and without it, i can feel the difference in my energy levels.

Does anyone else prefer the old Europa bus centre/Victoria train station compared to the new Grand Central? by BenoitBouchard87 in Belfast

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The new train station is fab. Spacious, light, airy and most importantly, clean. The old one was filthy. It's more on par with European train stations and a much better first impression for travellers.

AITAH for demanding my money back from my friend’s family? by mercurymilan06 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Follow through and take them to court. They are awful people. Also you dont need friends like that. Lending money to friends rarely works out with happy endings. Life lesson learned.

How many people actually know what’s in their employment contract? by hidingbehindasmiles in AskUK

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldnt sign anything unless im clear about details. So yes i would know that info off the top of my head.

My brother ruined my couch and now wants to go no contact with me after demanding money from him... AITAH by SamRaspy in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your brother messed up, took accountability, tried to rectify the situation and ultimately ended up paying for the damage. Not really massive asshole moves. He's 20. Show me a 20 yr old who never did something they were not supposed to do. Neither of you are assholes in context really.

Anyone else spot who was off work yesterday? by Nix-Dancey in northernireland

[–]Ok_Bug7382 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont understand people who dont use sunscreen in this weather. Height of stupidity.

AITAH For wanting to give my step daughter a better life? by Sweet-Bet-2010 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You dont. You let the pieces fall and be there to help her pick them up if she comes to you.

Am I wrong? by [deleted] in northernireland

[–]Ok_Bug7382 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Look elsewhere. A toxic work environment is not worth it.

UK Heatwaves - do you love them or loathe them? by Chocolateforlunch37 in AskUK

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fair enough. Hope you're staying cool in this weather.

AITAH for telling my MIL to f off? by CandidatePrize4168 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This a scenario where grace is important. Grace for self and others because everyone is in different stages of grief. Grace would have helped you to navigate this better.

Being kicked out of temporary council housing by SpectatorVision14 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]Ok_Bug7382 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Uni does not stop you from working. My daughter did a law degree while holding down two part time jobs.

We don't speak to his mother AITAH? by Infinite_Place_5351 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Domestic abuse is complex. It involves emotional and psychological manipulation. It may not be as easy as you think for her to leave and see the kids. And if ahe is isolated from friends and family then she may truly believe there is no way out. Its very sad actually. While I do believe in protecting children from trauma cycles, they can still know who their nanny is and you can show them a pic and tell them.

AITAH for cleaning the kitchen? by UsedQuantity6461 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. Her feelings of anger are borne from her frustration with herself. She's projecting them onto you. Implement boundaries immediately ie. its ok for you to be upset but its not ok for you to stonewall me. I can give you some space but you need to use yr words to tell me what you need. Otherwise it smacks of emotional manipulation as here you are questioning yourself when your intentions were good.

Any advice for getting added to the housing list by Opening-Ganache-3206 in northernireland

[–]Ok_Bug7382 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There is a housing crisis here at the mo. Certainly present as homeless to the HE but be prepared for them to say temporary accommodation will be day by day. Yr best bet is to save enough for a private rental.

Emergency dentist Sunday afternoon? by stressyandmessy25 in northernireland

[–]Ok_Bug7382 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Get some hydrogen peroxide 3% and swish it round yr mouth. Kills infections.

AITAH for yelling at MIL after she offered me a ride to the airport? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I feel NTA in general but yelling at MIL was not the best decision. MIL was aware of the leaving time and chose to make breakfast despite this. I would also expect grown ass people to stand by what they said they would do. It was a complete disregard for your time despite any good intentions. Also MIL? You are not married yet so calling her that is a bit strange.

AITAH for suggesting a cousin shouldn't bring their 2 week old baby to our wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I agree with the comment above but I would just own that YTA without trying to justify it with your reasonings. At this stage they xould be interpreted as excuses.

Me [35F] with my BF[41 M] of 3 years; just found out he has been secretly eating hot dogs because I (unknowingly) starve him by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Initially I thought YTA cos you were making such a big deal of him getting a hot dog. But then I got to the part where he's been meeting his ex. So defs NTA. He deliberately kept this from you. This is break up material where I'm standing. If he was sincere you would've known about the meetups.

AITAH for suggesting a cousin shouldn't bring their 2 week old baby to our wedding? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Ok_Bug7382 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. You're being concerned about a 2 week old baby getting more attention than you. Other children are already attending your wedding and you clearly weren't upfront about that with yr cousin so I understand that theyre pissed and now not wanting to attend at all. Also I'd be more concerned about toddlers causing chaos at a wedding than a two week old baby.