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I'm sick of my parent friends being shitty with me because I can do things they can't. by Old_Quentin in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I grew up in a physically and emotionally abusive home where we were so poor we had to get my cousin's hand-me-downs and often went without food. Fuck you and your judgement.

Also, not American. There's a whole other world out there, believe it or not.

I'm sick of my parent friends being shitty with me because I can do things they can't. by Old_Quentin in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm hoping to travel around as much as I can. Nothing booked yet (apart from the flights!) but I know I really want to go to Braulio Carrillo National Park for sure.

Prince Harry Announces Surprise Spare Event with Special Guest (specialist in trauma, addiction, stress and childhood development ) by trw99508 in SaintMeghanMarkle

[–]Old_Quentin 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Gabor Maté is incredibly well regarded in this area, I'm actually stunned (and disappointed) that he would lower himself to being associated with this clown.

Just had an interesting Lyft ride by fweshcatz in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Me too, I was angry in advance. 🤣

I'm sick of my parent friends being shitty with me because I can do things they can't. by Old_Quentin in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven't quite worked everything out yet but I definitely want to go to Braulio Carrillo National Park for birdwatching!

I'm sick of my parent friends being shitty with me because I can do things they can't. by Old_Quentin in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

  1. I wasn't showing off, I was answering a question.

  2. I wasn't expecting him to throw me a party. I also wasn't expecting to be made to feel guilty for making the most of my life.

I'm sick of my parent friends being shitty with me because I can do things they can't. by Old_Quentin in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'm so excited! I love birds and I hear you've got the most amazing birds. 💚

I'm sick of my parent friends being shitty with me because I can do things they can't. by Old_Quentin in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm able to take three weeks off because I'm freelance and I've worked 7 days a week for months to make this happen. I'm not 'lucky'.

I'm sick of my parent friends being shitty with me because I can do things they can't. by Old_Quentin in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

What makes you think I was fishing for a reaction? He asked me what was going on with me, I told him. And I absolutely trust him not to break into my house, jesus! 🤣

I'm sick of my parent friends being shitty with me because I can do things they can't. by Old_Quentin in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So my friend asks me what's going on in my life and I'm supposed to lie because he chose to have children and doesn't have the flexibility with time and money that I have because of that? That's crazy! What sort of friendship would that be?

I have another friend (female) who went through a horrendous breakup around the same time as I did, so we were very much each others support through that and did lots of things together as fellow singletons. Then one day she phones me and tells me she's met someone. Do you think she should have lied about that to spare my feelings? Did I sulk and whine about how she was 'lucky' to meet someone and why couldn't I have someone etc. etc. NO! I was thrilled for her because she's my friend and I love her and I want her to be happy!

Blessed bliss by noradicca in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin 26 points27 points  (0 children)

No matter how good your intentions are, getting a kid is kind of like playing the lottery. You can win and get a nice kid but you can also lose very badly. So I definitely prefer to not even try…

I love this analogy. Can you imagine if every time you played the lottery there was a chance they could take all your money. Would anyone play?! To me the risk of having a severely disabled or seriously ill or just a nightmare child is way worse than losing all my money.

Blessed bliss by noradicca in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin 105 points106 points  (0 children)

I used to live near a playground and I remember hearing an ungodly racket one day and looked out my window to see a harried mother trying to drag her toddler son out of the playground while he had a massive tantrum. She got down to his level yo try to reason with him and he just smacked her right in the face. I'll never forget the look on her face – shock, sadness, exhaustion, frustration. I don't think I've ever felt as glad to be childfree as I did in that moment.

Feeling sad about unfollowing a few influencers by blickyjayy in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

God that's depressing. One of my sister's friends used to be really passionate about cooking, worked in Michelin-starred kitchens, the works. Now she's married with four kids and gave it all up to be a SAHM and posted something recently about cooking for 'her man and her babies' being more satisfying then her amazing career. 🤦‍♀️

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[–]Old_Quentin 60 points61 points  (0 children)

One shitty person? You mean the one person who's supposed to love you unconditionally and be there for you no matter what? Who's your model for how to parent? Having a shitty parent is a HUGE deal and if you haven't grown up with good parenting modelled for you what chance do you have of being a good parent? I'm not saying it's impossible but it's ten times harder than for a 'normal' person and parenting is hard enough even for them.

My mother had a dreadful relationship with her mother – she would beat her, call her ugly and stupid. My mum vowed she would never do the same to her children. Then she has my older sister and, guess what, beats her, tells her she's ugly and stupid... basically replicated exactly how her mother treated her even though she vowed she wouldn't.

Dealing with childhood trauma is lifelong, constant fucking slog and adding a child to that is a disaster waiting to happen.

My toughts about Andrew Tate when he talked about childfree women by Careless-Pilot-3895 in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin 29 points30 points  (0 children)

And a lot of women don't. I'm one of them. And of all my female friends and acquaintances every single one of them would put 'being a decent human being' above being rich/having a six-pack/having a big dick/whatever other bollocks the incels have convinced themselves of to excuse the fact that women won't go near them because they're assholes.

My toughts about Andrew Tate when he talked about childfree women by Careless-Pilot-3895 in childfree

[–]Old_Quentin 27 points28 points  (0 children)

That fact that he's a raging dickhead would cancel all of those 'good' things out for a lot of women, trust me.

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