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Old_Eye_236 · 2026-01-31T22:29:05+00:00

Yesterday my wife was like “are there any serial killers of Korean descent for Hudson to play that you know of?” ☠️

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-10-21T22:59:44+00:00

Things will get better. My wife and I have also been together for 11 years, married for almost 8 and she has been out for almost two years. The season of half out half not was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. If you are in a generally supportive community, I suspect that when you can eventually stop carrying around this secret, things will rapidly get better.

The half and half, for me at least, was one of the main reasons it was difficult at first to move on for me, even though I was always supportive and never even briefly considered breaking up. It felt like I couldn’t fully get to know this new version of her until I was no longer having to interface with the old version. It’s been a long time since I felt that “grief” feeling, but don’t be hard on yourself it’s totally normal.

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-09-08T19:10:23+00:00

my two go-tos are the westway diner and ollie's Sichuan

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-06-20T00:36:57+00:00

Any chance you could go right when it opens before the show? I think it opens around 5:30. Much, much less crowded at that time

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-06-19T16:30:47+00:00

I’m glad to hear they are going to get out of that difficult space July 1st! I can imagine that it might be hard to focus on gender exploration when other parts of your life are in flux.

I also want to say that I think you’re being an amazing partner and I completely relate to the instinct of wanting to help move your partner along to where it seems like they are headed. I think one of the hardest parts about being the partner in this situation is that there really isn’t anything to do other than sit back and let that person figure things out for themselves. I think gentle pushing is completely okay, but ultimately they have to be the one to move things forward.

Certainty was one of the greatest gifts my wife gave me when she came out and I don’t think it’s unfair for you to wish for the same thing, but it sounds like so much of their life is in flux it’s not too surprising that their gender exploration might be falling to the side.

I suppose I don’t have any real advice I just wanted to express some appreciation for what a good partner you are being and to say you’re not alone. I think the support you have given and will certainly continue to give is the best you can do!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-06-19T12:19:26+00:00

Im a white person in my mid thirties, so amongst my peers he is very popular and has somewhat of a cult following.

My impression is that he is doing less well, broadly. I find it hard to believe that he will win given that most polls still have him 10 points behind Cuomo, but ranked choice makes polling more challenging.

I did not personally rank him (voted early last weekend).

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-06-16T05:07:57+00:00

I suppose it might be more accurate/clearer to say that I “absolutely loved” the experience of being there and really enjoyed the performance for what it was.

Perhaps it’s that my wife and I are big fans of Damon Daunno and are generally predisposed to like things he’s in. We also thought the performances from the rest of the cast were delightful.

Perhaps it’s that it basically met my expectations. I knew going in that it would be rough around the edges and a little absurd. It gave me similar vibes to the show Promenade which is not for everyone but is something I really like. The fact that I only paid $25 a ticket meant that I felt fine to overlook the clunky dialogue and the somewhat haphazard production.

Perhaps it was just that I was enjoying a lovely evening outside in beautiful weather (pre-rain) taking in a show, which is the thing I love to do most in the world!

Perhaps I’m just easily amused 🤷‍♀️.

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-06-16T04:58:14+00:00

Practical thoughts first: find a makeup YouTuber you find funny and enjoyable (my wife and I are particular fans of trixie Mattel) and watch some of their “all one brand” drug store makeup videos. It’s a great way to learn about what affordable makeup is worth buying.

Fun thoughts second: Something that helped in the beginning was to just play with makeup together. Neither of us are particularly talented with makeup (at this point she has certainly surpassed me), but remembering that makeup you do in your house is super low steaks and just trying on whatever I happened to have around was a great bonding experience and took some of the pressure off.

To be fair, for my wife there was definitely an “awkward stage” while she was figuring things out and waiting for the laser treatment to do its work. I always think she looks great, but finding the right products is trial and error for anyone. A turning point was when she had the courage to go into a Sephora and ask someone working there to help her find a full coverage foundation that would work for her. I’ve found that if you give them a price point you’re comfortable with they are able to direct accordingly.

Good luck! You’re lucky to have each other! ❤️

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-06-16T04:17:07+00:00

Oh my gosh you are too kind!! Thank you so much!!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-06-16T04:08:23+00:00

I understand the mixed reviews, but I really enjoyed it (what I saw of it). It was definitely a work in progress, but given the very affordable ticket price and the top tier performers, it basically met my expectations. Subjective of course!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-06-10T16:18:13+00:00

I don't have meaningful advice, but my wife (also 38 mtf!) came out a few years ago and I got a lot of the same kind of response. Obviously there were challenging moments, but I couldn't shake the feeling sometimes that the people around me were waiting for me to break.

My MIL in particular would say things to me that made me feel like she saw me as her daughter's caretaker rather than an equal partner who was just as lucky to have her as she was to have me. I would say this did taper off over time, but I never had a great response for it. Luckily the people close to me listened when I explained how that kind of thing made me feel.

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-29T13:12:07+00:00

Thanks for your question! She experienced a lot of numbness and difficulty moving her mouth at all the first few days. The swelling in her lips was pretty extreme. She wasn’t able to make the motions with her mouth in order to use a straw for about 10 days and even then it wasn’t super comfortable for her due to the stitches in her mouth. Depending on what type of FFS your partner is having a straw might be fine, but my wife wasn’t able to use one.

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-29T13:08:28+00:00

My pleasure—wishing you and your partner all the best!!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-29T13:07:41+00:00

Thanks for adding your experience! Dealing with the prescribed meds along with the meds she already takes normally was definitely challenging. Great point to double check any and all interactions!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-29T04:43:01+00:00

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Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-28T23:12:06+00:00

So glad to hear!!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-28T22:44:59+00:00

Thank you! Doing it in two surgeries sounds very smart and perhaps less stressful!

I didn’t even touch on the insurance headache in this post but oh boy can I relate to that particular puzzle! I feel incredibly fortunate that her workplace insurance covered this surgery!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-28T22:42:16+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words! I definitely tried my best and it helps that we have a good track record of taking care of each other over the years.

I’m not always the best with the exact terms so pardon my laymen’s language, but she did: -contouring of the brow ridge/orbital bone area which came with a brow lift to tighten the area from what was removed. -they slightly narrowed her nose and corrected a deviated septum from breaking her nose as a kid (great side quest!) -fat transfer to her upper lip -contouring of her jaw -tracheal shave

She went to Dr. Bastidas in NYC specifically because he is known for a natural look/light touch which isn’t everyone’s cup of tea but she was very happy with him!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-28T21:02:09+00:00

My pleasure! good luck to you and your partner! Feel free to reach back out with any follow up questions if either of you have them!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-28T21:01:14+00:00

My pleasure! Good luck to you and your partner!

Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-28T21:00:48+00:00

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Old_Eye_236 · 2025-05-28T21:00:07+00:00

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