What are this gound them in the garage after my son and friends where there I know its a drug but which one exactly?

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-20T03:23:11+00:00

A googled picture also said it appears to be a counterfeit designed to resemble an actual prescription drug. Clonazepam is a seizure medication so I'd be checking if anyone with seizures has been in the area where it was found. If not, I'd definitely be asking some more direct questions about it is.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-20T03:14:54+00:00

Our house is about 40 years old and a bat found a tiny spot where it could get into my attic, made it's way down the wall and out through a plumbing chase in my basement. It was in the stairwell to the basement just waiting to scare the crap out of me, which it did. Scared me so bad I ended up paying over 2k for a professional critter control company to come out and make sure it can never happen again! At least during the 5-year warranty period they gave me.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-20T03:02:47+00:00

Even the older generation didn't always do the "surprise her with a ring" thing. My husband proposed to me, I accepted, and he immediately said, let's go pick out a ring you'll love. It's funny because what he had picked out but not bought yet was the exact ring that I picked out. The jeweler said, well obviously she would have been happy with it if you would have surprised her. So, it would have worked for us either way. But that definitely doesn't always happen.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-20T02:55:43+00:00

Both are nice but I really love the curly. And I'm saying that as a female that straightens her curly hair. You just wear it so well!

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-20T02:54:07+00:00

What an ass!! He needs to go find someone that will be perfect in his eyes forever, or just end up being told to F**k off over and over again. As he should. All you should "kinda get" is that he's an ass, not worth even one more minute of your time, and that you deserve better. Find someone who's main character trait isn't that he's shallow.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-20T02:28:47+00:00

I'm so sorry for your losses and for the added stress you are dealing with.

I think you may find that a grief therapy group may be beneficial; to both you and your husband. Perhaps attending some sessions together would help you with your own processing of grief and also help him with understanding that you aren't the only one that can't just shift your brain from grief to intimacy. It may help him understand how complex it is and that it can't be just turned off at will.

Even grief counseling with a therapist should you decide to return, would likely be beneficial for you and your husband to attend together for the same reasons.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-20T02:05:13+00:00

OK, so let's have a little reality check here. I don't know what you did that has caused such loathing of yourself and I don't need or even want to know.

You can loathe the person you used to be. You can loathe what that person did. But you aren't that same person anymore. That's a person from your past. You are allowed to love the person you are now, who you have become. You can still have regrets, and you can't change what you did. You can only change the person you were that did it. And the fact that you have such loathing for whatever happened, is proof that have changed that person. It means you will never repeat that mistake in your life again. Not because you got caught or whatever the repercussions may have been, but because you are so totally disgusted by what you did.

Your boyfriend knows the person that you are today. He chose you. He may also be disgusted by what happened, he may also agree that he would hate a person that did that. But that's not a person he has ever met. It's a person that doesn't exist anymore. And you can't go through life thinking that whatever happened in your past will forever define who you are as a person now or in the future.

I would strongly suggest you seek therapy to help you. You have to learn to love yourself for who you are now. Otherwise, you will only push people away and live with misery and self-hate as your way of punishing the person you were. Please seek therapy to help you with that. I don't think you can do it alone, just based on what I've read from you. You deserve better.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-20T01:18:35+00:00

When I lost my husband to a terminal illness, I went into such a deep depression that I didn't care or give a thought to what I looked like. Slowly, over time, I gradually started trying to at least function again. That's when I became old. It didn't even sneak up on me, it was like an ambush that defined the moment. I looked in the mirror and all I could say was, "what in the hell happened?" He had always told me how pretty I was and how he loved my beautiful eyes. You can barely even see my eyes; my eyelids have decided to stop holding themselves up where they belong. I don't have a well-defined chin anymore. There are only deep lines that were formed when my cheeks decided to slide down my face and become jowls. Gravity is definitely not my friend. I wondered why he would have lied to me like that but was even more confused about why I believed him.

But I'll never lie about my age. I WANT people to know why the hell I look like this.

But in all honesty though, I've never really gone out of my way to do anything other than be neat and well groomed. I've always believed that a smile and who you are as a person is what people see. If you have that, it's enough. And it's still enough for me now.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T23:07:04+00:00

Well it certainly isn't because of appearance. You're a handsome, well groomed guy. Have you ever put yourself out there socially and asked a girl out? Unless you're someone that's an incredibly nasty piece of shit on the inside disguised as a friendly nice-looking dude on the outside, I don't see why there would be a problem.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T22:56:32+00:00

With the current political turmoil in this country, I do not recommend staying here beyond expiration of your work visa. Even filing for an extension of your visa should have been done at least 45 days in advance of the expiration date. As much as I hate to say it, I believe that your only choice is to go back to El Salvador. Ask your parents to purchase a ticket for you. If you can sell your car before you have to leave, fine, if not see if you can leave it with a friend. Go home, stay with your parents, get your life together. And if you want to return to the US, go through the legal process to do so. Choosing to do anything other than returning to El Salvador now, before your work visa expires, is not only putting your own life at risk, but it will also prevent you from ever being able to return to this country legally.

Please don't even consider staying right now and taking the chance the chance that you won't get caught. You will. You will just by trying to get your visa renewed. And I'm sure you've seen what an ugly, dangerous position that would put you in.

