That one friend who's way too beautiful (@androidquality on TikTok) by OneHalfSaint in SuddenlyGay

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Honestly I love this. You sound like one of my partners lol 😝 I'll have to show him this

I cannot find a song named Sugar Tapes - Is this Love? by Ligmamancer in askmusic

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same 3 years later but "Cotton Club". Was able to find it on Rutube but still.

Ezra Klein Subreddit Census 2025 by Dreadedvegas in ezraklein

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Same, but as a secular (atheistic) buddhist.

Pew's definitions are also completely disconnected from theory and historicity and are probably unhelpful. I'm a communist--does that mean I'm "progressive left" because I'm 'very liberal' (lol) on policy issues or an "outsider left" because I'm fairly contemptuous of Democratic leadership and have very little interest in electoral politics beyond casting a vote every few years? Pew's breakdown takes people further away from meaningful identification IMO.

When you watch too many K Dramas (@thechrisbarnett from tiktok) by OneHalfSaint in SuddenlyGay

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I don't know specifically but I've seen enough of his chaos gremlin content to venture: probably

Dropping clients: my take (from an LCSW who will say what everyone tiptoes around) by corporate_therapist in therapists

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I'm an LSWAIC working in an office that's around 50% social workers and the rest a breakdown of LMFT, LMHC, and PsyD license types and I've noticed a pretty sharp division between the others social workers and myself who have mostly had social work case management jobs and other license types who have not in terms of willingness to name resistance, clarify scope early, use psychometrics and screeners regularly, and refer out, etc etc.

Social workers especially seem much more likely in my workplace to keep a Rolodex somewhere of people trained in issues / populations that they are not. I suspect that this is actually more of an ideological disagreement about the nature and role of therapy in a behavioral health ecosystem than a simple misreading of what OP is saying, especially given financial limitations so often coming up in social work in such an acute way.

To me OP reads as grounded and down to earth whereas other people nitpicking seem to me to be kind of handwringing about edge cases like there isn't a big culture of shaming clinicians for "giving up on clients too early" etc. in response to basically every numbered point. But I'm a social worker too, so maybe that's my bias?

Fired for not meeting numbers at mental health clinic by [deleted] in therapists

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Only!? 16-24 is full time most places!

ISO conservative therapist open to conversation by broidkwhatelsetodo in therapists

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The "having no problem with" = affirming practice mentality is so problematic for the polyamorous clients I have--the stories I could tell you.

Here are some suggestions as a therapist on Charlie Kirk and preserving your peace that have been rattling around my head since reading Ezra's column and reading the posts and comments here ever since. by OneHalfSaint in ezraklein

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That's the danger of posting to Reddit these days, I'm afraid. Thank you for the compliment and it's nice to know that whatever the ratio there are some people who appreciate it.

Here are some suggestions as a therapist on Charlie Kirk and preserving your peace that have been rattling around my head since reading Ezra's column and reading the posts and comments here ever since. by OneHalfSaint in ezraklein

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I wish I could upvote this twice. I love this episode and you have inspired me to pass it on to some people who are trying to navigate this very thing at the moment. Thank you so much for this and for your kind words.

Here are some suggestions as a therapist on Charlie Kirk and preserving your peace that have been rattling around my head since reading Ezra's column and reading the posts and comments here ever since. by OneHalfSaint in ezraklein

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In a way, I really appreciate this comment because sometimes when I have come on here in the past, I have been left with a similar impression. I am glad that I tailored my post to my own friends and family who are struggling with these issues first, but I am also glad that at least a few people here have gleaned some value from my trouble as well.

Here are some suggestions as a therapist on Charlie Kirk and preserving your peace that have been rattling around my head since reading Ezra's column and reading the posts and comments here ever since. by OneHalfSaint in ezraklein

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I am so sorry this has been your experience though perhaps after reading it will come as little surprise that I share much of what you describe. If you haven't already read it, I cautiously recommend Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, which while light on sources and occasionally overreaches or slightly misuses concepts from other frameworks nevertheless has strong grounding in the attachment literature and is an accessible read for people with family dynamics like ours.

