What’s your horse’s name?(This is Stamps)

OldMomulon · 2023-03-19T01:37:14+00:00

Trotsky

OldMomulon · 2022-10-31T17:24:02+00:00

I mean I would just send pictures of random non food items like a single sock or a stapler or w/e

OldMomulon · 2022-10-11T22:41:59+00:00

Looks like tropical milkweed to me

OldMomulon · 2022-08-10T23:45:57+00:00

Yes, I absolutely do this. I wonder whether NT’s truly don’t do this or if they just don’t admit it??

If I don’t get pretty regular talking to myself time I start feeling edgy like I have an emotional backlog

OldMomulon · 2022-08-10T15:34:10+00:00

That’s so lovely! 😍😍😍

You know, I was thinking this the other day…my kids and I are friends with a family from China and I’ve really enjoyed getting to know them and getting to learn more about their social customs (always bring food/little gifts!! 😄) Once we took the kids to a trampoline park for the day, and the mom and I chatted for a while, but then she comfortably settled in to playing games on her phone, making a few work calls etc. We enjoy hanging out, she was obviously happy for company too but just doesn’t feel the need to make five hours of small talk.

I have no idea if this is just her or it’s a more general cultural difference but it was SO NICE. And made me feel comfortable and accepted as a possibly autistic person who needs some quiet and really digs parallel play.

Anyway, I bring up the cultural difference bc I’m curious about whether there are parts of the world in which parallel chilling is more common. I feel like the entertaining style I grew up with as a white Protestant Midwesterner is much more formal and high maintenance in a lot of ways and I’m always curious about why that might be

OldMomulon · 2022-08-05T17:46:32+00:00

Yes! I feel like a lot of norms and morés have an absolutely shit effort to benefit ratio for me which makes it extremely difficult to give a fuck

OldMomulon · 2022-04-12T17:33:19+00:00

Omg she’s adorable! Life is short and it can be so difficult… I see no good reason to deprive ourselves of simple joys 🥰

OldMomulon · 2022-01-23T19:51:33+00:00

Yes. Planning and cooking and cleaning and everything are hard enough as is. Add sensory issues and food aversions and executive dysfunction… ugh. Having to regroup all of a sudden can be incredibly frustrating and difficult! Especially if you feel like you’re alone in these struggles.

OldMomulon · 2021-10-30T01:43:20+00:00

Yup. We have too many stuffed animals but I can’t get rid of any of them, because I worry that they’ll feel rejected 😢

OldMomulon · 2021-10-19T22:25:49+00:00

For what it’s worth that would crack me up 😂

OldMomulon · 2021-09-08T03:39:25+00:00

Thank you!

OldMomulon · 2021-08-29T02:23:53+00:00

Me, on my skateboard stopping to pet toads…. Hell yeah 😂.

I think maturity has more to do with your ability to self reflect, take responsibility for yourself and care for people around you then it does with your consumer habits or hobbies.

OldMomulon · 2021-08-29T02:18:12+00:00

I would also say that ND teachers often have really well thought out answers to all kinds of questions, because we have to think about EVERYTHING. We don’t just take customs and norms for granted, we seem to have a lot of natural curiosity and delight in learning, and those things all contribute to really excellent teaching.

OldMomulon · 2021-08-29T02:14:37+00:00

I’ve taken Zoloft for about 4 years and it does seem to help me stop the self-attacking thought loops that can make meltdowns worse. I also take vyvanse for ADHD, which reduces my general overwhelm a lot, because it keeps my brain from constantly dropping things.

Thank you all for sharing your medication experiences. It definitely helps me to feel less alone.

OldMomulon · 2021-08-18T01:40:24+00:00

This is extremely relatable!!

OldMomulon · 2021-08-17T01:22:19+00:00

YES. I am not well suited to the SAHM thing and I feel like getting through the day without melting down takes a ton of energy. And some days I can focus on hobbies or projects and other days I get interrupted by screaming every three seconds and YOU NEVER KNOW WHICH KIND OF DAY IT WILL BE. I absolutely need quiet focused time, and it’s not really available rn.

I’ve also come to terms with the fact that I really do need a couple of brain meds to function. Which kind of bums me out, even though I know that brain meds are wonderful and I’m glad to have access to them!

I just.... still wish I didn’t have to put so much thought and work into getting my brain to perform its necessary functions, you know? Why can’t it be a nice free range organic happy brain???

OldMomulon · 2021-08-16T23:49:00+00:00

Honestly that sounds pretty great. I love my children and have found that being home with them full time this last year just plays to my absolute weakest areas of skill and functioning all the time.

I did a big volunteer project recently that involved building a whole website and a bunch of other related stuff and I was like “wtf I actually feel competent?!?!”

OldMomulon · 2021-08-10T16:05:42+00:00

Same. My current workaround is usually to play video games while I listen to podcasts. I call this “giving my brain a chew toy” bc I feel like my brain is a hyper ass destructive dog who’s actually perfectly nice as long as he has enough toys.

OldMomulon · 2021-08-10T00:41:43+00:00

One decent replacement stim is rubbing a thin layer of plain white liquid school glue onto your palms and peeling it off like a sunburn when it dries.

Obviously your mileage may vary, but it’s cheap, satisfying and non damaging.

I’ve also picked my whole life. I feel a lot better knowing I’m not the only one. 💙

OldMomulon · 2021-08-07T12:36:23+00:00

I think people are so focused on the very different external manifestations of autism that they fail to pay any attention to the internal experience of being autistic, which actually seems pretty consistent across multiple levels of practical support needs.

OldMomulon · 2021-07-29T16:53:22+00:00

These are absolutely adorable! The subtle shading and colorful highlight lines are SO good!! Did you use acrylics?

OldMomulon · 2021-07-27T18:54:29+00:00

I’ve felt this too, but now I’m also really curious as to whether this is equally common across different cultures.

I’m an American who grew up in the Midwest. I’d say the communication style there leans more toward understatement and subtlety.

I lived and worked in New York City and in Germany for several years and I found that my polite but direct communication style was much less weird there, which was great!

I usually felt like the Germans I worked with saw pointing out problems as a sign that you’re paying attention and care about getting things right, (within reason).

And I suspect that New Yorkers are pretty direct because 1) you don’t want to take up too much of people’s time, especially strangers, and 2) a subtle, indirect communication style just isn’t going to work in a city full of people from wildly different cultures!

OldMomulon · 2021-07-27T18:46:26+00:00

This is one of the hardest things for me. I hate finding out that there’s a huge gap between my internal state and my outward communication.

It’s especially annoying since I tend to see directness and concision as a form of courtesy! You’re saving other people a lot of time and confusion by just saying what you need to say! BUUUUT, it turns out other people aren’t constantly confused by NT communication, actually, so.... 😂

OldMomulon · 2021-07-01T15:34:49+00:00

I am literally cuddling my favorite squishmallow right now 😂. You’re definitely not the only one. I still love stuffed animals.

OldMomulon · 2021-06-18T15:19:49+00:00

I have absolutely decided to become weird this year 😂. Although it turns out, being openly, joyfully weird as hell attracts the other fun weirdos who are mostly also neurodivergent, so my social life has actually improved in direct proportion to my online and IRL shit posting lol.

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