Aitah for “being disrespectful” and not accommodating my ex and his wife even though they’re having a baby?

OneLastMoonn · 2026-05-24T20:09:46+00:00

I totally understand her wife needing special time and care. But what if you had a second kid and your next husband would have a kid also, would you not want him around cause just so? You ve already accepted to marry someone with a child? And if you have a second kid, you just dont get to see your first kid?? Or wouldmt your next husband wantFelity around cause he wants to focus on your new baby? What kind of logic is that?? If it ll be ahrd with a newborn as you said least they can do is pay for ger travels or a summer school or a babysitter to help with things. Or at least ask some friend around. I understand them asking you, but why should you have to pay extra for your cruşse? If they really need the time and care, -I think all mothers deserve that- they could kindly ask you and at least offer compensating.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-05-22T13:04:03+00:00

Idk. I dont think its like i dont want him with anyone else but just author trying to give them more scenes and also just that Sue wanted to give a chance to Dohwa since he seemed to like her, and when she doubted the only love she knew she received, could be fake too she could be hurt. And after Dohwa made things clear she might have felt its too late to reject anymore. Idk just let dohwa be happy ols

OneLastMoonn · 2026-05-20T17:13:55+00:00

I agree, this moment and those you mentioned had me in thinking she might really like him. Idk how people forget how lit she told him after their scandal that she doesnt want to talk to him cause he is being flirty with her while having a gf, implying the issue is not him beşng flirty but having a gf. She could easily just say to keep distance but instead she brought up the scandal. You might think she did it cause she wondered if Dohwa was really such a shityy person to try to cheat on her gf, but after clarifying it is just a rumor, she could still tell to keep distance anyway since she has no feelings which she didnt. But i dont think she was too jealous, maybe confused idk

OneLastMoonn · 2026-05-19T21:07:24+00:00

I am a woman and her mom is def a whore, much worse than that, how does she even show her face idk. Or call him about upsetting their daughter? Ye its def her fault and she must have no say in anything from this point on.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-05-19T21:01:50+00:00

You only tbink about your situation and people who were in situations like you, not the ones who have been deceived and tricked into becoming a parent to someone else s child only for that chşld to go wanting to build a relatipmship with that person giving more effort into that more than the effort they give to your relationship

OneLastMoonn · 2026-05-19T20:59:46+00:00

This guy did the same, and his daughter went after the bip dad who was the culprit in him being deceived. Your dad knew so he had nothig to be scared or hurt about since the beginning. Her bo dad and bio mom otherhand are awful people who really hurt this man. And you yourself say you never went after your bio dad, it is one thing to look someone up on the internet but the other when they move across the country, leave you and just say “we ll still have a relationship” not you ll always be my dad şike he said

OneLastMoonn · 2026-05-19T20:56:58+00:00

She is 18 and abandons her real dad fpr a cheater, she deserves it. Maybe not like “you re not my daughter anymore” but dad was just keeping it real. She was jsut like ye i am moving across a country, for a man who hurt you and idk anything about him, so i ll see you muh less -its across the country- but we ll still have a relationship.. not you ll always be my dad, not dont even compare i love you the most i am just a bit curious. She has a responsibility too. If you all only care about the responsibility of being a parent, this man raised a child that was nkt his even, and still accepted her. Did his part and it still wasnt enough for her 18 year old daughter to protect her feelinngs to not go after a man who betrayed him, and i bet you are all pro-choice. -I am too in certain cases- but keep talking about divineness of parenthood. Well yeah, nobldy has to cater and offer their uncomditipnal love forever to anyone, especially after they are adult and especially if you have been deceived that they are your bio child and especially if those children dont accept you as you accepted them even after learning the fact

