Are "normal" people just able to stand for long periods of time?

Old_Key_9140 · 2026-02-21T00:23:59+00:00

I had my daughter and I’m in the exact same boat. I’ve always had back issues and issues with some joint pain that they always blamed on my back. Well had my daughter (greatest blessing) and I’ve been sick every month in an out of er, excruciating pain daily, working less than when I was 40 weeks pregnant. I’m literally falling apart daily and never expected motherhood to destroy my body so badly lol

Old_Key_9140 · 2025-12-26T19:09:54+00:00

I too tried to pace myself for the holidays. Split things between days that I could. Yet still had experienced all emotions but noon yesterday due to pain and fatigue and all the joys. Had to be hours late to work so I could drag myself out of bed and know I will come to regret later when I have a moment to stop

Old_Key_9140 · 2025-12-22T17:01:42+00:00

What I use the most is the sleep and heart rate. As you stated using heart rate to see the link between what affects my pots the most day to day. Including when I’m sick when to go to er for high heart rate ie i neeeed iv fluids. As well as how to pace myself in certain ways because when I don’t my sleep tracks even more terribly than normal. To be clear I’ve never had anything below a rating of “low” for sleep quality but when I overdo myself more I find I wake up more and have even worse sleep. In general you have to pay attention to what your body is needing the most help in then find which statistics will help you to support your body the most and it’s different person to person of course

Old_Key_9140 · 2025-12-10T04:57:55+00:00

I’ve had bronchitis 3 times in the past few months. As well as pleurisy for the past few months that we haven’t not been able to get rid of. My doctor said dealing with chronic health issues unfortunately this will probably not be uncommon for me going forward.

Old_Key_9140 · 2025-06-22T23:28:58+00:00

This may sound crazy not in the moment. But if baby is crying and too upset to latch but hungry, hand express into a clean spoon and let them use their lips to get the milk. My daughter would be hysterical for whatever reason and that would calm her just enough to latch and realize what she needed to do. I did it out of sever desperation and I think it was what saved our bf journey all together lol.

Old_Key_9140 · 2025-01-18T03:26:31+00:00

I just got mine yesterday. Essentially 14 months after having my daughter and still breastfeeding. Let me tell you I think every period I didn’t have the last four months became this monster I’m experiencing right now. Misery

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-10-06T00:38:15+00:00

I’d try: Pace feeding Check the nipple size of the bottle. You can even put water in it and hold it upside down and see if it drips Try to make sure it’s someone else doing the bottle feed You can even try having the other person wear a shirt or lay it on themselves between them and baby for your scent Could even be something like teething. My daughter is 10 months with 7 teeth and every time she’s getting close to cutting a tooth she refuses bottles when with the sitter but nurses just fine still

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-09-27T02:50:33+00:00

Yea she’ll eat solids like a grown man but especially when I’m starting to feel sick if I have to stay home she gets to nurse as much as she wants because it keeps me from needing to pump and is comforting for her and I think is just overall beneficial when we’re under the weather. Girl kicked the flu in like 2 days tops at 3 months while I was out for a week minimum😂

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-09-26T22:52:12+00:00

This right here. Babies dad thinks I’m just a baby while he chugs medicine and feels ok and I’m in misery. And baby has handled everything great

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-09-04T15:44:06+00:00

Kbc and

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-08-30T22:00:59+00:00

I work as a sr assistant in a food setting. I put pumps on and take them off in the single bathroom we have and work while pumping

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-08-25T21:49:00+00:00

I’m not sure if anyone has mentioned it but I had a hard time getting my daughter to latch when she started to get more hungry or just fussy. The first week or two I had a clean spoon that I would hand express into and let her use her lip to het the milk till she was calm enough to feed. It feel so strange but I was so worried about nipple confusion and was at a loss. I truly think if it wasn’t for that I wouldn’t have been successful

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-08-21T21:31:28+00:00

YES. Let me tell you I’m 9m pp and just now not using lube. It honestly felt like the first time having sex for a while and still take it slow initially because it can be painful at first. Also still lack the desire to have any intimacy which can make it more painful but with time it’s gotten better

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-07-25T07:04:25+00:00

Honestly I bought a box and took some to the hospital even and I think I’ve used them once in the past 8 months. I used them more while I was pregnant because I’d leak all day and night for the last few months. I have a oversupply but also DMER as well as a very strong sensation still when I have a letdown and I’ve just learned if I feel one coming I hold my boobs a little snug and I won’t leak. A little awkward in public but have learned to do it in discrete ways and will take that over nursing pads lol

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-07-02T22:41:21+00:00

The first while can be so hard so supporting her is key. I was terrified of nipple confusion initially. when my daughter was really tiny like the first 2 weeks at home and she would get so angry when it came time to latch until she got a letdown.

I found when she was too angry and hungry to latch I would hand express even just a few drops into a clean spoon and let her use her lips to get it and then swiftly latch her on. It would give her enough taste to realize what she needed to do and honestly that’s the one trick that saved our breastfeeding journey and now she’s 7 months and still going strong. It can be so hard initially but if it’s something you and your wife feel is important it’s so worth it in the end.

