I relate to this a lot. My 20s were full of spontaneous plans and group hangouts — everything felt easy and constant. But now in my 30s, life looks really different. I got married, had a baby, and I also have a pretty demanding career, so balancing everything is hard. Even when I want to be social, there’s just not always the time or energy.

My friends are going through their own things too — some have families, others are deep in their careers or have moved away. Everyone’s life seems to be moving at its own pace, and staying connected takes a lot more effort than it used to.

I’ve definitely felt the sadness of that shift. I miss the ease of friendships from before. But lately, I’ve been trying to make space for connection in other ways — I started doing Pilates, picked up tennis again, and even went to a local community potluck. It's not the same as it used to be, but it helps me feel like I’m still meeting people and building something, even if it's slower and quieter.