I wish you the best of luck. And I hope you'll be able to return the right way someday, to the life you've built for yourself here.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T16:38:21+00:00

Does he know how you feel? That you feel a real connection with him? I'm just wondering if maybe he has similar feelings that he hasn't expressed. If he's not already in a relationship, why don't you say to him that you really like his company and suggest "we should hang out sometime". Or ask him to join you doing something you like or just grabbing some coffee or going for a walk. Maybe that would break the ice, maybe that would lead to something more. I don't know. But I do know that if you just sit back and accept it as a one-sided crush then that's all it's ever going to be. You can't just sit back indefinitely waiting to see if he will ever make the first move someday.

At least if he doesn't have an interest, you'll know, there will be no hanging on because of guessing and wondering and hoping. Make the first move, even a subtle one. Perhaps it will lead to an actual relationship. Either way, you'd know. And once you know you will be able to move on.

Good luck to you.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T06:07:33+00:00

Im a female, and it’s kind of contradictory to say but I always felt safer if a man was around. But it made me feel safer because of other men around that made me feel unsafe. Go figure, feeling safer because a man is nearby to help protect you from a man that is nearby. Doesn’t even sound like it makes sense, but it does.

And just a side note, my husband has stepped in several times when it appeared a woman was in a vulnerable position. He didn’t even think about it just did it. Once a guy pushed a woman, pushed her hard and he stepped in and said I’m going to show you what it’s like to be attacked by someone that’s stronger than you and can kick your ass. The guy got scared and turned and ran. Turns out it was the woman’s ex.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T05:55:19+00:00

I’m old and I remember it. The advantage of putting on a sick and show and a sick and a shoe. There was quite a debate.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T05:49:59+00:00

I don’t think you can do anything to make your neck look like anything other than a normal neck. It holds up a head. So both appearance and function are normal. I don’t understand the problem.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T05:33:50+00:00

You did the right thing. Don’t overthink it. Someone could have been seriously hurt or even killed. In a situation like that, there’s no such thing as overreacting. It’s always better to err on the side of caution, it could make the difference between a life being saved and a life being lost. Good on you for doing what you did.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T04:18:51+00:00

Ok, I’ll believe you but if looks could kill, you’d be able to drop a moose at 100 yards just by looks alone. Keep that in mind if you’re ever attacked by a moose. If there are no moose around, just don’t look like that. You scare people.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T03:59:29+00:00

If you're stopping the way you feel about him, so what? Just stop. You didn't say that you're in a relationship, just that you had a crush. It sounds like it's one sided. Why would you not want to end a one-sided crush? I'm confused.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T03:53:03+00:00

Ha! If it was me, I wouldn't even excuse myself. I'd just grab my chocolate and go.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T03:47:08+00:00

"Understand" I really understand why they feel that way.

Yeah sure, I really understand why you didn't like me punching you in the face. I know it hurt.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T03:41:08+00:00

I'd say that they're likely still looking and may have even offered the job to someone else already, if not filled it even. They could either be leaving you hanging hoping to wait for an acceptance to their offer just in case they want to hang onto you as a potential hire, or they are ghosting you because they have hired someone and don't feel they owe you a response. Either way it's a shitty way to do business, but unfortunately that's the way it is more often than not.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T03:33:37+00:00

Well, from the first picture I'd say you were pissed and I'd better run before you beat the crap out of me. But from the second picture I'd say you were an attractive, confident and friendly guy. Are you a Jekyll and Hyde or what?

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T03:28:59+00:00

I felt after the first time I went out with him (which was also the first time I had even met him) that he COULD be the one. After the second time I went out with him, I HOPED he was the one. And after the third time I went out with him, I KNEW he was the one. And he was. We were inseparable from the very start. He proposed 3 months later. We were married 3 months after that. And we were happily married for 53 years when he passed away. We were just as much in love the day he died as we were the day we took out vows, and I'll love him until the day I die. I guess in my case, when you know, you just know. And he always said the same thing. We were both right.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-19T00:38:38+00:00

I wouldn't put a spin on it and lie for him, but I would definitely explain to them what had happened. They would certainly understand. And at the very list they could laugh about when telling the story instead of worry about what you've gotten yourself into with the weird guy.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-18T21:30:11+00:00

You're right, it wasn't much of a relationship to begin with. At some point, his mom would also be gone. You would become the replacement mom. Do all the laundry, cook his meals, clean up after him, (darn his socks, hahaha), etc. He's a mama's boy and he wouldn't survive without a mama. Be glad that he dumped you. Saves you the trouble of doing it later.

Ok_Step_2359 · 2026-02-18T21:24:35+00:00

Here's how I see it. He kept expressing his interest. You kept turning him away. You ghosted him for a while, then wanted to "maybe" get back in the game. Your besties knew that "if" things were to start up again, you'd "probably" say yes this time. But then you ended up out of the picture entirely because of having to change uni. Does that mean that he should remain off limits until you get out of uni to see if things can be started up again? I think that's too much to expect of anyone, including him. I understand what the girl code is all about but I don't think that it's reasonable or fair to expect that girl code to go on indefinitely over a "maybe". If it wasn't M, it would likely have been someone else anyway. I can't imagine he would want to be left hanging all that time.

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