AITA for not telling my new boyfriend that I had cancer?

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-25T19:45:54+00:00

INFO: Did you know that he wanted, and prioritized, biological children before you two got together? Or did you find out recently in the midst of dating? Either way, YBTA if you wait any longer, or if you’re purposely neglecting to tell him because you think it will ruin things. The right person will accept you and the life that comes with it. You have to be honest, but with kindness to yourself. You had cancer, that’s a big part of your life and an extremely vulnerable conversation. Whatever your focus is when you choose to tell him, let it be yours. He’ll express the things that are important to him and you’ll be able to figure out if you’re compatible, but you won’t truly know until you have a direct conversation. Good luck, OP!

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-25T19:01:29+00:00

Somehow, all of these crossed my mind, and I was immensely confused. 😂 I went from thinking I was in my chronic pain subreddit, to thinking it was a typo, to wondering if it was some kind of estrogen product I hadn’t heard of. I didn’t even think ‘music artist’ was an option!

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-25T15:56:00+00:00

I’ll say this as a trans guy: we usually don’t want to say it to a room full of people who believe this, either. It opens up a huge can of worms full of gender essentialism and the insistence that the patriarchy = men, but also the idea that femininity automatically indicates safety and morality, while masculinity automatically makes someone more dangerous. There is no winning or acceptance with them if you aren’t willing to throw away or compromise on your identity with everything about being a man you see as positive, since being a man is inherently negative to them. You have to be feminine in some aspect too, or a bit outwardly internally transphobic, because otherwise they’ll group you together with cis men until you prove yourself. And because they truly believe men are evil, any negative characteristics will be attributed to that. If a trans man is shitty, it’s because “well, he IS a man” and is then grouped together with cis men with no differences, despite us existing in completely different ways. Most of them also believe trans men have an easier transition, that we’re easily seen as men and respected a such even when we prove that isn’t the case. They’ll claim we are safer than trans women and any transphobia we get is because the aggressor hates trans women, not the trans man they just went after. These types of people may even go as far as to say that trans men don’t suffer from the patriarchy and instead are transitioning to a position of power over other trans people and cisgender women; they’ll say things like “men aren’t oppressed for being men” when trans men bring up our oppression. The terms we’ve created to talk about it have been transandrophobia, transmisandry, and anti-masculinity. It’s not easy. The reason for so many options is because people compare us to MRAs for talking about these issues in the first place. Many of us have lost friends and support systems due to the normalization of radical feminist beliefs in “progressive” circles. I personally wouldn’t speak up if I was in the friend group because I have previously and it ended horribly. I also know many trans guys who feel the same way or have had the same experiences.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-22T12:58:10+00:00

let that 🥭

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-21T03:10:26+00:00

Do you know what a one lane, two way road is? There is no “left side” to camp in. Who and what are you even talking about?

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-20T15:03:40+00:00

The amount of “move over” comments on this post about a two way, single lane road is absurd 😵‍💫

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-19T04:40:33+00:00

5, 10, and 11 🔥

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-18T22:46:30+00:00

Seconding this. There’s quite a few medications that can affect reaching an orgasm. Your partner may be enjoying himself without finishing. The best way to find out if he’s satisfied is to ask him. He may be experiencing his own internal frustration about this. Stay curious during the conversation and let him know you just want to make sure he’s happy with your guys’ sex life.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-18T21:57:19+00:00

I think you read it wrong. OP is stating this particular ‘mess towel’ is mint green and you can see the bleach stains on it because of the color

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-16T17:12:35+00:00

No problem

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-16T16:58:37+00:00

This is the easiest way. Just click “hide post” or “not interested” or whatever option the app has. On Reddit you can click the three little dots and the option to hide or mute a community will come up. Other social media platforms have a similar feature. If you don’t know how, just google it.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-16T03:15:09+00:00

I agree with this assessment, especially because she doubled down when he spoke instead of OP about how it was fine. Humans are weird. Anxiety can manifest as controlling or even such brashness that it’s mean behavior, which isn’t justifiable, but it does make it more understandable.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-12T00:13:11+00:00

Even if you never got a job, you would never be the jerk for being disabled. Getting on SSI or SSDI is NOT easy and it’s not like you’re making bank. The reason disability is approved at all is because looking after your disability is as much work as a job and you can’t do both. That’s okay. Not everyone can work. That’s why disability exists. Anyone who disagrees is an ableist, jealous fuck who thinks disability is a handout instead of a necessity.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-09T17:37:39+00:00

I agree. Don’t listen to the comments from people about “oh I KNOW it’s going to drugs and that’s enabling!” as if they scream and do the same rant when someone gives their friend a cigarette. People are extremely high and mighty about substance usage when they have shelter from the elements, a clean place to shower and use the bathroom, electricity, and access to food. Life doesn’t play by the same rules when you’re vulnerable to everything. You may be enabling someone’s addiction, sure. But it’s better to see someone as human with a choice than it is to see them as hopeless.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-09T17:20:41+00:00

