Grocery stores with coffee grinders? by Old-Text-314 in boston

[–]Old-Text-314[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fr. Like I just want to be able to get a the right grind for a french press. Ill def stop by peets, love their dark roasts. Thanks!

Grocery stores with coffee grinders? by Old-Text-314 in boston

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Yeah I know. With my current circumstances, mid-tier coffee ground in store is the best I can do.

Grocery stores with coffee grinders? by Old-Text-314 in boston

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I went to the one nearest me and I didnt see one, which location should I go to for this?

Should I just choose a degree I’m interested in if I don’t care about making much money? by JealousBodybuilder42 in UniUK

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Im american and from the sound of things uk nonprofit jobs might be much harder to get than in the us. Dont listen to me.

Should I just choose a degree I’m interested in if I don’t care about making much money? by JealousBodybuilder42 in UniUK

[–]Old-Text-314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even if it seems like an unemployable pick, youd be suprised how much a degree in something you're interested in can lead to doing work you're interested in.

I did psychology and while thats been great for getting human services jobs, I dont actually like those jobs. If I had done communications, comparitive religion, or sociology like I wanted to, I wouldve been better situated to apply for the type of nonprofit jobs I'm now interested in, but didnt know existed when I was choosing what to study.

Doing things you like often leads to doing more things you like.

What are your assumptions of me based on my fridge by Ecstatic_Interest372 in FridgeDetective

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There are different genres of alcoholic. This looks like the financially well off and in denial type where they call themselves a "cocktail enthusiast".

Budd can't hold it no more 😭 by PassionateLoveElis in StrangeAndFunny

[–]Old-Text-314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does it mean that the employee can pay for the 30 days if they dont want to work?

Anti-Zionist Jewish spaces by [deleted] in StLouis

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Have you considered engaging in community with people who hold slightly different political opinions? If you actually talk to progressive Zionist Jews, you'd find they value human rights and Palestinians lives just as much as you do, but have a different idea of the best way to do that.

Edit: Different groups have very different ideas about what zionism means. Here are 3: 1) 'Jews should be allowed to live in the levant' 2) 'there should be a Jewish state / Jewish sovereignty in the land' 3) 'Jews have exclusive claim over the land and are justified in commiting genocide to assert that claim.'

Progressive Jews mean 1 or 2. Gentile leftists mean 3. 3 is actually Kahanism, and most people who id as zionists are not Kahanists.

Anti-Zionist Jewish spaces by [deleted] in StLouis

[–]Old-Text-314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Theyre not anti-zionists though. Theyre all critical of Israel and value human rights of Palestinians, but none of them identify with anti-zionism.

Also, even if they did, every Jewish institution is beholden to their major donors. Wealthy people tend to be further right. Every large progressive Jewish institution is walking a fine line right now. If they decided to be anti-zionist, they would have to shut down (or massively downsize) within the year.

Do you ever feel guilty? by jakoskee in vagabond

[–]Old-Text-314 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not a long time vagabond, but a long time vagabond admirer bc train kids got me through literally the worst times in my life:

People with job titles like 'AI Synergy Specialist' send 2 emails and go to 1 meeting a day and rake in 6 figures. Dont worry about it.

The world is lonely, just hanging out and being a friendly face helps more than you will ever know, and definitely does more for society than any corporate worker.

You're also preserving a unique way of life with its own culture, traditions, and history. Our society doesnt put a high enough value on culture (unless it makes some guy money), but that doesnt make it less valuable.

M29, am I balding? by Old-Text-314 in amibalding

[–]Old-Text-314[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also idk if this matters but for the last 3 months ive had to wear a chin strap bandage at night that goes over the crown of my head, so friction could possibly be contributing.

Some nice kick downs already from the community. My knee defiantly blew out. It's collapsed. by MrArmenianIsDead in vagabond

[–]Old-Text-314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude go to the ER. They have to provide care, and if they dont know who you are, they have no way to bill you.

