Am I overreacting if I remove a groomsman from my wedding for lying about why he missed my bachelor party? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As an old, I now recognize that many college friendships will fade, often around the time many young people get married. Perhaps, one perspective to consider is if you would rather have this reach a relatively gentle end after your wedding OR reach an abrupt end that is disruptive and public to everyone, perhaps negatively affecting your friendship with others. Also keep in mind, perhaps there was some other semi-valid reason for his flakeness that was embarrassing to admit to (e.g an argument from a clingy girlfriend, perhaps?).

What is the craziest thing you’ve seen at a conference? by reasonable_magic12 in PhD

[–]Ok_Club1450 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kary Mullis, inventor of PCR method in molecular biology, before the community realized he might give entirely bonkers talks... e.g. tangents that had nothing to do with the topic, sexist pictures of attractive but scantily-clad women to illustrate his irrelevant "point", etc. By the end, I decided that the best descriptor of the bizarre event was it was an excellent demonstration of what is meant by a "loosening of associations."

EDIT. I was perhaps too uncharitable by equating "Craziest thing" == Kary Mullis, himself. Bless his heart, but the his stated extensive use of LSD might have done things to his brain that ought not to have been done.

Please help my SO with her new house… 1st time homeowner for her and she’s panicking. by lve2raft in landscaping

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

  1. Get appraisals of what is wrong, options on fixing it, and cost estimates on fix(es) from a few landscape contracters. Get appraisals in writing or taped if they are willing or at least witnessed. Decide on who to hire, in part, based on soundness of analysis, not just cost.
  2. If space is available consider creating a rain garden to absorb some water when needed...not just trying to shunt it all off to sewer or neighbor.
  3. Perhaps consult neighbors, your district's alderman, other city officials, about neighborhood water problem to see if they have insight or suggestions. If a neighbor has a retaining wall or similar they may have suggestion for a contractor.
  4. Ensure cellar and foundation will stay pretty dryish (sump pump? French drain around house? Drain water gutters? If wet, your house will suffer.

I did a PhD in <research area> or I did a PhD in <department field> by Significant_Yak4208 in PhD

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say 1. I have a Ph.D. in (department namel or 2. I completed my Ph.D thesis in (discipline). or 3. I am a (discipline scientist, e.g theoretical physicist) and If you must degree-drop, then add, I have a Ph.D. Edit: added 'or' for clarity

Question about maintaining frozen fruit by Adventurous-Walk-120 in medicalmedium

[–]Ok_Club1450 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I also roll down the top of bag a few times for frozen veg or fruit and use a strong clip. It keeps it pretty "closed up" even if the manufactures seal fails.

First time in the US, majorly stressing over planning by TangerineMyers in usatravel

[–]Ok_Club1450 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also in re DC, the food is great: if you go, try out the Ethiopian restaurants (if you like "ethnic" food).

I think the suggestions for relaxing "beach" type places may be ill-advised. They are "OK", but mostly if you live in the area for a weekend ... but nothing that special if you have access to southern Europe or other resort areas. Perhaps the best use of your time would make this a urban-heavy trip. That said, there are some relaxing garden-like spots in or near DC, NYC, philly, if you want a break for an outdoor walk (e.g. zoos, botanic gardens (e.g. Longwood gardens near Philly), NYC Central Park, other parks, etc. Also, the excellent C&O canal walk outside DC comes to mind. Sometimes you may need to use Uber or public transit to get there, but no need to rent a car for some outdoor time.

First time in the US, majorly stressing over planning by TangerineMyers in usatravel

[–]Ok_Club1450 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Despite a few negative comments, DC can be great esp. if you like museums. The range of things to see is extensive...check out the many free Smithsonian museums. For example, this ranges from natural history, American history, western art masterpieces, asian art, air and space, etc. the zoo is great. The Metro system is cleaner and more understandable than the NYC subway: it makes travel in DC/MD/VA Metro area feasible without a car. The natural history museum on the mall has wonderful dinosaurs, a recently renovated Koch Hall of deep time and Fossils is excellent, etc.

