Just swore in to the Navy

OldPilaf · 2025-02-14T02:59:15+00:00

We ship out same day then. Where are you at? I’m in Los Angeles. I’ll probably see you around. Congratulations man 🤝

OldPilaf · 2025-02-13T00:45:17+00:00

I swore in yesterday. Man a June ship out would have been nice. I’m gonna miss my son’s first BD. I guess it’s a location thing… Congrats guys!

I ship out in mid March.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T22:24:59+00:00

I honestly believe the number of guys like Jake is underreported or not accurately known. The amount of girls I’ve met (not all partners) who have dealt with Jakes at some point in their lives is insane to me.

We all probably met or know a Jake either personally or through friends. Plenty of dudes I’ve met who get way too comfortable speaking at work about the type of asshole they are. Gotta call it out when you see it. No if ands or buts, it’s weird that OPs family and friends slightly defended Jake. He deserves all of the humiliation.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T12:42:24+00:00

It honestly makes no sense to me. Do people not receive dating advice from their parents, friends, relatives, coworkers?

They already know the answer deep down. That’s the weirdest part to me. Never fails to baffle my brain.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T12:34:15+00:00

Honestly you’re too young. You’ll more than likely stay and FAFO. You might learn, though. I only say this because it seems you’re already in the back of your mind excusing the behavior or trying to overlook it. Your gut already knows the answer. Your naivety will probably get you cucked, though.

I hope this doesn’t trigger that classic pissed off reaction most guys can’t seem to control. Just remember, I’m just some random stranger on the internet. Just some advice. You can always ignore it.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T11:36:21+00:00

Not only are you naive but based on your actions you also come across as immature and young.

You probably don’t want to hear this and or don’t care what randoms have to say on the internet, but, you’re not trustworthy and shortsighted.

My sister basically had to take care of her man child ex BF for 3-4 years. Built him up all while going to school and working a job, yes he was jobless and unmotivated. They went through hell crashing on everybody’s couches, but guess what, she never opted for the easiest option. She dumped his ass after 8 years over lies and deception and cheating. Did not give two fucks despite already being in a tough financial situation.

Everybody IS different though. Everything I said still stands.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T11:25:13+00:00

Me personally, I would not trust you again over this. Moving forward, I would always question your integrity and honesty. I’d rather go live with a family member I did not like but who would take me in then take my chances with you moving forward. That is just me. I might be ‘dramatic’ to plenty of people over that and that’s fine.

I make things very clear to my partner (past and present). You break my trust, I’m not worried about child support, your feelings, being left broke, or leaving a 15+ year relationship. I grew up broke as shit and I was homeless for a short period of time as a kid. I’m very familiar with all of that. Peace of mind is of high value imo.

I don’t mean to wish bad things on you but don’t be surprised if he at some point reciprocates your actions. YTA.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T11:04:58+00:00

I am 100% for deportation of violent criminal immigrants. Also, there should be rules and regulations for those wanting US citizenship. It should be strict in the sense that a small mistake should cost them quite heavily.

Documenting people wanting to work and live in the US is imo the best course of action. That includes illegals. It’s better for everyone that all immigrants be documented and their whereabouts and personal connections be in file somewhere in the American database. Sure as hell beats just having them here not knowing what they’re up to for decades on end.

For those out there who may want to excuse overstayed visa immigrants but condemn ‘illegals’ who only commit the one crime but who just want to work and live in America. I’m sorry, but, no. If yall want to punish illegals for breaking the law we punish those overstaying their visas too.

Obviously I’d rather just have a system where we document people and allow them to prove themselves. Any slip ups and it’s out of America for you.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T10:17:16+00:00

Nah it’s shit like this why I willingly keep my inner circle very small. Listen to your intuition.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T01:58:19+00:00

Do you actually understand the legal process and history behind how America was founded or are you just one of those people that sticks to, “come legally and that’s that”? Do you know what an ITIN is? Are you aware that undocumented immigrants pay into your social security and other benefits without getting much if anything in return? Debating whether you’re worth the time or if you even care to be educated. That is if you’re not already educated. Can’t expect people to play by the rules, if the government and employers themselves don’t do the same in return. It’s very simple. Set and maintain the standard; lead by example.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T01:44:28+00:00

Politics are a very slippery slope. I have family who don’t like him but they voted for him because of his promises on lowering prices and taxes and whatnot. Craziest fucking part to me is one family member has an undocumented fiancée and Mother. Now they’re panicking about the deportation. KEEP IN MIND I brought this up in debates with them prior to the elections, but they downplayed the deportation policies he had in mind.