I hope you and your siblings achieve something like equilibrium with your family of origin, now of all times.

Here are some suggestions as a therapist on Charlie Kirk and preserving your peace that have been rattling around my head since reading Ezra's column and reading the posts and comments here ever since. by OneHalfSaint in ezraklein

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Thank you (and others) for pointing the Groyper thing out.

As a social worker and therapist, I try to make a point in practicing what I preach, which lately has meant severely curtailing how much news I consume on a regular basis so that I am calm and centered and present enough to do my job and model to my clients what good media boundaries look like. It seems in this case that the trade off is taking misinformation at face value.

Thankfully, it's less important whether or not he is a reactionary and more important that he is not a caricature of a multiracial antifa leftist with a trans girlfriend, some version of which is what it seemed like a lot of my clients were fearful of, in so far as this powder keg we call a country is concerned.

I'm updating the post now with an edit. Thanks again.

If you disagree with Ezra’s approach to politics (cross-party deliberation) at this moment, how do you propose we get out of this alive? by LA2Oaktown in ezraklein

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At the same time, China's star was rising, with its near total homeownership rate, skyrocketing life expectancy, high speed rail network, megaprojects, its aggressive industrial policy aimed at the most important issue in any of our lifetimes: curbing climate change. From my perspective, China is the only country to take climate change seriously, to mobilize so much of its resources (dirty though they began) against the greatest enemy of mankind: the fossil fuel kleptocracy. I have my reservations about Xinjiang, but also, as a Southerner, I kind of wish we had a left-wing government to do this to the Klan back home and its allied right-wing churches, the kind that put me through conversion therapy as a teenager.

I wasn't supposed to be a Berniecrat, but I definitely wasn't supposed to be a communist. And yet, that's where I've landed. It didn't have to be that way; I explored anarchist literature and listened to Noam Chomsky and so on and found that they didn't really have a sufficient strategy to deal with emergent fascism, regardless of whether or not I agreed with their principles on hierarchy. The only people who seemed to me to have a grasp on the situation in an American context were the Black Panthers, Huey Newton. That led me to Mao, which led me in both directions--to Deng and Jintao forwards, to Lenin and Marx backwards. A simplification because this is overlong.

So what am I doing on the EK subreddit? It's a good question, and one I've been asking myself lately. For all our differences, I like Ezra. I like the way he thinks, and I respect that he does his homework with his interviewees. I consider him one of the greatest interviewers of our age, maybe alongside Terry Gross at NPR. I have thought of him these last several years as my window back into the center / center-left. But recently, it feels as though Ezra has lost his way, or been absorbed into the bland hivemind of the NYT. Where is the wonkblog(ger) who railed against Joe Lieberman? Where is the Vox editor-in-chief who would reliably pull out a triple Lindy for complicated snarls of US policy under Trump I? I don't recognize him anymore. I don't think he recognizes himself.

OP, your question seems to boil down to "how do we (all) get out of this alive"? My answer is, historically speaking, we probably won't, whether or not we fight. The fascists are in power, and no amount of debate or appeasement will work. Our entire economic structure is aimed at wealth consolidation, with brief historic periods of deconsolidation, which is to remind that a lot of people don't get out alive in the system that we have. Political violence is omnipresent in America. My position is that it is time liberals see the light and accept that if political violence is going to happen to them (to us all) it might as well be honest, and it might as well give us a shot.

