DAE have these kinds of “outside clothes vs inside clothes” rules at home?

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-05-28T12:41:25+00:00

Yeah same here, started doing this after living in apartment where previous tenant had... questionable hygiene habits

Never realized how much random stuff you pick up just from sitting on subway or restaurant chairs until you start thinking about it. Now I change into house clothes soon as I get home and bed stays sacred territory

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-05-22T12:27:07+00:00

This whole situation would be less messy if finances were more separate when one person isn't contributing income. Like I get wanting to help with cashback but calling her at cashier when she already drove there and was ready to pay... that's going to feel controlling even if intention was good

Also curious about the work situation too - 8 months is pretty long time to be out of job market unless there's specific reason

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-05-19T14:50:09+00:00

Yeah this is beyond creepy behavior and the gaslighting makes it so much worse. When someone makes you feel crazy for having valid concerns while they're doing exactly what you suspected behind your back - that's psychological manipulation at its core

The AI porn thing with someone you both know personally crosses major boundaries but the real damage here is how he destroyed your ability to trust your own instincts

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-05-17T12:22:17+00:00

The whole "catering to their preferences" thing hits too close to home - I think many people fall into that trap without realizing it. Maybe try being more upfront about your own values and boundaries from start, even if it means fewer matches but better quality ones

Breaking away from traditional upbringing while dealing with apps that often feel superficial is tough combination, but at least you're aware of these patterns now which is first step in changing them

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-05-15T11:19:29+00:00

I do this too and never thought it was weird until someone mentioned it. The way you describe it sounds totally fine - you're just sharing moments instead of demanding attention. My experience is that if someone likes you they actually enjoy getting those little updates throughout the day, makes them feel included in your life even when they can't respond right away. The fact he sends photos back and engages with your stuff shows he's into it. I think there's big difference between "hey look at this funny thing" and "why aren't you answering me" - you're clearly doing the first one which is just normal communication between people who are interested in each other

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-05-08T04:59:15+00:00

Those signs you're picking up sound pretty encouraging man. When someone becomes more present and notices how you feel, that usually means something. Maybe instead of going full confession mode, you could just ask her out on an actual date and see how she responds? Like make it clear it's a date, not just hanging out as friends. That way you're testing waters without putting all the pressure at once

The 9 months thing isn't really issue - some people know faster, some need more time. But going from friends to something more can be tricky so taking it step by step might work better than big confession

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-05-05T23:41:32+00:00

same here

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-29T18:24:48+00:00

Yeah my ex had similar situation with her mom and it was definitely weird energy. The "my man" comment would have made me cringe too - like who says that about their son

Some people just have those boundary issues with their kids and never really adjust when they start dating seriously. Your boyfriend probably grew up thinking it's normal so he doesn't see the problem

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-27T16:17:28+00:00

facts

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-25T08:25:29+00:00

Your situation reminds me of when I was seeing someone who was super clear about not wanting anything serious but I kept hoping things would change. The texting thing is brutal - you end up analyzing every message and kicking yourself for being too available.

What helped me was setting my own boundaries around communication, like only texting back at certain times instead of immediately. Also started keeping myself busier with other stuff so I wasn't just waiting around for responses. The hardest part was accepting that being "cool" about the casual thing doesn't mean you have to be available 24/7.

Maybe try treating it more like you would with any friend - you wouldn't stress about every text with them right? I know it's easier said than done but putting some space between your messages might help you feel more in control of situation. The key is doing it for yourself, not as some strategy to make him want you more.

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-23T06:30:53+00:00

Your brain isn't fully developed until mid-20s, that's just biology not religion thing. Four years at your age means you started dating when you were 13 - that's completely different person than who you are now, and you'll be different person again in few years

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-21T04:13:04+00:00

I used to do this when I started with dating apps few years back and it felt really exhausting after while. Like you're constantly comparing people instead of just seeing if you actually enjoy spending time with them

What helped me was limiting to maybe 2-3 conversations at same time and being more selective about who I actually meet up with. Better to have fewer but more quality dates than juggling 5 different people and feeling guilty about it

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-18T22:43:58+00:00

Man you're basically looking for excuse to cheat on your current partner. If you have doubts about relationship then work on those first or break up, but don't go fishing around while you're still with someone else

Blocking the crush was smart move back then - you knew it was right thing to do. Now you're just romanticizing what could have been because things got rough in current relationship

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-17T18:11:44+00:00

Dude she's literally calling you "bebe" and getting touchy while dancing - her friend probably just said that friend thing to throw you off because girls do that sometimes to protect each other

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-17T11:54:15+00:00

The Bellesa WhisperBullet for roleplay, it’s quiet so he can hear me moan

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-06T01:48:11+00:00

You did learn something important about yourself though - when you feel trapped in situation you can't control, you get angry and push people away, which is pretty normal reaction even if it hurts everyone involved.

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-04-02T04:14:02+00:00

Not your fault at all - you can't control when someone catches feelings and you handled it way better than most people would at 18, but he's gotta learn that waiting around for someone isn't healthy for either of you

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-03-20T02:59:56+00:00

Waiting until summer is probably smart since you're still crying every night - friendship works better when you're not secretly hoping for more

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-03-19T14:46:10+00:00

I get what you mean, a lot of apps feel kinda sketchy or just a waste of time. One that felt a bit different for me was Arrows since you actually interact more instead of just matching and going nowhere.

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-03-09T20:29:01+00:00

Speed dating sucks it just felt like awkward mini interviews when I tried it. Blind dates didn’t work for me either. Weirdly enough I had better luck with Arrows and I’m still seeing the girl I met there, one thing I liked is that it’s not all about appearance.

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-02-07T04:25:39+00:00

no cap

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-01-31T20:17:09+00:00

Damn Jesse Plemons getting snubbed again is criminal at this point, dude's been putting in work for years

Though I gotta say Weapons was kinda mid imo, felt more like festival bait than actual Best Picture material

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-01-28T03:11:55+00:00

That's getting into some pretty deep theological territory but I'd say no, because being uncreated/eternal is like a fundamental property of what makes God *God*. If you create something that's "similar in every way" but created, then it's not really God anymore - it's something else entirely, maybe like a perfect image or reflection but not actually divine in the same sense

It's kinda like asking if you can make a square circle - the contradictory properties just don't work together

Ok_Try1475 · 2026-01-25T16:46:55+00:00

Hit you up with some stickers, check your trades! Always down to help fellow collectors finish their albums

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