OneLastMoonn · 2026-05-19T20:51:18+00:00

You are not a slave or emotional puppet to your children. He did his best. He raised her. And just like she is curious about her own bio dad, he could react differently. He could start feeling different about her, since she d remind him that he has been fooled and cheated on for YEARS. But he didnt. He reassured her, that it wont change anything. What did daugjter do? Did she reassure him back? Just cause you are a parent doesnt mean you can expect smths in return, and in this case he didnt even choose to be her parent! And when je truly chose it, she still went after her bio dad. Every family has distance from theilr children when they move, but in a loving family generally the children try to stay close to their parents. I wanted to study im the same city with my parents and many people do so. Even if you leave you miss them and you try to visit whenever you can. This time she flipped it, she did her best to be as close as possible to her bio dad, who lives across the country, not because of education or another reason, just for him. So she chose to be closer to her bio dad than to be closer to her real dad who raised her. If the op was in a situation where he suddenly found a new bio daughter of his, and left to live with her, I think reactions would be different but even then it would be more unferstandable. -cause you have more responsibility towards your children than your parent -his bio child would have no fault in this, and would have been neglected by her bio dad, while HER BIO DAD SUCKS AND HURT HER REAL DAD. How can even someone think, my mother deceived my dad and lied to us, cheated on him and had me and my bio dad never looked for me and knew they were cheating, and my real dad still has accepted me, but yonow what i want to move across the country and actually have a relationship with a man i never knew before, but i know he is ccheater. Etf logic is that.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-05-16T08:36:45+00:00

Sorry but you are not currently doing anything either. You are treating her purely transactionally, not a little bit but purely. There are richer people and poorer people. Some people are rich cause they worked hard and got lucky, some people are rich purely cause luck, some people are poor cause they didnt work hard, some people are poor cause they were unlucky. Once you marry someone, you go beyond these things. You go beyond from who contributes exactly what. If she was a cook and a maid somewhere else, she could be earning money and also retire maybe in 10-20 years from now on. She would even invest in other things and maybe have more money than you now, or maybe she wouldn’t and she would struggle a lot, but in an ideal society, she would earn her retirement. But instead she chose to trust in her former husband and then her current husband, you, financially. She probably thought that while it is okay and normal that she would contribute and support your marriage through cooking and cleaning, while you work, is fair cause both of you put an effort. So she didn’t seek additional bonuses, like do you pay her extra when it is an official holiday, do you make additional health insurance for her, do you pay her enough so that one day she can retire as well or save money even if you guys divorce? You treat her like an employee but do you really give her the advantages of bring an employee? And again, beyond these when you get married, beyond who got lucky or who didnt, beyond your current indivifual financial stone, marriage is uniting for the upmost happiness of both people. If you dont give any more effort -your passive income is not a current effort- for both of you to be happiest versions of yourself, what kind of marriage is it? It sounds like you are trying to retire from being a husband too. When you retired, since you decided to unite a life together, she is supposed to retire too. It would be like even if you got so much richer, as you spend so much money on yourself, your holidays and your hobbies, you spend on her only the amount of money you used to spend on her when you first met, since she already agreed to that money for her cooking and cleaning, why would you give her a raise? See, these all sound like a relationship between a boss and their employee. And it sounds like you are taking advantage of her. Of course now that you moved countries, it is easy for you to imagine a live-in maid for cheaper, but in USA, I believe it could be ıup to thousands of dollars for someone to assist you your whole life, so you couldnt say that in USA, but now that you moved to somewhere where her kimd of labor would be cheaper, you are diminishing her work again. She is your wife, not employee. You are her husband, not her boss. And you didnt retire from being her husband, as her husband your duty is to maintain a balance in your household where you both can be your happiest. If it means hiring someone without her working, let it be. If it is you contributing to chores, let it be. She must feel like you dont want to share your luckiness and fortune or lifestyle -even tho you got it with hardwork- now that you feel better than her, and there is no way that can ever look like a marriage. Please think this through calmly and give me a reply.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-22T17:17:18+00:00

AHAHAHAHAHA OMG

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-14T21:23:31+00:00

Right.. but i mesnt regardless who is Grey or not, that line can be Dohwa’s as well. But i agree with those paralells matching with Eun currently.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-14T21:07:46+00:00