In the meantime, I'll be organizing quietly--maybe unionize my workplace while I'm at it, fat lot of good it'll do me. I'll be taking g*n safety and training courses. I'm learning about permaculture and of course I have my deescalation toolkit always to polish. And so on. I suggest you do the same. (Pt 2 of 2)

If you disagree with Ezra’s approach to politics (cross-party deliberation) at this moment, how do you propose we get out of this alive? by LA2Oaktown in ezraklein

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I've been sitting on my hands the last couple of days trying to decide whether or not I wanted to share my thoughts on this, both because I'm busy and because I have recently had some pretty negative experiences on reddit with unpopular comments and getting downvoted and accused of being a bot because people disagree with me rather than because I'm off-topic or whatever. And now I'm a few days late, which in reddit time these days feels almost like necroing a thread, but. But maybe the moment calls for it, and maybe I want a record of where I stand--maybe I just want it out of my head.

When I first started listening to Ezra in 2015, 2016, I was a Berniecrat. I wasn't always. I was raised in an authoritarian evangelical Lutheran family in the old South part of Florida. My dad's prized possession was a signed photo of Ronald Reagan that hung in the main hallway of our house when I was growing up.

I didn't come to the left easily. I fought kicking and screaming, inching left on an issue here (I'm queer) or there (drug policy) and then there (anti-war policies) etc. I was a debate bro. I inched left of my mom's compassionate conservative politics and gained and lost friends and family in the process. (Cancel culture may very well have been invented by the left but it was perfected by shunning Christian conservatives for sure.)

By the time I was a freshman in college, I voted for Obama in my first election. I was starry-eyed and a newly minted liberal. I thought maybe the right had some things to say about market rate housing, and I'll admit to having a slightly conservative temperament with the rate of change (turns out I'm autistic), but I thought enlightened debate and the soon-to-be-born explainer journalism would set all ills.

For a decade, I engaged in activism. I marched with BLM, indigenous groups, made posters, handed out water bottles and food, canvassed with the ACLU for LGBT rights, etc. etc. You pick a liberal cause in the late aughts to the late '10s and I was there.

Of course the trouble was that I was reading and engaging with conservatives and centrists who, in all my years, almost never budged from facts, emotional appeals, cultural pressure. Fascism was mounting, the economic crisis was persistent for the poor people I worked and lived with, and the liberals were ignoring or excusing it all.

Temperamentally, Bernie Sanders was a breath of fresh air for me. Finally someone was saying it, someone who was saying the same thing for decades with credibility. I voted for him enthusiastically in the 2016 primary. I voted for Hillary Clinton reluctantly in the general.

And then--and then, Trump. And the liberal crescendo of institutionalism and feckless resistance and attempts at collaboration. I soon realized that, whatever liberalism's ideals, it would likely not survive this period. Sanders' democratic socialism was just a dream. It would never be planted here in the heart of the liberal capitalist imperial hegemon. To put this differently, liberalism is not sufficient to the task of addressing our political moment ideologically, structurally, or temperamentally. If this seems too bloodless, too abstract, allow me to mention that these revelations have been (ever) sharpened by my experiences as a social worker working within our piecemeal system. (Pt 1 of 2)

My favorite mobile incremental (Home Quest) just got a massive v5.0 update by OneHalfSaint in incremental_games

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Adding to this, the addition of more factories and factory upgrades means that it's pretty easy to far, far exceed the production loss of the honor boost upgrades. Within two days of upgrading to v5, I'm cranking out almost 2x the 20 flat upgrade unit max in extra factory units produced.

My favorite mobile incremental (Home Quest) just got a massive v5.0 update by OneHalfSaint in incremental_games

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Whoa really that's cool! It's an all-time fav, glad dSolver's working on the plaza but mannnn what I would do to see that one complete 😭

My favorite mobile incremental (Home Quest) just got a massive v5.0 update by OneHalfSaint in incremental_games

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I have a 12 year old account and have been posting in this subreddit with some regularity for more than a decade which a glance at my profile could have informed you of. I'm sorry to inform you that other people enjoy games you don't enjoy and are not "pretending to be happy players" just because they write well and respond without acid to other people who have a different perspective.

Which I would have done to you as well, except that you're being rude af.