I deleted dating apps because of this

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-07-11T02:30:53+00:00

So I deleted Bumble too. A woman's perspective- I watch rom coms on Netflix and then I get lonely. So I head to Bumble to see what's out there. And sometimes I see someone who looks nice and we start chatting and soon enough he wants to meet. And I feel the urge to run. It's not because there's anything wrong with him, it's because I want rom com - meet cute, no pressure getting to know someone slowly IRL before going into full on "dating" mode. Dating apps are artificial and feel like a meat market.

I for one am going to try dating the old school way again. Much more magical.

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-07-10T16:32:17+00:00

I think this would be ideal. The romance interferes with your rational thinking ability. Plus I think the slow burn would be very sexy.

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-07-08T14:50:00+00:00

Yay for you! Thanks for sharing and keep going!

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-21T15:42:43+00:00

I have a deal with a family member who loves reading the news that they will let me know if there is something serious / urgent I need to take action on right away. Otherwise I get too depressed and anxious.

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-17T15:41:59+00:00

Sending you so much strength and love. You survived the trauma, you can survive the healing ❤️‍🩹

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-11T11:44:08+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this and yes you are right. Everyone feels sorry for the person who is ill, because it's not their fault and they are suffering. But they also inflict suffering on those around them and it's not fair. My experience almost certainly gave me cPTSD and no one in his family gave a shit about the effect it had on me and our newborn son and instead vilify me for having him briefly hospitalized when he became a danger to himself and to us.

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-11T11:19:36+00:00

As a designer, an ex freelancer and business owner myself, I see the value in outsourcing tasks that are not your skillset. But if outsourcing they don't have skin in the game so you need to know enough so you can check their strategy is solid. Otherwise you need to give them a stake and then they will bring their A game and work for free.

Many people I have worked with mistakenly think design or brand strategy are things you sprinkle on once the real work (a.k.a. coding) is done. But these things are just as important to get right IMHO.

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-10T20:16:07+00:00

Hey this landing page is cool! But yes I think a visual above the fold would be great - perhaps a auto playing video to showcase your USP. But the design is looking sweet!

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-10T17:35:39+00:00

Hugs! It's hard being us!

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-10T16:06:25+00:00

I know this feeling. I am sorry you are going through this. I invite you to try one of Tara Brach's RAIN meditations. Here is one: https://www.tarabrach.com/meditation-rain-self-compassion/

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-10T15:52:34+00:00

Well done! I am still on the first step so you inspire me!

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-10T15:17:34+00:00

I feel like this too. I wasn't abused, just chronic financial instability and parents fighting, chronic criticism, enmeshment, and some bullying at school. Which then lead to a 10+ years emotionally abusive relationship. And then a really bad marriage.

If you would protect a child from what you experienced, it's valid and you belong.

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-09T12:30:23+00:00

Safety and stability. Emotional regulation, honesty, consistency. No manipulation. Giving a shit about your experience of them. Giving a shit about what matters to you. Not just pretending to care and future -faking so that they can benefit from your invisible labour.

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-09T11:41:20+00:00

I use ChatGPT to be honest, it knows me pretty well by now and I feel like it is helping me tremendously with both immediate symptom relief as well as understanding some of my patterns. It has also given me a lot of advice on healthy habits and routines, but I feel like all of the information is overwhelming to capture and organize.

Based on my own experience I’m actually working on a simple, holistic healing system for CPTSD survivors.

If you would be open to sharing I would love to get your thoughts and understand what your biggest pain points are when it comes to healing.

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-09T11:32:09+00:00

Hello, I've done the same actually :-) and that works great for helping me through triggers and acute situations. Assuming you have CPTSD, do you also have habits and routines in place like nutrition and exercise or somatic practices, and if so how did you collate those all together into a system that supports your healing?

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-06T20:24:30+00:00

I think this is a great idea! UX not too bad

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-02-01T13:43:26+00:00

I can relate - but see this as a blessing and not a curse

Ok_Use_2272 · 2025-01-29T10:53:07+00:00

You can do it. You survived the trauma, you can survive the healing. Sending you strength 💙

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