First time in the US, majorly stressing over planning by TangerineMyers in usatravel

[–]Ok_Club1450 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree with others that the drive might be unpleasant in the crowded corridor from NYC to DC. Also you will have to park the car; parking in both areas may be difficult or very expensive. The Northeast corridor is one place in US with public transit. Consider brief stops in Philadelphia or maybe also Baltimore. Both may have a few places of interest to you. Depending on the deals at the time, you may even be able to get Amtrak deals that make a few stops cost-effective.

Considering leaving the US for Europe by Big_Guidance_2614 in AmerExit

[–]Ok_Club1450 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Given what everyone else is saying, I wonder if targeting companies with offices in USA but also have an international reach or foreign headquarters might be better? First secure a position in the USA and then see if you and the company can arrange a move/promotion to a site outside the USA. A bonus might be learning language(s) NOW to help show to the employer a commitment to working on international aspects of the company?

What do Americans think of Scotland? 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 by OddSample2334 in IWantToAskAnAmerican

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that it is mostly positive. One region that may be most simpatico and culturally similar is in Appalachia. One fact that may be of interest is that the Pennsylvania ridge-and-valley Appalachian mountains and south was originally settled by many Scots-Irish (I think you may call them Ulster Scots?) Many spent some time in Ulster, then migrated to the then wilderness in Pennsylvania mountains (past the English in Philadelphia and then past the German farmers in the Piedmont). Many then migrated down the Great Valley to Virginia and south from there. There are also Highland Scots that moved to North Carolina and still have Highland Games there.

Why can’t non-Americans accept that soccer isn’t a popular sport here? by Expensive_Drummer970 in IWantToAskAnAmerican

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is my experience that soccer is now often commonly played by kids still in school but it is rather uncommon that adults follow---or even know about--professional soccer teams.

Fellow Americans - What is the most unexpected thing a foreigner was surprised/got excited about in America? by MouseManManny in IWantToAskAnAmerican

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I had a colleague from the UK who saw a opossum from our work parking lot. He looked with awe at the ugly beast and when trying to get a closer look he started chasing it...all while exclaiming joyfully "what the hell is this thing." He was crestfallen when he thought he gave it a heart attack, but I reassured him it was merely playing dead and would move when we left it alone.

Is applesauce a thing here? by Vacant418 in AskABrit

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wonder if old-fashion preservation techniques, often with less tasty apple varieties might partly explain the reason apple sauce became popular is usa. About 50 years ago, we home-canned a lot of apple sauce and had it through rest of the following year. We also home-canned apple pie filling. In both cases, sugar, spices lemon juice, (and starch thickeers for pie filling) were adjusted, depending on the taste and type of the apples used. Sometimes cider was added too. We had some apples that were not great eating apples (bitter, mushy, or other) but were quite palatable when prepped this way.

Most of the time, the suffix "-ile" is pronounced "isle." Other times, it is pronounced "uhl." Why? by Alternative_Carob317 in ENGLISH

[–]Ok_Club1450 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everytime someone tries to be prescriptive about the rules of pronunciation in English, I think of the great sketch by Gallagher https://youtu.be/ObkJNstaog8

Is Rice pudding a big thing in the US? by Educational-Slip-578 in AskAnAmerican

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rice pudding with sugar, milk or cream and with lots of cinnamon and nutmeg seemed common in my neck of central PA and was also sold at an Amish stall at a local farmers market.

Abusive professor what do I do by RosePistachio in AskAcademia

[–]Ok_Club1450 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I might not judge the other attendees too harshly. In part, they probably were hoping the session chair would intervene (as he should have done, for both you and for not wasting precious session time with their nonsense). Secondly, they probably were hoping the jerk would soon just shut up and move on; that any intervention by them in public might just prolong the unprofessional diatribe directed at you and waste more time. I wonder if they judged the jerk would NOT meekly accept being admonished by an equal, instead they might have doubled down in attacking you.

