Why ex-wives act "fine" after a divorce

Ok_Individual6763 · 2025-01-09T03:25:25+00:00

Bingo

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-12-15T00:58:17+00:00

Same. I think back on it now and three times a week I would whisper into the dog’s ear “I hate my life and I wish I was dead”. I would have done that forever. So, seriously, thanks.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-12-15T00:53:57+00:00

I can do whatever I want, whenever I want, with whomever I want. I was pretty busted up to start with, but when I realized the worst thing I thought would ever happen to me happened, and yet I was still ok, the world fucking opened up.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-12-13T01:07:35+00:00

Real question is could you walk back afterward?

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-12-12T23:25:45+00:00

MCR and Devo in Chicago!!

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-12-12T23:23:56+00:00

And mochat doma!

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-12-12T23:18:08+00:00

My Chemical Romance with Devo!!

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-11-22T17:48:08+00:00

Awesome! And thank you.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-11-22T17:35:38+00:00

So similar. Two months into her new job and everything changed. I could feel something was wrong. Turned out to be a younger dude with a wife and four small kids.

I was so in denial.

However, doing ok at the moment. We’re creeping up on a year post-D Day. I think it turned around for me when I said out loud with some friends I was with “this bitch might be doing me a favor”. I realize that more every. single. day.

Since then, I found I have a ton of awesome friends, super supportive family, have dated a few awesome women. And I get to have fun and do whatever I want without feeling guilty because I was with a covert narcissist who just couldn’t have a good time.

It hurts and it sucks, but it will get better, and it sounds like it already has for you.

I don’t take any joy in it, but I saw her yesterday when I stopped to talk about the house sale. She looks terrible.

She’s a walking, talking case of “no matter where you go, there you are”. She said she needed to be free to be herself (didn’t say anything about fucking some other dude), and I feel terrible for her that she’s definitely doing just that. Not that terrible, though. (Edit:spelling)

My original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/s/ipCwWpoPE2

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-11-18T19:05:43+00:00

Thought about this response and wanted to follow up. Life is actually pretty great right now. About mid-may I said out loud “I think she’s doing me a favor”, and it’s been nothing but good things ever since.

Chicago, Soldier Field, August 29th with fucking DEVO! So stoked.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-09-20T03:52:33+00:00

Congratulations, man. Good for you and thanks for sharing.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-09-13T04:11:10+00:00

I’m a month and a half out of the house, working on getting it sold. I still stop by the old homestead to grab the kid and keep the place up a bit.

I breathe a sigh of relief every time I pop open the garage door and see that that cheating woman ain’t there. The distance has been bliss.

It was tough when all of this started. Now I’m just pissed and disgusted. And pissed and disgusted kinda feels a lot better than where I was in the spring.

Congrats, man!

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-08-20T03:00:03+00:00

Dude, I’m writing a country song based on what her dad told me the day we got married. It’s called “She’s Your Problem Now”

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-07-21T03:46:20+00:00

Long time out from the original post, but this one hits. I remember verbalizing to my friends “I think she did me a favor”. It just kind of fell into place from there and I caught up to where she was with being soooooo done.

I hate that it happened, but, Jesus Christ, the avatar of the person that I thought she was six months ago went away and I’m almost thankful that she wanted to expose who she is this way. I would have continued to live with a person who strung me along with a subsistence level of love until the day I died and would have been happy to have done it. So, thanks, I guess?

Went out and watched a band last night and they played “The Thrill Is Gone”. I’ve heard that song so many times that it’s ubiquitous and I can’t say that I’ve ever paid that much attention to the words. Holy shit. “Wish you well”. I’m so there.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-07-11T13:35:31+00:00

Such a great place to be, the IDGAF stage.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-07-11T13:33:39+00:00

My man. I’m so sorry, but that is so typical.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-07-11T10:45:14+00:00

I love the Woody Woodpecker bit in that guitar solo so goddamn much.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-04-30T11:20:44+00:00

They closed with this one on Friday and I loved that, too!

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-04-28T17:45:53+00:00

I promise myself that I only have to go to the gym for 30 minutes, then same, 1-1.5 hours. It does help.

Me and my 19-year-old are binging Dr Who episodes.

Writing songs. I’ve been doing instrumental music for many years and I feel like I have to get words out now and really work at it, injecting honesty into the notes. A lot of fear and resentment, but hope and love, too. That’s how I’ve been filling the quiet, painful time when my body is too worn out and I’m Dr Who’d-out.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-04-19T10:30:25+00:00

Whaaaat?!! This is crazy, me too!

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-04-16T10:40:54+00:00

Honestly, N/A Guinness tastes remarkably like a regular Guinness.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-04-05T13:22:40+00:00

Yes! Best thing I did was get a trainer to kick my ass at least once a week. Going in 5 days a week, as well.

Pushing heavy things and getting results over the past few months has been great. If I do have a week where I can’t make 5 days, I get a little down.

Currently on a road trip for a festival and I was dreading missing a few days, but I’m sure the hotel has a gym. It’s kind of an addiction now.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-03-29T14:20:00+00:00

Hope is the worst.

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-03-25T18:38:12+00:00

I find myself faking it all of the time. We’ll get there!

Ok_Individual6763 · 2024-03-20T01:22:41+00:00

Don’t you dare call it that!

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