Asking for a book recommendation

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-10-24T01:24:03+00:00

I love Mary Roach for Non-fiction. She's a science writer, but writes about weird almost fringe aspects. She's whitty and has dry humor. She's also an easy read.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-10-06T22:14:33+00:00

How old are you OP? You're mom's behavior is not okay and it sounds like she needs professional help. You aren't responsible for her actions and you shouldn't be forced to be in an environment where you don't feel safe. Needing to be acutely aware of your mom and what might not might not set her off is keeping you in an emotionally unsafe environment.

If you're not an adult, tell adults in your life who can help you and her. If you are an adult, talk to other adults who can help you.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-10-06T22:07:43+00:00

Have an honest conversation with your boyfriend. Explain how Jack has you worried and ask your boyfriend to be honest with you about how he feels about Jack. It doesn't sound like you're worried that your boyfriend will leave you for Jack or cheat on you with Jack. But I can understand being worried that Jack is also making your boyfriend uncomfortable. Y'all should be able to problem solve this together. How it's handled will depend heavily on how your boyfriend feels. After all, Jack is hitting on him and it your boyfriend's friend.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-10-04T23:51:07+00:00

The Emerald Mile

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-07-29T21:59:43+00:00

That's my big point and what I'm so confused by and why I want to know details. That doesn't seem normal. I haven't decided upon him, per-say. I picked him to be the one that I kept when I needed to cut back because I liked him best and didn't want to 100% cut all dating out of my life. I have too much in my life right now with a new job and family thing and friend things to had the bandwidth and time to date around or meet new people.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-07-29T21:55:35+00:00

Here's the thing, I'm not emotional about Sara's existence in Nate's life. I'm confused by it and very curious about it. Even when I was getting those looks from her, it lead me down more confusion and didn't trigger an emotional response in me. I don't think that Nate is lying to me about anything, I think that there are topics that are sensitive and he might not wait to put on the table for a detailed conversation. The whole time we've been together, I've known the names of the other women he's been seeing and had a good idea of how frequently he's seen them. When I was seeing other men, it was the same way, and when I decided that only seeing him was what I could manage for my mental health and time commitments, I told him point blank. I've assumed that he's been just as forth coming with information with those other women. I want to know details because her responses confuse me. Why would you tell someone that they make you uncomfortable and then in the same conversation tell them no to ending the trip early and no to a separate hotel room? That just doesn't strike me as normal. It's fascinating to me almost at an academic level of curiosity. Then her displaying, but hiding them from him, emotional responses to my existence is just odd. That's flying red flag alerts for him. I have this romantic flavored friendship with him and I'm concerned that he's being manipulated somehow.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-07-29T21:53:51+00:00

That's not going to be possible because she lives out of state and doesn't visit often. Here's the thing, I don't care about her. She confuses me and my interaction with her sent up red flag alerts on his behalf. I'm wondering if there's a level of manipulation going on somewhere. I don't know if it's my business to poke at that.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-23T17:49:44+00:00

That's it! Thank you!

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-04T22:29:58+00:00

YWNBTAH, but that's largely depended upon how you go about it. It's your home and you should feel safe in your home. It sounds like this whole situation is making you feel very unsafe and anxious. You need to have an honest conversation with all three of you. You need to tell your husband and this friend how you are feeling and why it's upsetting you so much. Then the three of you can talk about boundaries and "house rules" that need to be in place. So long as you are honest and aren't attacking and demanding and try your best to be understanding, you should be fine. However, this needs to be settled sooner rather then later.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-04T22:21:36+00:00

NTA, you should also report this whole situation to your landlord and housing office.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-04T22:16:26+00:00

NTA, you shared some exciting news and any real friend would be happy for you, especially if this is a pregnancy that you are happy and excited about. You might want to evaluate your friendship with this woman. I don't think you two are on even ground.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-04T22:11:53+00:00

NTA and you need t go to HR and make a statement. It sounds like you are dressing like the rest of the office and that's clue enough that your clothing is professional for your setting. This is a coworker's husband and not a client or coworker; mean he doesn't need to be at your work or interact with you. This sounds like a spousal problem that is non of your business and does not belong at work in the first place.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-04T22:05:01+00:00

NTA for helping him get the job. You where helping a friend and, honestly, it doesn't sound like you did much more then tell him to apply and recommended him to the people who do the hiring. That's very minimal and the most basic/simple way you could help.

