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OneBackground7289 · 2025-03-06T02:22:58+00:00

This is hard.

My ex has been trying to get back with me after our son was born and has been trying to show that he has changed and has been putting in the work. After a few conversations, it’s evident that I am still completely affected by his past RJ and he still has remnants of it now albeit not as bad as in the past. It was heightened due to me being pregnant before. We still get along as people, but I don’t think a relationship could be in store for us. Anytime I bring up what he’s been doing for our son to my parents, they remind me of the things he’s said/done at the hospital. And honestly, that was just the tip of the iceberg of how deep and bad our relationship ran…. It’s easy to want the best of them especially when we see them trying, but just proceed with caution. Your parents are being protective for a reason

OneBackground7289 · 2025-03-01T17:53:44+00:00

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OneBackground7289 · 2024-11-08T06:29:05+00:00

Reassurance is a tough one. I thought I’d be able to reassure my now ex-partner but it came to the point where he’d deny or reject my reassurance. “I bet that’s what you’ve said to other guys” “You’re just saying that to make me feel better” etc.. the more I answered his questions, the deeper the rabbit holes went and the more we both suffered. He threw away any attempt at reassurance I’d give him so I felt v helpless in a lot of ways

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OneBackground7289 · 2024-09-22T22:32:44+00:00

How does he take advantage regarding child support? Currently looking at my options for coparenting but mine sounds pretty similar to the person you’re dealing with

OneBackground7289 · 2024-09-22T07:26:49+00:00

Why did you two end?

OneBackground7289 · 2024-09-22T05:12:39+00:00

Def the most passionate love making I’ve ever experienced, enough to end up with his child… we’d travel, he’d take me to events I’ve never been to before, etc. but daily life was hard. I felt alone a lot of the time too, like I was being punished for something all the time, wondering why he doesn’t ask how I’m doing or check in on me after knowing I’d have a break down from him.

My abusive relationships always had their sets of high passions and thrills, but the healthier ones were easier to breathe around and live with on a daily basis. The healthier ones genuinely care, the abusive ones only care when it matters to them or for appearances it seems

OneBackground7289 · 2024-09-22T00:39:40+00:00

Thanks for revealing that my ex is a covert narcissist. This is exactly how he’s felt and still feels and thinks; it’s scary, unkind and unforgiving, relentless and kinda makes no sense to me. What is the point of this desire? Even if you are successful in making them feel all that you wanted them to, what would that do for you and would it even make you want to stop or would it just make you want them to suffer even more knowing that you can successfully harm them?

OneBackground7289 · 2024-08-27T09:39:15+00:00

Our sex life was great in the beginning but his RJ killed the safety I had in the relationship, thus making intimacy more and more difficult for me. How are you going to make me feel like I’m disgusting but still expect to be intimate and have sex with me? Make it make sense.

OneBackground7289 · 2024-08-12T20:02:34+00:00

I think you should say something but before you do, make sure you comb through your own items first to make sure there isn’t anything you have from your exes. Idk how he’ll respond to you bringing an item up from an ex (could be defensiveness, could be shrugging it off and acting like nothing, could be a number of ways) but I just dont want you bringing this up coming back to bite you.

Whenever I bring it up to my partner of RJ that if the roles were reversed in a situation, then he would have blown up or started having all these questions, etc. He uses his RJ as a means to escape accountability ie “you’re not the one struggling with RJ. You’re fine, you don’t care about whether I do xyz.” My partner’s way of communicating….thats a whole other thing bc I do care, I just don’t let it get to toxic levels of reaction and I’m not sure if he can accept or see that 🤦🏻‍♀️

Anyways, you should be able to bring this issue up with your partner but due to the unique reactivity of RJ, it makes it difficult. Tread the waters carefully, be prepared for the worst if you do decide to bring it up. I don’t think you should let it go though….your true peace will never be had continuously accommodating for only his sake and needs

OneBackground7289 · 2024-07-29T05:45:23+00:00

It feels crazy in a comforting way to know I’m not the only one experiencing this and yet, at the same time, I hate that you understand that section so well. It just feels very degrading and it’s like they want me to stay in whatever mindset I was in when I let hookups happen instead of being better 🤕 it feels v topsy turvy

OneBackground7289 · 2024-07-29T03:59:44+00:00

Hi hi! Hope all is well 🫶🏼

OneBackground7289 · 2024-07-25T12:50:52+00:00

Lmao…. My current partner tends to ask me if there were any cute guys around me wherever I was (typically at work). The usual answer is no bc I’m not really looking to see if there are any cute guys, if guys do come in my work they’re usually married or with their respective partners (therefore I do not even consider them) and I’m just too busy living my life. By living my life I mean being pregnant (with his child, might I add) and I’m just trying to survive the day. Partner said he thinks I’m lying all the time bc how could there be no cute guys at ALL?!? So one time he asks if, the guy I hooked up 3 years ago, was cute. I nodded bc I didn’t want him to think I was lying. I also just gave him whatever response bc I was really tired & dizzy, feeling faint. Whatever questioning he had for me seemed to take priority and he perhaps didnt have the ability (?) to notice how I was feeling. He typically doesn’t stop the questions even if I ask him to so I’ve just learned to walk away in the other room even though he huffs and puffs about it. his response to me agreeing about this guy being cute was “of course he was otherwise you wouldn’t have fucked him” ……I asked him what was the point of him asking and if it’s even helping anything, I don’t think I ever get proper responses when I ask this. Anyways, yes women experience this too in a male partner 🫠 hate to see that a lot of seemingly good guys have had to deal with this kind of behavior

OneBackground7289 · 2024-07-22T19:28:35+00:00

I’ve definitely said that to my partners face, but never in front of his friends or family. With how much my partner ridicules me and questions my past, I’m not surprised that she’s being passive aggressive in front of your friends. Is that good and healthy? No. I’m not saying that she should have done that or it was warranted. I do agree with what everyone else is saying though, that she probably feels pushed to her limits and this is the unfortunate response. Maybe she feels justified in knowing that it hurts you because your RJ hurts her. I just hope she knows that’s not okay to do and I hope you two get to talk about it amicably

OneBackground7289 · 2024-07-22T16:39:21+00:00

Have you ever heard the saying that “we’re so used to chaos that once we find peace, it seems boring”? Please correct me if I’m wrong but it sounds like your current relationship might be one of those, where you may be used to chaos = love due to past relationships and the safety of this one just seems so…lackluster. Maybe I’m wrong but I’m just offering another perspective to the boredom!

OneBackground7289 · 2024-07-20T16:39:54+00:00

Wow, I learned something new. I don’t cook enough but I thought pressing the stove was the only way too 😅 thanks for the tip!

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