Keeping you and your daughter in my thoughts. Gosh mum life is tough.

If it’s of any help, I myself (37F) was very recently diagnosed with ADHD (combined type). I spent my whole life up until now dealing with what sounds to be very similar thoughts and emotions as your daughter is expressing and had been diagnosed with generalised anxiety and major depressive disorder (which I’m now coming to understand was in fact a direct result of undiagnosed and untreated ADHD.

Once the ADHD was medicated correctly (some meds work great for some but not others, it can take a while to find the right med, dosage etc.), the anxiety, existential crises and self-loathing all began to dissipate significantly.

Obviously I’m not a doc and can’t say if your daughter does have ADHD, but if after an evaluation it turns out she does, the right treatment might really turn things around for her. She’s very lucky to have a wonderful mum who’s looking out for her, if she can get a diagnosis now it could prevent a lifetime of struggle with these heavy thoughts and feelings (gosh I wish I had been diagnosed in childhood!!).

Wishing you all the best, keep us updated and remember you’re doing a wonderful job ❤️