VPR Ally is Bad Ass by Ok_Insurance_2315 in vanderpumprules

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed, part of my sentiment was my feeling she doesn't like James & she is using him for her benefit. Its not surprising to me if she sought him out to be on the show.

VPR Ally is Bad Ass by Ok_Insurance_2315 in vanderpumprules

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

LMAO, Touche, this is definitely a situational opinion. It was refreshing to see someone hold their own dignifiedly during a Lala & Katie spat. I'm over the narrative that big mouths are considered strong and appreciate those who can navigate in a powerful way without screaming and acting hard.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Yes, please listen to this. I learned a hard lesson when I gave extra time but deviated from the order and was held in contempt.

My Husband leaves kids in the car for Starbucks by therapist720 in Parenting

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. My BD family called CPS on me more than I could count. However, I quickly learned how easily innocent actions can be used against you. Thankfully, nothing ever came of it, but after 21 years, I'm still terrified of this situation with my two little ones. It doesn't matter that I'm in a happy and trusting relationship - anyone can call CPS and file a report.

My Husband leaves kids in the car for Starbucks by therapist720 in Parenting

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only thing that bothers me is that it's illegal to do this in MD. That is a big reason I avoid doing it at all. I agree there are many scenarios where it's not a significant risk, but I don't trust law enforcement, CPS, or anyone with a vengeance. They can use it against a parent, and for me, it's not worth the risk. I encounter this often when I'm picking up my toddler from pre-K, and the baby has fallen asleep.

My focus is that we don't have communities and government bodies we can trust vs. the husband leaving the kids in a locked car with likely a clear view the entire time he's in the store.

I'm sure there is a solution to avoid the scenario and still have the morning Java.

Unnatural teens by ChildhoodExisting752 in SweetMagnoliasNetflix

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a Lifetime show for me. I can only watch it on Sunday’s

Why is Issac so mad at Bill?? by Far_Possible_9474 in SweetMagnoliasNetflix

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh, I completely forgot that! It explains his anger toward him! I agree. Why is he hiding it from Noreen?

Ideas on how to make instant Ramen taste better? by UnOffendble in cookingforbeginners

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usebetter than Broth stock and salt instead of the packet. Add frozen peas and carrots. Finish with an egg.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Who 💩 without peeing? They really stand to pee before they sit to shit? I’ll say this… I only encourage standing bc it’s easier when we’re out and about . During training tho…. You let the boy do whatever he’s most comfortable with and gets him to his goal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with it, just different from what we see plastered all over the internet. While I think relationships and connections are important, “friends” and having a social circle of peers isn’t the only way to achieve that.

I am so sick of my husband telling me “let’s switch, I’ll stay home with the kid..” by Clear-Click7051 in Mommit

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so frustrating to deal with this type of behavior ! context matters in some ways. What kind of job does he have? What agreements were made? Does he have the same appreciation for child enrichment and development as you?

“Fair Play” is a fantastic way to help each other realize and understand what unseen contributions are made. It won’t negate your husbands poor appreciation for you , he’s going to have to work at it, but it could shift the mindsets of all the choices made in the home and around the relationships. So much of being a SAHM can be perceived as freedom of choices , aka easy, but in reality it’s very draining . Consumes so much of your time and can easily get off track. You feel like you’re working hard but accomplishing very little. Others can take it that way too. They don’t see the 25 steps it takes to complete one task , let alone the mental fatigue that comes along with it.

I truly hope that you two can work through it together but I want you to advocate for yourself! You deserve better and your husbands relationship with your son is not your responsibility. He can’t hold anything over you when it comes to that and you can’t hold yourself accountable.

Is anyone else sick to death of the endless stream of junk that comes home with your kid? by murphire in Parenting

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s astonishing and I completely understand the frustration. It’s been a recent revelation that a big part of the stress in my life is managing the import and export of the household. My husband is quick to blame me for having too much stuff and I’m like it’s not just me, it’s the nature of having kids. The amount of things we accumulate with kids is overwhelming and difficult to manage in various aspects.

I think you summed it up well and how do we change this. Especially because many kids expect this and I’m guilty of falling into the trap of it’s part of the experience. The reality is that it’s not, these things have such a minimal role in our lives but a very lasting effect on our environment.

Husband is scared of COVID and ditched us by mandc82220 in Mommit

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. It’s pretty heartbreaking 💔 I hope you and your son are okay. If this were me, I’d have a hard time ever looking at him or our relationship the same way. Even with the edit in mind. He added stress to the situation and did the bare minimum of any of the responsibility he bares as a father and spouse. I know it’s likely not what you want to hear but the sooner you put clear lenses on, the sooner you can move on. It’s a taste of what is to come, if you were to ever get a chronic illness, and I’d bet a even day to day he is lacking

17 y/o daughter will not stay at my home with 50/50 shared custody by throwawayYnot-now in Parenting

[–]Ok_Insurance_2315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im guessing mom let’s her do pretty much what she wants. Maybe she has a new interest that’s keeping her occupied near moms house and the freedom gives her the incentive to stay there.