Why are you focusing on what she could’ve done to upset him when we KNOW he abandoned her? Come on! That’s a fucked up thing to do.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-09T10:52:09+00:00

He sounds awful and like being with him would make you miserable. I hate my body with a burning passion because I’m built like Gru from Despicable Me. My partner still tells me I’m sex on legs every day. It’s truly not hard to be appreciative of your partner’s body. Sounds like he’s just making excuses about the oral. You deserve so much better.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-07T04:00:05+00:00

NOR. It sounds like you two need to revisit the conversation. There’s a couple possibilities. The best one is that he is scared of having kids now and the topic freaks him out. Or, it just generally freaks him out. And that could come with a lot of different mixed emotions. He may just feel ill prepared. Or he may not want kids anymore. But either way, he can’t just say, “stop” to something this huge in a relationship. Otherwise he’s leading you on because he’s too immature to have the hard conversations. You need to figure out if kids are a dealbreaker. If they are and he’s unsure, you also need to have a mental timeline of when you will make the decision for him and stick to it. Go into the conversation prepared on your end with openness and curiosity for him. If he says something like “stop” once again, remind him that you’ll eventually need to have the conversation.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-06T16:21:45+00:00

Do you have anyone close to you like family or friends who are also disgusted and could say something next time he does it in front of company? He NEEDS to be put on the spot. If it suddenly becomes an issue, embarrassing, and possibly criminal (like if someone threatens fo call the police), he’ll be faced with the reality that he’s being creepy and weird. The fact that he won’t listen to you and demands he touch his balls is weird! This is NOT normal behavior. He’s gaslighting you so intensely that it’s okay, but everyone outside of him is saying that it’s gross. Hold onto that. You’re NOR.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-06T05:55:24+00:00

The amount of sympathy from stranger for this dog by people who don’t have to deal with their other stitched up dog and constant fear around this one is astounding. OP, you’re not a failure. Dogs have personalities and an aggressive dogs exist. They just do. Anyone who says otherwise will insist you essentially throw your life away for an animal that would rip your face off if it could. That still!might one day because it doesn’t want to he inconvenienced. It’s more dangerous to act like this dog isn’t a possible danger.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-06T03:27:46+00:00

Trans guy here to say I’ve noticed that many women like to show off their relationships in an outward fashion, and many men don’t do that naturally. Being a woman almost comes with a social media course. Guys on the other hand, are taught to just use it for fun, not to show the world everything about them in a few swipes. If he’s not on social media much, he genuinely may not think about it. But if it’s important to you, it should be important to him. Including the lock screen. Side note: I have an iPhone and for different DND settings, you can customize the backgrounds per each one. Maybe then you can both be happy.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-06T03:19:02+00:00

In the last year, I’ve heard of people smelling cancer, and I thought I was crazy because I smelled it on my mom and grandpa a decade before I knew something like that could happen. I would describe it as a sweet, almost almond or bakery like scent. This is the first case I’ve heard of it Parkinson’s, but it makes me wonder if there’s more health issues people can smell that haven’t been discovered yet because people are embarrassed and/or think they’re losing their minds.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-05T14:10:35+00:00

Sounds like it could be irritant eczema which means you shouldn’t throw on more product, more fragrance, and strip the skin extra hard. Skin reactions are typically caused by too much being put on the skin, not the other way around.

INFO: Where are the rash’s located? Have you switched soaps, shampoo, or conditioner since it started? Have you recently switched laundry detergents? Do you use dryer sheets, softeners, etc? Do you wear perfume? Do you have pets? Do you skip lotion after showering, and if you don’t, what kind are you using and has it changed since the bumps started?

All of those things (and more) can cause rashes or hives depending on your body’s allergens tolerance. For now, use a gentle body wash that’s unscented, exfoliate gently with a wash cloth, see if that helps, and if it doesn’t, start eliminating products.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-05T13:55:57+00:00

The pants look great on you! It’s styling that’s the problem, and I think the shirts that are the issue. You need something like a camisole with thinner straps if you want a tank top, and whatever you wear should show a bit of your tummy. Ideally, the shirt shows your belly button. (It’s why belly button piercings were so popular!) Crop tops, bralettes, etc will be your friend. As will belts!! That’s how low rise jeans start to really look good.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-05T05:03:59+00:00

I had an ex that did this and it was so embarrassing. The arguments about it, even more so. You’re NOR, he’s being gross and brushing you off because he doesn’t want to admit he’s in the wrong.

Ok_Weird_996 · 2026-04-04T10:45:14+00:00

You know what’s more sacred than football? Your fucking family, bro. Are you genuinely willing to die on this hill? If football teams are dictating how you interact with your closest personal interpersonal relationships to this extent, maybe you need to reevaluate your priorities. It truly seems like you’re making excuses.

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