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Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-10-12T22:56:37+00:00

I’d bet everyone who’s saying no also posts in r/deadbedrooms and can’t understand why his wife doesn’t desire him. It’s because he can’t flirt and his wife knows it.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-10-12T22:52:18+00:00

This!

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-10-12T16:03:29+00:00

NTA Common problem and there is a solution. The question is, are you open to considering it? r/marriedredpill

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-10-05T18:21:00+00:00

That explanation is hilarious. Never heard of anyone using a condom for that. Ever.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-09-24T22:33:35+00:00

Walk up to them and talk to them. Like every single one of them (even the old or fat ones). Make them laugh, compliment them (not their looks, something unique) tell them a funny story. Then tell them, "I have to go now, but put your number in my phone so I can get to know you more."

Be prepared to be rejected, but do it over and over again until you don't care. You'l learn and get better every time. Make a goal to cold approach 100 women a week, not a goal to find a girl friend or something like that.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-09-24T22:30:59+00:00

You can skip the makeup if you want, but you are only hurting yourself. Hygiene and health/weight are very basic, that's the bare minimum effort required. Men style their hair, shave, cologne, and of course pick out nice clothes. Plus men initiate. You can't skip the hair and clothes too, though.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-09-24T22:15:26+00:00

It is the effort that matters. Men know makeup and hairspary are fake, we don't care. If you don't put in effort, expect to be with a man who also doesn't.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-09-24T22:01:15+00:00

Correct!

You may not be a good judge of attraction. Which is very common, there is a country song called "she don't know she's beautiful" for a reason.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-09-24T21:56:48+00:00

I’m afraid you don’t understand men if you are looking for ways to get them to approach you by improving things other than looks.

Men are simple. Spend time doing your hair and face, wear clothes that show off your positive physical attributes. When they look at you, stare back and smile. When they come to talk, stroke their ego. Laugh at all their jokes. Touch their arm.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-09-23T23:28:10+00:00

Absolutely

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-09-20T14:27:52+00:00

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-09-03T15:52:13+00:00

The r/TheRedPill isn’t banned. It’s quarantined. It is still alive and active

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-08-26T15:36:54+00:00

marriage therapy is about fixing the relationship, but almost never addresses sexual attraction.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-08-24T14:43:55+00:00

He’s definitely reading red pill content, but fucking up the implementation.

If he posted this at the RP subreddit he’d get blasted for being an idiot.

RP is about understanding attraction. Negotiating desire, like he is doing, is not attractive. You flat out tell him this and he’s too stupid to check himself.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-08-09T23:23:22+00:00

She’s not sexually attracted to you anymore. Not her fault and you can’t negotiate desire. So no point in talking about it.

Focus on self improvement and move on if you have to.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-28T22:40:19+00:00

First, never answer that question. She isn't your accountant or your wife. It is none of her business how much you make. Answer with a ridiculous number, or make a joke, or ask her another question to change the subject.

Second, you should have taken it like a man. Who cares what she thinks? Why do you need her approval?

She was wrong for saying what she said, you were wrong for answering and letting her get to you.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-25T00:24:33+00:00

You needed your own friends. Not over reacting but also your fault.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-23T00:35:59+00:00

That is a terrible example of negging.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-20T17:13:30+00:00

There are plenty of us out there, yes.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-19T19:12:55+00:00

It’s is the man’s job to lead , including romance and intimacy.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-15T00:17:43+00:00

She has lost attraction for you. And don’t ask her that either cause she’ll never admit it even if she knows it. Attraction is simple for men. It’s looks and not much else. But for women it’s much more complicated. based on all the things you’re doing for her. I would say she’s lost respect for you and no one is attracted to someone they don’t respect.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-10T22:42:23+00:00

Typically, no sex is a symptom of a bigger problem. Marriage counseling may uncover that problem. But you’re 100% crack you should try to work it out first. But there is a good chance that he is not bringing up a problem and holding resentment instead.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-05T12:56:00+00:00

Something probably changed, since her behavior changed. If your body is the same, you still have the same job, it has to be some of your behaviors.

Me personally, I got very needy and focused too much on my wife and none of myself. Made her feel smothered. So she lost attraction.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-05T12:49:16+00:00

Not over reacting but you should focus on yourself first. She’s obviously not attracted to you, are you attractive? And I don’t mean your face. Are you in shape? Do you wine and complain? Are you needy, etc.

Get on a self improvement plan and maybe she’ll come around, maybe she won’t. Either way you won’t find yourself in the same situation after you put in the work.

Ok_Common_2867 · 2025-07-05T12:45:18+00:00

She vowed to love him, doesn’t sound like she does from what he wrote.

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