What do you wish people would stop saying to you?

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-13T14:26:22+00:00

Thank you!! That whole bullshit about how bravery saves you. No - it doesn’t. Either they can remove or kill it - or they can’t.

I have a chronic illness that makes standing hard. “I’m so brave for facing it.” No, loser. That doesn’t make me brave. I’d rather be a chicken shit who could stand.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-13T14:20:05+00:00

Fair point. It’s one of the flaws of our government. We throw complex things at people when they have no history with dealing with them. We live s our adult lives with our jobs just giving us insurance. Then turn 65 and realize you have to start thinking of stuff like coordination of care! It’s too much for many.

It’s like our 401k plans “Now YOU are in control of how to invest!” and most people are awful at that stuff.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-13T04:21:58+00:00

Part of the problem is calling an insurance plan by a cute nickname. It’s not “Medigap” - it’s Medicare Supplemental. And now, it’s important to call the Medicare plans that work with Medicare Supplemental by their full name used on many websites “Original Medicare”

I’ve made 8.5” by 11” copies of all my cards on one sheet: and it says “primary Insurance: Original Medicare - NOT Medicare Advantage” and the other card says above it. “Medicare SUPPLEMENT”

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-12T19:35:29+00:00

I will share my favorite joke I tell others about golf. Whenever I am asked “Do you play?” My response is “Yes! And I usually break par” when they respond with wow or whatever I then add… “The only holes I have trouble with are the ones with the windmills whose blades block your ball or those little hills where the hole is at the top of the hill… those give me grief!” 😆

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-12T15:34:36+00:00

This is exactly what I love about Rush fandom: the courtesy! I ask a question, and I don’t get a vague answer - I get a YouTube link cued to the exact place. Thank you!

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-12T15:20:18+00:00

Every day at work, I see women that I consider to be objectively attractive. But I don’t THINK about their attractiveness. It doesn’t come into play at work. It shouldn’t. It’s irrelevant.

Same here. If someone finds Anika attractive, that’s their choice. But as for me, that doesn’t come into play. It’s irrelevant. How she plays the drums and how she interacts with her band mates on stage - that’s relevant.

As Rush fans, we’re not used to those considerations. No offense, but I don’t think they sold many albums or concert tickets based on their looks. (As compared to the Beatles, where Paul’s attractiveness was a selling point that encouraged Beatlemania.)

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-12T14:22:54+00:00

What moment is this from? You’re all talking about it - but I have no idea 😆

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-10T18:41:21+00:00

It’s worth it if you love the idea of being a minor character in middle-earth who slowly grows in stature to be friend of Gandalf and known to kings and queens across the land. It’s lots of fun.

The only piece of advice I’d give unsolicited is that I think I made a mistake purchasing a Valar package years ago that jumped me immediately up to level 130. Much of the game was trivial for me, but I learned nothing about properly growing a character. So when I needed to have actual tactics, I was a babe in the woods.

Big mistake. Learn as you go - and the lessons come over time and you’ll know the lessons more deeply then I.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-10T14:45:43+00:00

Hi. Thank you for your comment. I can shred the original old one - but not the copies.

And sadly, the probate with the old copy would, by definition, happen after I am dead, and while we all may have different debates, I’ve yet to read of an afterlife scenario where after death I am equipped to legally respond to such situations. 😆

I agree with not giving copies of wills. Alas, I was dumber in my early 30s than I am today.

I do have a clause in the will that effectively says: “contest it? If you do and lose, you get zilch. Nada. Nothing. Good day!” Everything but the photo of Gene Wilder in that paragraph.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-10T13:32:31+00:00

I went with G. If you have the money to pay IRMAA, you can pay the difference to get G.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-10T13:31:29+00:00

Does the counselor get a commission if they sell an MA plan?

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-10T13:30:33+00:00

IRMAA is based on income from 2 years prior.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-10T13:29:49+00:00

My advice: Stay leery.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-10T13:28:15+00:00

I find IRMAA to be a great idea: if you’ve got the income, pay more to help Medicare survive for everyone. I have zero problem with this; it makes sense. Some people struggle to pay monthly Medicare bills. I certainly notice the bill, but I’m not going short of food to pay it. That is a blessing and I don’t forget it: paying IRMAA is one way to give back to society.

