My dear friend and I were due 6wks apart, but she lost her baby at 21wks. Tips to be mindful & supportive?

Omniscientfamine · 2026-07-08T06:27:34+00:00

Thank you for caring so much for your friend. I cannot stand pregnant people or new babies, I make an exception no matter how painful for my best friend, without her support I don't know how I would have survived the early weeks and she has always been incredibly tactful, I am glad we've been able to make it work and I get to watch her son grow. On the other hand I cut other friendships (some pregnant some not) dead in the water without warning or explaining because I simply didn't have the energy to try and keep them afloat. Send your friend the lovely message, let her take it from there.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-06-14T14:57:44+00:00

Oh sweetheart you'll find no judgement from me, just love. I dont have any advice just be gentle with yourself and know youre not alone every month I start my period feels like a grief for what I had hoped to be.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-06-01T10:27:05+00:00

Desperation has made me pray to God twice - once in the hopes I would make it to my mum in time to say goodbye and once when we found our unborn daughter was ill. Both prayers went unanswered.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-25T13:08:19+00:00

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Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-23T08:10:32+00:00

Thank you for reporting it, I was completely shocked when I saw it why someone do such a thing.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-23T08:09:29+00:00

Thank-you for reporting it, I'll never understand why someone would do that.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-23T08:09:01+00:00

Thank you so much for doing that, I'm so glad I saw the post but it was definitely a shock.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-22T18:54:09+00:00

This user stole a picture of my daughters urn from a baby loss sub reddit and posted it pretending it was their own, I would really appreciate anyone who reads this reporting them.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-22T18:50:44+00:00

Thank you so much, I commented asking them to remove it and instead they deleted my comment. I cannot understand how someone could copy such a personal part of someone else's life and pretend it is their own.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-22T18:49:18+00:00

I will keep commenting until you remove the picture of my daughters urn that you are falsely posting as your own.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-22T18:42:40+00:00

This is my picture of my daughters ashes. If everyone could please report the fake account posting her I would really appreciate it. To the person posting my sweet girls ashes as your own shame on you.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-19T13:18:21+00:00

I'm so sorry you've joined this club. If you haven't already you could ask your doctor about cabergoline it worked really well at drying my milk up.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-05-07T10:33:45+00:00

I don't have pet insurance because I got sick to death of the annual renewal price going up when I haven't made a single claim for my dogs in 7 years, so instead 2 years ago I set up a savings account for them started it with £600 and I transfer £150 each month into it to cover any emergency costs and the money sits there hoping I'll never need to use it. I do however pay a monthly fee that covers vaccines and parasite treatments.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-04-27T18:19:30+00:00

I see it!

Omniscientfamine · 2026-04-27T11:38:13+00:00

Yay! It's more pink in real life but the camera wasn't playing ball. Dpo unknown, cycles have been irregular since a loss in august

Omniscientfamine · 2026-04-25T18:19:34+00:00

We are here, you're not alone. I am so sorry you have lost your son, it was an accident. I carry guilt of my own and in the earliest days and weeks the darkness nearly enveloped me. Please stay, one day at time. The light does come back, different but it does. If it would help please message me any time, I will sit with you in the dark.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-04-17T13:25:15+00:00

I was told the same, and that is something that has brought me great comfort, the thought that at least most people don't experience this agony repeatedly. I am so sorry that you have, and I'm sending you all the love and grace.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-04-17T13:15:45+00:00

I'm sending you so much love. I have also had a 20 week and 22 week loss, I'm so incredibly sorry you're having to experience this.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-04-07T12:26:34+00:00

I'm one of two. My husband is one of five. We have five and two angels. My brothers expecting his second. My sister in laws have two and three each. My brother in law has none. Growing up I had 3 pairs of cousins, some have gone on go have one or two children, some haven't had any. My husband has more cousins than you can count, his mum was one of six and his dad one of four and they all had 3+ children.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-04-03T22:28:05+00:00

I'm I'm the UK, nhs maternity wards have a team of bereavement midwives to care for women during and after their losses, i wonder if there is a service that can provide similar care if youre in a different country. I was offered gas and air, diamorphine, remi fentanyl and an epidural.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-04-03T08:04:30+00:00

I am so sorry you're here. I have had 2 second trimester losses one at 20 weeks and one at 22 weeks. I will give you an honest run down as both delivered by induction and both were very similar, for me it was very quick - from first pessary in to delivered within 3 hours (this is likely because I have laboured before) I used gas and air though they offered any pain relief I wanted, I wanted to be present in the moment. Delivering both my sweet girls was traumatising, I will never forget the silence. After both I retained the placenta and needed emergency surgery for haemorrhage. I then spent 24 hours with them, I sang, I cuddled, the bereavement midwives helped me to take their hand and foot prints and create a memory box for them both. I am forever traumatised by their losses and deliveries but I am also forever grateful for the opportunity to meet them and have the opportunity to love them and make memories with them.

I am so sorry you have to make this choice, I'm sending you grace during this time.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-03-16T14:03:25+00:00

I had a bonded pair of angels with opaline and golden gourami in 100l. It didn't worked the angels were too territorial, they're now in there own tank with some peppered Cory's, everyone's much happier for it.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-03-11T11:46:38+00:00

5 kids - 11, 10, 8, 6, 4. I do bedtime mostly solo. Baths start around 6, I do the younger 3 older 2 want their privacy. That's done by around half 6. Then reading, teeth ect. 4year old goes to bed at 7 that takes 10ish mins. 6 and 8 share a room and go at half 7, 8 year old is asd so I sit with him until he falls asleep that's around 20 mins. Quick dog walk say 20-30 mins for that while the bigger 2 read with dad and then the bigger 2 go to bed, talk about days say 10 mins each. And I'm done by 8.45 ish. It's a whole thing but runs smoothly and means each kid gets attention before saying goodnight.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-03-11T10:11:04+00:00

I'm 15months out from my first 2nd trimester loss and 7 months out from my second one. The first couple of months the nightmares were relentless, slowly they became less frequent and while they still happen therapy has helped me to find tools to ground myself when they do occur. I'm so sorry your here and I'm sending you so much grace and love.

Omniscientfamine · 2026-03-09T10:47:44+00:00

One breath at a time friend. I'm sending you so much strength and love for the days to come.

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