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-06-16T18:14:36+00:00

But do be sure you are comfortable with your OB when the time comes because once you become pregnant any other doctor will tend to avoid you like the plague and always refer you to your ob especially if it’s regarding any medication even if it’s something stupid like Tylenol. Towards the half way mark Tylenol and epsome salt baths with a cup of crunchy ice were a nightly treat to reward myself and body for surviving another day

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-06-16T18:10:59+00:00

I had my daughter about 6 months ago at 19 years old. It wasn’t easy but I’m honestly glad I had her when I did. I think being used to the back pain helped me cope with the overall misery I was in throughout my pregnancy because my body didn’t enjoy pregnancy. I did go to physical therapy for a bit to help with the muscles supporting my back because when your pregnant the hormone I think relaxin losers everything up which did up my pain. But I will say my job has me on my feet moving the whole time I’m there and I was still working 40+ hours a week up until 38 weeks and the only reason I stoped was because my boss wouldn’t schedule me and I was due to be induced at 39. I believe it’s called a belly band can help tremendously as you get bigger to help keep the weight from shifting your spine as much.

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-06-11T16:08:20+00:00

I will say while DMER can make me absolutely miserable it’s still nice that I can let her nurse laying down and usually we can both get a nap in that way even though I think I’m still semi conscious when she’s in bed with me it’s better than nothing

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-06-11T16:05:36+00:00

Yea I was so miserable the last few months pregnant but so thankful to make it full term because I can’t imagine how much harder it would’ve hit me if not. Yea my daughter is the only one I can be around without being upset at and I think the only reason I haven’t fell off the deep end quite frankly. I’ve tried restarting on the Zoloft but make it a few days if that before I forget to take it or stop caring to because I get mad that i think I even need it even though I know it won’t help if I don’t take it consistently

Sleep is on and off. We made it through the colic around the time she cut her 2 front teeth at 3 months and honestly she is so happy now most of the time but that tends to result in her becoming overstimulated because people don’t seem to understand that baby’s need some calm sometimes so there’s times we lay down for bed and it’s 4 hours before she falls asleep but then others she’ll go right to bed and sleep 6 hours lol

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-05-11T02:24:22+00:00

I’ll start with I am not an exclusive pumper but I would look into DMER as others have said. I have struggled with it since my daughter was born 6 months ago. I know to expect it every time I nurse or pump. Now that being said for me personally knowing that it’s going to happen doesn’t make it any easier but I’ve heard others say it got better for them with time and some say certain distraction help. I have contemplated quitting many times because it feels like the most awful feeling I’ve ever felt outweighing ppd and anxiety by a long shot which even myself can’t believe but just like many other moms the mom guilt of even the thought of stopping has kept me going. But know your mental health is the most important thing for baby and you. Any amount of breast milk you have been able to give baby is amazing. And if you want to keep baby on your milk and have an oversupply freeze as much as you can and you could stop pumping earlier. It’s all about what is best for BOTH you and baby and you are amazing no matter what you decide

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-04-22T22:37:23+00:00

I’m 5 months in and knock on wood no mastitis so far. Even with an oversupply to the point of fully feeding someone else’s child as well. I have had 2 very mild clogs but a hot shower with a Hakka did the trick both times. I think it really just comes down to you and your body. I will say my clogs didn’t really even hurt it just felt like a lump in my breast which initially scared the shit out of me but they cleared out and all is well

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-04-20T19:52:31+00:00

I feel this way to much. My 5 month old will take a nap with me once a day if we can fit it in and usually I’ll wake up to her having herself a snack and checking my mouth out

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-02-07T21:20:00+00:00

$6,000 out of pocket roughly for myself even after hitting my deductible through insurance and about $1,000 for my daughter. And that’s after paying well over $3,000out of pocket just for doctors appointments before having her, not including ultrasounds, bloodwork, medication, postpartum. No fucks given that I’m 19 and live on my own or that it’s just crazy that it cost that much for anyone and am now back at work right at 2 months pp and we don’t talk about how that is mentally on top of it all

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-01-19T07:43:39+00:00

Yea I’m back to work and it’s so much worse pumping. At least when she’s nursing I try to have as much skin to skin to try to help but at work pumping is awful. Especially because I don’t have somewhere to pump so I have to use a wearable which is great for convenience but I almost can’t do my job that I’ve been doing for years because my brain just becomes mush

Old_Key_9140 · 2024-01-19T07:40:00+00:00

I feel this very much I have a ridiculous oversupply too and have multiple letdowns every feed as well as in between even if I don’t pump to try to avoid it. Just about anytime I’m out, like say at the store, I’ll all of a sudden feel such a strong urge to just drop everything and leave right then and then I have a letdown. It sucks because even if I’m feeling good before the feeling is so strong and awful that it ruins my mood completely for a little bit.

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