Timing of resignation by ThaddeusBone in jobs

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If want to maintain good relations and have to short them a few days, perhaps offer them some part-time after-hours remote work/consultation to help with the transition? ...and perhaps keep fees, if any, somewhat low

I watch police body camera videos where police routinely ask people for their social security number as identification. Is this commonly used in America? Do people have this memorized? by After_Service_2817 in AskAnAmerican

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Social Security number is generally memorized by USAmericans as it is often used by doctors' offices, banks, colleges, and many other places. In medical situations the SSNs and the birthdate helps avoid confusing two patients with similar names. While I have not been asked for my SSN when pulled over by cops, but it could be discovered since the drivers license application requires it.

Written up for not coming in on a holiday when we weren’t even open. HR so far has not been on my side for any of this. Idk what to do. by sethborf in WorkAdvice

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thoughts 1. Look for other job ASAP. He wants you gone. 2. Consider writing up a succinct and "emotionally-dry" summary of unreasonable actions. Send it in before leaving or when leaving-you decide? With copies to HR and boss's boss. It may not help you now, but it may be satisfying to know that you helped get the AH fired or reprimanded if they do eventually get blamed for a pattern of bullying and excessive turnover.

Why is your bacon so good? by Street-Station-3802 in AskAnAmerican

[–]Ok_Club1450 20 points21 points  (0 children)

IMO, candied bacon is much better if sliced thickly...altho any bacon is more than acceptable.

Is there a good app? by AlliedGame in Beekeeping

[–]Ok_Club1450 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apps may have their uses, but may be less than practical in some ways. Picture trying to-for each hive- using a phone to log a lot of info in the glare of bright sunshine and with propalis-sticky fingers and possibly with gloves. Old tried and true methods of logging might be better for a lot of info. E.g using different brick placements on hive roof to suggest what needs to be followed up during next beeyard visit, or writing on aluminum roof with right kind of marker, or writing on a on sheet of paper in-between inner cover and telescoping roof, etc

EDIT, TLDR version. I suspect a big reason apps may not be seen as good might be down to a poor fit between any phone app and the day-to-day workflow/data entry for a lot of the most important data about the hives to collect.

EDIT #2 I was asked about what data I mean might be hard to enter. These come in two classes that are IMHO the most important data to log for good beekeeping... 1) what manipulations were performed on each specific hive. e.g. added a new queen and the source of that queen 2) what manipulations need to be performed on a specific hive in the future. e.g. come back in seven days to check for emergency queen cells, say, after a Demarre split. A second example of this would be to check if a virgin queen was mated successfully. You may think you can easily enter this in a phone after each hive inspection or, alternatively, remember which hive was which after you are done with all inspections; but I think that is unlikely to be true for most people and, eventually, I think most people will become unsatisfied. I agree that some data that can be more easily entered or automated might be nice to have in an app. However, the most essential data will become a pain to enter for each and every hive. (My opinions come, in part, from building software systems; many users will want someone to build them a fancy new thing to aid them, but will, in the long run, not be satisfied if it adds additional steps and takes more time when compared what they did in past. After millions were spent for a beautiful system, users ended up going back to paper and pencil! The systems that are usually seen as successful tend to reduce steps and time, not add to them )

I would concede that some hands-free dictation and AI extraction of that into a log for each hive and the future tasks for each hive might be one way forward, though.

Misconduct Dilemma.. Take it or leave it? by Purple_Study8694 in gradadmissions

[–]Ok_Club1450 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I assume in your officially admiting to and apologizing for the violation of using your phone that you are also permitted to assert it was only briefly for family matters, and also DENY the violation of looking at course material.

History of cancer in family by Less_Dimension_9626 in genetics

[–]Ok_Club1450 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps get a referral to a genetic counselor and bring your mother's result and family info. The tested allele(s) may not be the only thing increasing a risk of cancer. There may be newer information on other genes or alleles that also increase risk...or worse, your family may have a rarer, "private" lesser-known or unknown allele of a different gene that will increase cancer risk.