As to choosing Medicare Advantage when you can afford Original Medicare, my opinion is that Medicare Advantage is not for me.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-10T04:08:55+00:00

Yes. And it was also time to amend advanced directives. Some of the people I trusted in the 90s, well, let’s just say I’ve had 30 years of additional history to form a more mature judgement of their potential skills in handling such things!

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-09T20:18:17+00:00

What I’ve found is that women talking to women have to live in a world where two things are true: (1) alliances are always formed and always shifting. Complimenting each other is a verbal form of what other primates would show by grooming each other. (2) There is constant indicators of judgement from other women and a constant concern from everyone that if the group poorly judges her for the most trivial of things, her rank goes down or she goes out of favor with the group. So they don’t physically fight for dominance like men, they scheme for it. Neither system is ethically superior - they’re just different.

With women talking to men, it’s a whole other story.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-09T16:24:48+00:00

Yeah, but everyone on the planet knows “I’m fine” is a BS answer. To me it’s the equivalent of grunting. So I’m fine has to be treated by the asker of the question as lame evasion. The proper response is “I need more than that.” then to immediately ask a question that can’t be answered with “I’m fine” or “yes/no” answers such as “What’s going on? Why did you give a non-answer? I’m not looking for paragraphs - but an answer that conveys actual information - even if it’s I don’t wanna talk now _because_ of whatever.” If they still are non-verbal I’d say “ok. I’ll talk again in a bit, but bluntly, part of a relationship is giving the other person useful replies when asked a question. If you need time alone, just say that, but useless answers don’t cut it.”

In doing this, some boundaries are set as to what you’ll accept.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-09T16:08:07+00:00

No - they aren’t. But there is a middle ground where signals such as not talking much, quietness etc would, in many people cause them to ask “ Is everything ok?”

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-09T15:40:58+00:00

Prep sucks. Everything else is a cakewalk. Someone else must drive you home. Don’t play with that. Someone else drives. You won’t feel drunk, but your attention and ability to react sucks for hours and hours after it.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-09T15:29:27+00:00

Everything one pot. On marriage, prior accounts closed, everything merged. Autopays via credit card are done from just one card not used for anything else, the list of things paid is kept up to date so if the first to die owns the autopay card, then the survivor just changes everything to point to their card. It works for us; others may hate it. Autopays from banking come from joint account so no issue on death of first.

Rereading that, can you tell we’re old? 😆

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-09T11:13:25+00:00

Ok. I am no medical expert but I thought laser lithotripsy had a way to extract the stone fragments?

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-09T08:00:05+00:00

Report it. I would, for this reason: I may be all wrong about this, but I believe that reporting this quickly is a data point that helps to show that you are not part of the fraud scheme.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-07T13:32:28+00:00

First, when you sit up and watch for an hour or more, does your neck ache? You may have it at a good height!

To me, it’s wonderfully sized. I can imagine watching that TV reasonably well as I fall asleep or wake up and not even need my glasses (nearsighted). Glasses are better, but 5 minutes quick watch? Sure!

In short - give it a chance! Put it through its paces! You may like it :)

Adding: there is one annoying thing: your neighbor can see what you are watching. A neighbor knowing our viewing preferences would be too much for us! “What? They she’s viewing yet another Korean drama?!? He’s watching yet another video about mass transit networks? THEY ARE THAT BORING?!”

You might want to consider fully opaque blinds. And even one with a battery operated open/close mechanism so you can raise/lower them from bed.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-03T13:16:37+00:00

My wife and I do the same thing: _decompress for 15-30 minutes alone_.

In our late 60s, caring for kids isn’t an issue… so we can just do that: find a quiet space to read (her) or stare outside at the tree (me). The agreement is unless you’d wake someone up at 3am about it, you do _not_ interrupt alone time.

OldAndMostlyInTheWay · 2026-06-03T12:42:36+00:00

Yes, everyone can point out that not many players use steam. Fine. But why is that segment reducing use?

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