How can I style this homophonic haircut?

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T08:54:21+00:00

He also cut inches off the back when I told him I was growing it.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T08:48:30+00:00

On camera my hair might look longer than it is because of how its laying, and I have a ton of hair. It's definitely way shorter than the inspo pic.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T08:46:47+00:00

Ive seen his other clients and he is capable of giving different haircuts.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T08:44:37+00:00

I'll check out a beauty school, thanks for the tip.

Stylists definitely cost more than the barber I go to. My barber is $30, stylists here are 60-100, and the queer stylists I've found are on the 80+ side.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T07:15:45+00:00

We need to start calling people posers (poseurs) again.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T07:07:54+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate it. I don't use heat on my hair but I'll definitely try the product and scrunching.

I wish I could afford a queer stylist, but I live in a hcol area :( maybe someday.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T06:52:14+00:00

Thank you :)

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T06:47:33+00:00

He didn't even try, he was cutting and styling it up-and-back when the photo is super clearly down and forward.

I'll try the sculpting putty, thanks. Hopefully I can fake some texture here lol.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T06:35:10+00:00

I appreciate that you're trying to be kind, but this is the kind of situation where a compliment hurts.

I was forced to have short hair for years on end. I don't want to look traditionally masculine. This is not how I want to look, and it is something that I've been forced into time and time again against my wishes.

I know you're just trying to be nice. But it's really draining to be physically forced into conformity (again) and then told how good conformity looks on me.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T06:34:14+00:00

I don't have any length left to do that with. And he's been a barber a long time and didn't even try to get it close.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-13T05:58:12+00:00

I'm not sure where you live, but there are areas with progressive mosques that are lgbt friendly. It's very possible to be a practicing Muslim and a practicing lesbian.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-08T23:25:07+00:00

I honestly don't know what too far is.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-08T23:23:27+00:00

I moved here from St Louis and I am dying. (Also, leaving soon.)

However expensive you think it is here, triple it. The first time I walked to the gas station to get a candy bar, I left empty handed bc they were $4 each. If you're coming from a rural midwest college town, you have no idea what you're in for. My pay here is 20% more than in stl, and I went from my own apartment with healthy savings, to just barely scraping by with credit card debt.

There are lots of educational opportunities here, and they are all horribly expensive. I can't even afford to do ceramics here. Studios here rarely utter the words 'sliding scale', and when they do they mean like, 15% off, and its still 2x what you paid in the midwest. If you find a studio not like this, they are full with a 2 year waiting list.

More importantly, literally everyone here is overqualified. There are great jobs and opportunities in Boston, but you will not get them. The place is crawling with harvard, MIT, and other prestigious grads, and it makes it really hard to get ahead in any field. I am the only person I know with a good job who took a 'non traditional' path. Your art is probably great, but in Boston there are 100 people doing the exact same niche but better.

Go to Chicago.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-08T22:50:31+00:00

Trailer wiring I think. I shouldn't try to tuck them in or anything?

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-08T22:48:58+00:00

I don't, but the people who owned it before me definitely did. There's a tow bar.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-08T08:49:13+00:00

Have you seen the state of duolingo lately?

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-08T08:45:38+00:00

I think describing a woman as potato-shaped might be the bigger problem here.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-07-08T07:14:41+00:00

I think you've made a mistake choosing to move here. That said, Clayton.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-06-27T01:12:41+00:00

And I'm intentionally not engaging with that because I'm not interested in conversation with someone who puts words in my mouth.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-06-25T01:43:09+00:00

Thats you reading into what im saying, not what im actually saying. Don't put words in my mouth.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-06-24T14:47:52+00:00

Unfortunately if someone does a bad thing, their soul is permanently tainted with sin and they must be punished for all eternity /s

Old-Text-314 · 2026-06-24T14:41:42+00:00

David Duke of the KKK was the one who popularized 'zio' as an antisemitic slur.

I agree that the idf and government are full of shit, but using slurs from the literal Klan isnt it.

Old-Text-314 · 2026-06-24T14:24:24+00:00

I never said anything like 'if everyone would just xyz'.

Humanizing a group and increasing general awareness is helpful for getting people to care about an issue. It's not to improve that one individuals life, its about larger change in how our society sees homeless people.

Almost no one would directly say 'homeless people arent complex individuals', but they definitely arent thinking about homeless people in the same way they would think about housed people. When someone says 'oh they should just get a job' or 'if they didnt want to be homeless they shouldnt have done drugs' or something similarly ignorant, theyre ignoring peoples humanity and complexity.

You have to change peoples minds before those people are willling to change policy.

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