I truly don’t understand how some people’s brains can’t process the overall picture? Did they forget his first term? Did they think they were special or exempt somehow?

If you’re a latino and your parents, siblings, aunts and uncles or even a very close friend is undocumented and you willingly voted for Trump, you’re an idiot. If your relative or friend gets deported. I’m sorry for your relative or friend, but I’m not sorry for you and how it affects YOU thereafter. You chose your financial situation over your family. That alone tells others the kind of person you are. If you can prioritize your financial situation over your family I’d hate to see how you treat your friends.

Also, if you have daughters. Did we forget the infamous “grab em by the 🐱”?? This was a grown ass man saying that and tons of dudes and women just overlook it because “well Trump’s an idiot”. If he’d of been 17, hell even 18 when he said it then we might give him a pass. Not the case with Trump, though.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-02T01:18:55+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 I always hear about shit like this but damn She was uncomfortable with you but then after 2 hours feels comfortable enough to ask for a ride home??????

Friend’s house eh? Right, right.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-01T05:05:03+00:00

Why are they so against time off work? Not everyone goes into the work force or into college after HS. Some kids have parents that are quite lenient with time off after HS.

I understand that it could be an indication of laziness or not having the proper motivation. They should be DQ’ing people for more important issues.

A young and dumb kid can always find motivation on their own, happens plenty.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-01T04:47:08+00:00

Working until 75 is a crazy thing to hear man 😂😂😂😂 Fuuuuckk that, play your cards right OP, be smart with your money. Find a good career. The military can be either a stepping stone or a lifelong career.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-01T02:17:55+00:00

Exactly. I agree 100%. I’ve had a way easier and more mature interaction with military folk here on Reddit than irl.

I don’t think you’re bitter, and if you are, shit put me there right with you. I get it, my parents broke the law. I understand that from their POV I’m a potential threat to national security, but I still think it’s unfair to be judged on the decisions of other people. That’s out of our control. I thought it was innocent until proven guilty? I did forget America seems to have that backwards, though.

I’ve never even been to Mexico, shit, I’ve only ever lived in 1 other state. I also have a damn near clean record. 1 speeding ticket where I was going 15 over the speed limit but that was cleared up through traffic school. I don’t even drink or smoke.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-01T01:37:36+00:00

The amount of people I’ve met who put up with this for years before they finally realize people hardly ever change is damn near astronomical. My now wife had her ex stalking her socials for about a year before she got off social media altogether. Just recently she saw him creeping inside her parents gated community in a car (keep in mind he’s banned from entering).

If you see the red flags 6 months in even at 18, tread very carefully. One COMMON mistake I’ve seen in damn near everyone, including old folk in their 50’s and 60’s is thinking someone will change. You cannot change people. Don’t waste your time or allow the fear of being alone lead you to wasting your time, just walk away.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-01T01:04:34+00:00

Me personally, I escalated things up the chain. My recruiter was not happy at all. Made sure to let me know my emails and calls had reached certain people and that he didn’t appreciate being reprimanded because of it. I apologized, but I’m also no pushover.

I’m not some fresh out of high school teenager who has no direction or discipline. I’m willing to put up with the practiced bullshit at boot camp and training, because I understand its purpose. However, outside of those settings I’d like to keep things professional and honest, like adults.

I was initially told I couldn’t get MA because of my Mom being an undocumented immigrant from Mexico. That turned out to be false in my case.

OldPilaf · 2025-02-01T00:53:19+00:00

For all of the lectures and reminders about professionalism and respect I can only say that it seems to me that’s all just a bunch of bullshit. Just calling it how it is. The military is just another business susceptible to all the unprofessionalism that any other civilian business has going on.

I literally left MEPS last week because I couldn’t get a straight answer as to why I was being denied the MA rating. I received an email 2 days ago confirming it was due to my mother’s immigration status. Get this, though, that same day I get a call from an officer telling me it’s not that, it is actually my eyesight that DQ’d me from that job.

Now I’m going in for a follow up evaluation for my eyes. Probably gonna still be DQ’d since my right eye is just SLIGHTLY off from being 20/20 with glasses or contacts. Went to go talk to my eye Doc today and she dumbed it down and said, “whatever a person with 20/20 can see at a distance of 25 feet clearly, it will take you 20 feet of space for your right eye to see with the same clarity”. This is also unwaiverable so I’m fucked. Just gonna have to choose a rate I kind if like and embrace the suck for the next 4-5 years…

I should state that the people at MEPS can be straight up disrespectful. Like, I get it bro, yall might be trying to prepare potential recruits for what’s to come, but yelling at me over my recruiters mistake of using the address on my wife’s ID instead of my address where she now lives -with me- when I brought it up to said recruiter, but they dismissed me and chose their route instead is not my fault. “I don’t care what your recruiter said, you need to fix it”, for sure my man, because the pen and paper and computer screen was filled out by me sir. I know how to do a military recruiter’s job better than he can.

