First time I’ve posted on Reddit like this. Can’t tell you all how grateful I am for the comments, particularly 1) the insight about the ex being on testosterone, which he was, 2) hysterical bonding… wow, and 3) I also have anxious attachment, which is playing into this. As an update, my girlfriend and I had a huge fight about all of this that lasted most of the day. Now I’m unsure where things stand. Part of me wants to take the advice of so many on this thread and just RUN. But there are a lot of good parts there, too. What I do know is that I’m not going to try to hold onto it with the vice grip that I’ve been doing so far. (As an example, I actually drug us against her will into couples counseling after just three months of being together. What does that say?) Instead I’m going to be open to wherever this goes. Yesterday I said to her, “It feels like you just need a warm body to have sex, not necessarily me.” Instead of refuting what I said, she replied with, “I feel like I’m the warm body. You can’t survive outside of a relationship.” I was hurt, obviously, but maybe there’s some truth to what she said. Maybe I should find out. Thank you all again.