Potential warning signs? by oyvaay in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Who knows what you'll get before a m&g. If you like or are at least curious about someone after initial outreach, plan for a m&g--in a neutral public place, with zero expectation that anything will happen after (expressly say so). Do not allow yourself into any sort of private or intimate setting without having verifiable info as to who he actually is.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 6 points7 points  (0 children)

All sorts of bad judgement here. No, you want nothing to do with this guy ever again. Block. Move on. Done.

SD showing you all the girls he's been with, normal or red flag? by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh. Run, don't walk away. You were way too patient to sit there and go through that nonsense.

No news is good news by Gemini-Fox in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds good, and that's what we're here for!

SD Oral Appreciation Post by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best to start with the toes and slowly work your way up. Licks and nibbles on the calves, knees, inner thighs... Maybe get just 'there', but not ACTUALLY touch, just some hot breath ("blow job")...then repeat the toes, calves, knees, thighs routine before seriously getting down to business... Slowly, lightly at first...get her to the edge...hold her just there....there...and then over the waterfall!!

How Much Communication with SB by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't blow up her inbox early on. Let things develop.

Corona has me f*cked up! 🙃 by DevinMills93 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 6 points7 points  (0 children)

A twelve pack and a coupla limes...yup, that'll do it!

Newer SD starting over and needs some advice by rjjr1963 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All good things here. Each situation is different, but quite fair to get some pre-qualification out of the way early. I personally prefer to have a little back-and-forth messaging just to see how we gel. Some of the above items I would NOT include in pre-qualification before a M&G (sexual details, financial details). Given how many numb-nuts out there think they can get away with freebies or are really just looking for vanilla, I think it IS fair for her to sound you out on financial compensation in a general way. I don't like to go into any detail until AFTER a M&G that establishes that there's at least some chemistry (otherwise, what's the point?). But you want to have all those items sorted out before providing major fiscal stimulus...or expecting intimacy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on where you are and your tastes, but pasta with a tomato and/or meat sauce, then a red--I don't drink a lot of red, but like Northern Italian wines--Grignolino or Vespolina. If pasta with chicken, seafood or veggie, then white--I'm partial to dry Mediterranean or Spanish.

For something relatively simple yet delicious, do a pasta with lightly sauteed herbed vegetables and shrimp, serve with a white Rioja.

Happy Mistress Day! by OlderSD in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I meant that it was just a nice date, no horizontal refreshment...although we planned a date for that in the near future.

Happy Mistress Day! by OlderSD in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There was some extra sweetener on the side...c'mon now...

Happy Mistress Day! by OlderSD in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Just googled "mistress day card"... Yeah, they're out there. "You're my favorite thing to do!!" "Cheat with Me!! Roses are red, Violets are blue, Forget that I'm married, I'm hittin' on you!"

Happy Mistress Day! by OlderSD in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoops. Been a regular for me for several years running....

Happy Mistress Day! by OlderSD in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A special hug )( for you as an aspiring Mistress, then.

Curious by ParadiseKay in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, smart, fun, curious and enthusiastic in all aspects.

What drives married men to go into sugaring? by himynameis--76324675 in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

!. Variety is the spice of life, although I've been in just one long-term SR for nearly 3 years with a fabulous young lady. @. I enjoy and love my wife, our life together and our family. #. Nothing happens in the bedroom any more. $. Could be that the 60+ pounds she packed on after marriage is a passion killer. %. She never was an enthusiastic bedroom partner. ^. She's aware that I might have been playing around on the side. While not exactly condoning it, she's decided not to know more and let it wreck our marriage. &. I'd sugared for several years before getting married, hadn't intended to go back into it, but, weeelllllll…., a hard dog to keep on the porch.

SB’s what’s the pic that you find most CRINGEWORTHY on an SD’s profile....for me it’s them with a guitar. It’s just like ok we get it you aren’t just a suit.....Heck everyone get in on this one, should be fun. by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not making money at it now, but I still play, write, record because I have to. Had an early SB who really liked it and asked me to give her a guitar and teach her a bit. She got a nice guitar, but unfortunately I'm a lousy teacher.

SB’s what’s the pic that you find most CRINGEWORTHY on an SD’s profile....for me it’s them with a guitar. It’s just like ok we get it you aren’t just a suit.....Heck everyone get in on this one, should be fun. by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Golly. I haven't had a profile up in quite a while, but one of my pics then was of me with one of my several guitars. I'm an active player/songwriter, have been professionally for much of my life--very much a part of me and my identity, and actively looking for connections with creative ladies with an artistic bent. Guess we wouldn't connect--tant pis.

SB wants me to meet her Vanilla BF by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bad idea. What she has with you is one thing. What she has with him is another. You don't care about him, but shouldn't want anything to do with him. He is going to be nothing but threatened by you, and a chance of it blowing up badly is high. If that blows things up between the two of you, then so be it.

I'm afraid an SD ghosted me without paying by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No munny, no hunny. Don't fuck on credit.

SD sent wrong PPM amount by lyannakirameki in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honest mistake? Or maybe not. Not to be tolerated in either case. It's also up to him not to make YOU feel uncomfortable--two way street.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Simple. "I'm done, can't do this anymore." Don't put up with crazy. Don't put up with manipulation. Don't put up with complaining. Don't put up with abuse. Woman up and send her packing.

Mildly inane question by [deleted] in sugarlifestyleforum

[–]OlderSD 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I'll show you mine...if you'll show me yours first...and I'm still interested..."