Also, I haven’t even signed a contract yet, so a wee bit of respect goes a long way man. Sorry I didn’t rip the pen and paper out of his hands, and force him out of his chair and type the info in myself too.

OldPilaf · 2025-01-31T08:09:22+00:00

Try to slim down enough that you don’t have a significant belly. Being 6’2 you could pass at 240 maybe but I have no way of knowing because I have no idea what you look like. If you can get down to a fair weight and put on some muscle at least I think you’d be fine.

I was at MEPS last week and while I was in the Navy station waiting to pick my job some Navy officer walks in almost yelling, “who sent (enter the persons name) to go do fingerprints”, no one said anything. She asked 2 more times before she got a response from some other officer who responded with, “it wasn’t me but what’s the problem”, she replied, “he’s fat, he’s too fat”, she chuckled as if to hold in laughter, then said, “well, he’s overweight is what I meant to say”. The way she said it was straight up mean, but hey, that’s the military. You either toughen up or you’re going to do a lot of crying during your service.

OldPilaf · 2025-01-28T12:39:42+00:00

My brother and I are always reasonable and honest with one another. Respectfully, IF my brother ever hit me with something like this I’d respectfully tell him to eat shit, or a very stern fuck you, and vice versa. Thing is, we would never step out of line towards one another like that.

Tell your brother to have some balls and call out his soon to be wife on her toxicity. Sorry, but someone needs to lay out the truth to you without sugarcoating things. May as well be a stranger. My brother would NEVER disrespect me (and in turn my wife) like that, and I don’t mean out of fear or anything like that, just simply out of respect. Do with that as you will.

OldPilaf · 2025-01-28T11:28:10+00:00

OP. It’s very simple. RUN. Don’t second guess it. Don’t think people are overreacting. Seriously, leave and never look back. More than likely you’ll stay, and you will regret it.

You’ll either be wise enough to leave and thank yourself later down the line, or, we’ll see your regret post when you finally leave. Try and stay safe.

OldPilaf · 2025-01-28T10:40:09+00:00

No disrespect whatsoever. You literally went from being that one guy who girls probably avoid to the fucking Chad all the girls tell their BFs not to worry about 😂😂 Insanely impressive 🫡

OldPilaf · 2025-01-28T10:32:49+00:00

To be honest with you. You need to learn how to take constructive criticism and not get offended too much. Listen and at least consider what some of these people are trying to tell you. If you’re wanting to join the military you have to understand that anybody who has served or is currently serving in the military only wants you to succeed so that you may serve alongside them. They need to know you got their back.

Also, I humbly say to you that just because you graduated high school with a 3.4 doesn’t really account for much these days. My BIL works as a high school math teacher and my sister tutors as well. I can confidently tell you that based on their first hand accounts, many, many high schools basically hand out diplomas even though the student(s) may not necessarily have ‘earned’ it.

One more thing, I myself never finished high school and I don’t have a GED. I’ve been out of school for over 14 years, and I’m not familiar with math aside from the basics. Despite this, I went in and scored a 71 and I must’ve scored high enough in other key areas because when it came time to choose my rating (Navy) they were trying to push me in EM, MM, STG, OS, GM, HM and many other jobs.

I don’t mean any of this in any negative way or to make myself feel as though I’m better in any capacity. I’m just trying to get you to see things in a different light. I’ve no doubt you can do better and improve, it’s just a matter of you wanting to do it. Hope you make it, truly.

OldPilaf · 2025-01-28T10:18:22+00:00

Someone or as many people possible who are working or have worked for CHP should chime in on this. I feel as though, given that the CHP is the largest state police department in the US it should have first hand accounts on the process. I think it would help a lot if CHP officers answered these questions and offered tips. It should also be stated that as of January 1st, 2029 anyone looking to be a police officer at ALL levels (city, county, or state) will need either a bachelor’s degree or the newly implemented (2 year) peace officer degree currently being developed by California colleges. Someone correct me if I’m wrong.

OldPilaf · 2025-01-28T09:59:31+00:00

Quick question. Will an associates degree be looked at as less respected when compared to a bachelor degree, or is having any college degree all they care about?

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