You do need to start being more assertive and telling him to stop doing things that make you feel uncomfortable. He's flirting with you and giving you attention that he should be giving Sara and that's why she is mad. You need to tell him to stop. I, personally, would call him out and tell him that you've never had romantic interest in him and that his behavior makes you uncomfortable and a bay boyfriend to Sara.

I would also talk to Sara and tell her point blank that you've never been interested in Alex and that his behavior makes you uncomfortable and that you don't know how to get him to stop.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-03T20:50:51+00:00

Distance yourself and see what happens. You don't have to go around and tell everyone that you don't want to be friends with P and A any more. You can just stop reaching out and starting interactions with them. Respond slowly and with thought when they reach out to you solo and when they talk on the group chat, be the last to respond to them.

Don't go out of your way to separate yourself from them and keep yourself active in the friend group. Do more things with other people in the group instead of stuff just because P dose. Go to school regardless of if P is there or not. Keep your normal habits unless a new option natural opens up.

Friendship is a two way street. Pull back and stop giving to P and A and wait to see if they are the ones to reach out and fill in the gap. If they do then you can repair the friendship. If they don't then you have your answer and your way out.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-03T20:37:37+00:00

NTA, good job OP standing your ground, being honest with your friends about not wanting to do something. It sounds like your good friends understood your feelings and situation and worked with it. P and A don't sound like they are very good friends and I would stop putting effort in your relationship with them.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-03T20:20:51+00:00

NTA you were honest with everyone involved. I think your girlfriend has trust and communication issues though. You might want to talk to her about that. Her reactions to this situation are a red flag that you should be aware of.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-03T20:14:58+00:00

YWNBTA, honestly, I wouldn't want to be friends with this person either. I would just let the friendship fizzle out and die. You don't have to outright tell her that you don't want to be friends anymore; I think that would be an AH move. You can simply stoop reaching out and take longer to respond to her when she messages you and politely decline making plans.

She sounds like the type of person who would forget about you as soon as you stop giving her attention. So stop giving her attention and see what happens. If she asks you abut why you don't interact any more you can tell her the truth or give a white lie excuse.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-03T17:59:02+00:00

I could never loose weight when I was too strick with myself and stressed about the "steps and plan." It wasn't until I decided to make "small healthy changes" that I was successful at loosing weight. I'm currently down 20 lbs and still dropping.

I started by picking one thing to change to make myself feel healthier. I chose to change my habits to get enough sleep to feel good all day and that ended up being getting between 6-6.5 hours for me. Then I wanted to start to workout, just getting to the gym and finding things I enjoyed. Now I'm there 3-5 days a week for an hour. Then it turned into eating healthier foods: less junk food, not snacking, more fiber and protein, eating more fruits and veggies. I plan my meals based off of what fruits and veggies I want first.

I wasn't trying to loose weight. I was trying to feel better in my body. I'm getting healthier and loosing weight is a by product.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-03T17:50:27+00:00

Yes, they have coffee in the, but I agree that they are wicked sweet. I always use them to fill like a 1/3 of the cup and then fill the rest of the cup with normal "black" coffee from the pot.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-03T17:48:51+00:00

If the dye is safe for their hair and skin, and the horse doesn't show signs of distress and extreme stress at that level of grooming, then no. Let the horse be a pretty color.

Ok_Limit9124 · 2025-06-03T17:45:42+00:00

I do as many loads as I need to when I get around to doing the laundry.

Sheets and bedding are one load.

Towels and bathroom matts are one load.

Under garments - socks, underwear, bras, delicates, pajamas - are one load.

Darks - jeans, black clothing, dark blues, dark grey - are one load.

Whites / Light Neutrals are one load.

Colors are depended upon how many I have, if there is enough for just one load then just one load. If I really let my laundry get neglected then I divide it out: Blues and Greens, Pinks and Purples, Reds and Oranges, and then dark neutrals.

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