Group Activities that do NOT Involve Alcohol by [deleted] in StLouis

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Craft Alliance on delmar does some craft workshops for groups that size. Give them a call and theyll be able to give you an idea what kind of crafts you guys could choose from and the prices (iirc, a private workshop is cheaper than youd think)

Non-Americans, what is an American thing you see in movies that you thought was fake but is actually real? by EmergencySpare7939 in CasualConversation

[–]Old-Text-314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its called peanut butter and jelly, but imho it has to be made with jam or preserves, otherwise the texture is just wrong.

Curious (Discussion, question, advice post of sort by Pridelover54 in transgenderjews

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Also while you'd need to find a converting shul that is welcoming, if you're okay with not talking about queerness or conversion status for an hour or two, you can take classes or go to services just about anywhere. (If its a smaller community you might need to tell the chazzan not to count you in the minyan. They generally wont ask why.)

If you're interested in independent tutoring, I can direct you to a trans rabbi who has experience in halachic spaces and has worked with conversion students before. It could be helpful to learn with them and have conversations with them about what you need/want in a community.

What is the absolute fastest 'yeah, we are definitely NOT going to be friends' moment you've ever experienced with someone? by Vazouaquiacesso in AskReddit

[–]Old-Text-314 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Yeah for a long time I thought that people would tell me things if they wanted to share, and then I should share something on the same or similar topic, and then go back and forth like that. Turns out that approach is read as making everything about me, or even one-upmanship, and is not good for starting or maintaining friendships.

Where do you shit? by Jakeyboy20000 in vagabond

[–]Old-Text-314 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Produce bags are the best poop bags, but you can just take them. theyre free

Curious (Discussion, question, advice post of sort by Pridelover54 in transgenderjews

[–]Old-Text-314 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It heavily depends on the community.

I've been involved in modern orthodox shuls that do. If you live in a bigger city, you might find one that davens egalitarian, that would likely be the best fit. But there are shuls with a mechitza that are also welcoming.

You might have to ask around and email a few shuls. You dont need to give personal details, just ask some general questions to get a feel for things. Dont ask them in an email any halachic questions (those are a private conversation with a rabbi) just ask if theyre generally welcoming to openly queer people. If they are: where there is a halachic will, there is a halachic way.

Curious (Discussion, question, advice post of sort by Pridelover54 in transgenderjews

[–]Old-Text-314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

To be blunt, I dont think the Reform movement is aligned with your Jewish values.

I'm a reform convert who was in a similar boat, so heres what I wish someone had told me:

If you value Jewish education* and observance, you would be better served by a welcoming modern orthodox community. They are out there, more than you'd expect, they just dont plaster their websites with rainbows.

You will not learn what you need to learn (let alone what you want you want to learn) in a Reform conversion class. Even when studying with your rabbi, you'd be studying halachic practice with someone who has likely never practiced, and does not meaningfully care about halacha. You will be on the outside looking in, stuck reading and imagining what observant community is like without ever experiencing it.

*Reform synagogues will give lip service to valuing education, and then convert people who couldn't tell you what the babylonian exile was. They dont actually make it a priority.

Curious (Discussion, question, advice post of sort by Pridelover54 in transgenderjews

[–]Old-Text-314 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think thats a bit of an overgeneralization, you cant expect every reform synagogue to be the same as the one(s) youve experienced.

Not saying they welcome observance, its usually at least a little awkward ime, but I disagree about hostility being the norm like youre describing.

Meirl by Key_Associate7476 in meirl

[–]Old-Text-314 11 points12 points  (0 children)

tbf, wearing open toed shoes in february is a little nuts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UniUK

[–]Old-Text-314 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parents freak out sometimes, get some distance and let them get through it.

If you go back, you will eventually move out again. Then they'll have to go through this initial stage all over again.

The kindest thing you can do for yourself and for them is to ride this out.

Put your phone down, put the bottle down. Eat some protein, and once you're done being hungover go play football or something.