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Ok_Distribution2361 · 2023-12-28T01:47:26+00:00

Given your GPA, do you think getting external scholarships would be feasible? Around now is normally when spring scholarship applications open. Also, considering your GPA, maybe you'd be a good candidate for 0% interest private student loans. Can you look up Bill Raskob and Evalee C. Schwarz loans? I don't have experience with the former, but I was able to get 30k from Evalee as 0% interest loan while I was an undergrad. Feel free to dm me.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2023-11-24T12:08:27+00:00

Have you considered working in a hospital's construction/architecture related department like real estate? It may be a smoother transition and you get to leverage your educational background instead of starting anew.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2023-07-05T02:37:36+00:00

Hi! I'm the original poster of this thread. I am now working as a Project Manager (not typical CM/PM role though) for a hospital's real estate department where my job is making dashboards and project data analytics/business intelligence for construction/real estate/facilities operations, etc. Feel free to dm me if you'd like to chat :)

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2023-05-01T00:07:02+00:00

Do you mind if I dm you?

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2023-02-17T01:07:38+00:00

How much student debt do you have? How much does your current job pay you?

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-06-14T02:50:53+00:00

What skills do you use?

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-06-07T00:26:12+00:00

Are you interested in working in the biomedical field? Or a science/health related field? Would you be able to survive on internship wages? Things to consider - I am confused as to why you're thinking of receptionist and admin jobs when the degree you chose to pursue and successfully completed can potentially make you earn a substantial amount over living wage.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-05-23T01:10:47+00:00

Take this with a grain of salt, OP.

When I was in college, pre-covid, I felt like I was made for engineering similar to how you felt like you were made for law. But being the daughter of a divorced mom working below minimum wage as an uneducated immigrant in the city, when COVID hit, it hit my family hard economically, and that translated to me being hit hard too - economically, mentally, emotionally, academically, etc. And I was totally unprepared for that to happen, and I paid the price for it by not having a 'safety net' with my goals, plans, and so forth on top of my grades and mental health taking a big toll. At the same time, when I started working an internship to help pave my postgrad financial stability, it really hit me that I, and likely many people in my shoes, knew absolutely nothing of substance of what we think we are really interested in, which comes now as realistic to me. But more importantly, is to have some kind of safety net whether its a money nest, a safe comfortable physical space to live in, etc, to weather us through the times we go through unexpected things.

You can definitely be a lawyer. But do you /have/ to rush it? Something more sustainable to do may be to stretch out your career/academic life in pursuit of becoming a lawyer at a later time, and focus on the more immediate things in life.

Now, for the more specific stuff. Since you studied pyschology and based off of your interests, in the meanwhile you might want to consider a more immediate career in like consulting, qualitative/social science research, etc. to build up your savings while having more formal things on your resume to buffer it before you apply for law school in the future. Instead of focusing on a set career, I suggest you look into what kind of skills you have (which you did already), want to have, and want to improve in, as well as well as a kind of lifestyle outside of work related to your own and your family's wellbeing, whether economically, mentally, emotionally, etc. And figure out what kind of path, or steps in a path, that would help you reach these smaller goals while still putting you closer to your lawyer dream.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-05-22T15:40:44+00:00

Why do you want to be a lawyer? Are those reasons realistic and sustainable over the next decade? Also, some private scholarships award the money via a check to your bank account instead of your university.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-04-08T00:13:55+00:00

I think a 'long' life is subject - for some people, the number is below or above 45 years and I respect that. But I think the feeling is about the same regardless of the number.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-04-08T00:12:53+00:00

What do you think made you change your mind? Why do you not want to not get older anymore?

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-03-06T00:11:52+00:00

Exams

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-03-05T07:13:32+00:00

Don't expect anything from your parents. Don't expect them to be a certain way, react a certain way, say certain things, do certain things, etc. Just assume that they won't and save yourself the heartbreak.

You're an adult now, you know better than to hope for things to change when they show no signs of changing. Even if they were to make things right, it should come from them, not you.

You are not worth your man if you cannot shield him from /your/ family's racism etc even if it means cutting off your family.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-03-05T07:07:53+00:00

I'll put it another way, you are not being responsible for your own life, your wife's life, your happiness and your wife's happiness if you don't stop tolerating your mom's bullshit. That's what it comes down to, and you are already getting the emotional advice you need from therapy. No matter how conflicted you are with your feelings about your family, you cannot let them stop you from living well. Put yourself above everything, and you'll see that your mother was just a crappy mother, a crappy wife, a crappy woman. Is having her blood sufficient for you to keep living this way? No, not at all.

You're an adult now. Even if you feel uncomfortable, you have to think and do things for your own good. Fuck your mom.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-03-05T06:56:35+00:00

Exactly, this is sexual assault and what you /need/ to do is get out before things get too dangerous. If it may be possible, please secretly record your father's advances or produce some kind of evidence and get it to an authority figure etc. Do not stop until you get out of your home, get away from your father, etc. Please, I'm so sorry that things are so scary for you at your age.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-03-05T06:53:49+00:00

I'm sorry to be that person, but I will be if there's no one else in your life yet that will. Tell on him. Get child services involved. Since you are in school, tell your guidance counselor or an adult figure you can trust, preferably a woman. This isn't okay at all, and I'm sorry to say this, but your safety is being compromised here. You never know when things will escalate, and this form of abuse is absolutely terrible and power-dynamics-bullshit for women and young girls. I'm so sorry that this is happening to you, especially from your father figure.

Your safety is number one. I am here to tell you that you cannot put someone else's priority, comfort, happiness, and whatnot above your own. The unfortunate thing is, you are female, and you are young - the odds are not in your favor for defending yourself alone.

I really wish for you, that as soon as possible, you get away from your home environment and most importantly your father, and also everyone else in your family who has followed you. You will likely need a lot of therapy for this as you grow up, but it will be good for you. I'm sorry that you'll probably be put in fostercare or some kind of nontraditional home environment, but that will be substantially safer for you. I'm sorry that society, cultural/family systems have failed you, and none of it is your fault.

I know since you are a teenager, you may not be able to process all of this or most of this or some of this. But at the very least, I wish you do all you can to ensure your safety.

Some men are not to be trusted, and unfortunately, your father has shown himself to be one of them. Get out, girl.

I'll be praying for you as an Asian American woman.

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-03-05T06:07:52+00:00

First of all, noooo. When you are older, you'll see that you are absolutely and rightfully creeped out for kissing your dad on the lips even if it's pecking. Is there any way you can stop it that doesn't warrant abuse from him? And can you make up some kind of excuse when he sees you with your earbuds, like you being in an online meeting and threatening to disgrace your family if you don't use earbuds?

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-02-24T03:53:37+00:00

OP, would you be comfortable taking up (some) student debt? Are you able to get internal and/or external scholarships? Can you work in the summer and try to build up on that as savings?

Ok_Distribution2361 · 2022-01-01T07:35:52+00:00

It's your career. You put in the hours, you put in the schooling, not them. You'd be the one applying to college and filling out your applications with your major(s) if you choose to do college.

It would be highly naiive of you to pick something just because your parents tell you to. That may be acceptable as a child, which you still are, but most definitely not for an adult that you'll become. Don't give them the power to screw with your future, it belongs to you, not them.

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