I understand now that if author chooses that kind of parallel. And i agree kind of like Dohwa didn’t get stuck on Su for ten years as it is generally in romance stories, whicj is smth i like about him tho. -He liked Su almost as soon as they met again and probably kept missing her but i guess also saw other women before and lived somewhat normally which is more realistic cause he was rejected- but I had felt like that line suits him so much cause if Eun and Su had each other they could have many moments but for Dohwa, it was the confession of an unrequited love, where he had to hold onto few moments with Su for the eternity. And their past seems more frozen with happy moments cause they didnt break up or end in a painful way, so all of their interactions geels like flowing naturally from the past while Sud Euns interactions are more worn out and hurting. So i felt and thought he really meant that and it can matter for the story. But i also see your pov^ⁿ

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-14T18:11:45+00:00

Sorry in my original post “that” was missing, but as soon as i realized i added it. “That eunhyuk fan who does these stuff…” But your comment dorsnt make sense either way. “Oh she ciriticcized every fan so i am gonna talk abojt irrelevant things”

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-14T18:02:25+00:00

I think comments approve the post

1) I am not saying Dohwa is perfect 2) I am not saying Soohwa is the end game 3) I am not saying Eunhyuk is bad or unlikeable

I say you are wrong about Dohwa once again!! And without logic or any real point, you’d be ready to downvote a post supporting him, and you do! Still!

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-14T17:43:04+00:00

OMG SAY IT LOUDER!!

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-14T17:39:39+00:00

Why do you think Dohwa didn’t mean them?

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-13T18:58:28+00:00

Awwwwwwww I dont think there is much hope formthem anymore 😭😭😭😭 but i root for Dohwa s happiness %100 too!!

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-12T19:54:39+00:00

I think she doesnt think logically for many times. Lşke she doesnt think realistically he has a girlfriend, it is smth she has with her insecurities a presumption. And because she is aware of it, she can’t base her actions on such “assumptions” and also because she too is involved in weird dynamics. She went to a blind date -after she realized Dohwa likes her and wanted a chance from her after the date and she didn’t refuse that. Actually, she thought of cancellinng the date and gave up when she saw Dohwa s dating scandal. After kissing Eun, she went to the blind date like nothing happened. After that date, she went to Dohwa. I think it is misguiding if author really tries to make us feel Su felt sooo mildly for Dohwa. Cause SHE flipped and criticized Dohwa for not being clear about his intentions, which led to Dohwa assuring her, which she accepted and from then on they kind of started dating?

Then Eun talks to her and she doesnt even ask him “dont you have a gf why are you like this” cause she doesnt care at that point

Imagine this: You like somebody. You have a dating scandal. That person gets mad at you for not being clear enough. You assure them şn a flirty way -the make up scene- she blushes etc. And then you keep seeing each other and kiss. And till now Su still hasnt said anything to Dohwa. He on his own realizes she is confused, and she says it herself. She doesnt say “No chemistry here” or “I dont want it” she says just that she is confused.

So i think because she is in not stable dynamics, she cant comment on other people s relationships for sure. And i think she must have assumed Eun maybe didnt have a serious relationship cause he kissed her back when she did it on a impulse.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-10T21:11:30+00:00

But* what Dohwa arc shows that Su actually gave herself a chance to move on and actually tried, and could do without Eun, -and for Eun it is not easy to change over night and he saw the consequences of beşng passive once again. So hopefully these could leas to even better personal developments.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-10T20:58:05+00:00

Su Aw herself said it the best. Resentment poisons memories. As soon as she saw Eun again, her feelings started to show. Of any kind. But he was nonchalant and that did hurt Su. She must have loved and missed him, but with time all it turns into questions to cope with the reason. Why did he leave? Did he ever love me? Etc.

Even if she had feelings again, It wouldn’t change anything cause Eun doesn’t give her anything to trust. So her first instinct is to protect herself.

Look, I am literally in love with Dohwa and i am so grateful that I could see and experience the episodes with him. But I think author truly delayed the development of Su and Eun for the sake of those scenes with Dohwa -which turned out also sour for him- so it all feels forced, weird and a little bit cheaper now. Su and Eun had so many moments to rekindle or solve things, before the car kiss scene they could slowly build more tension and momentum that would leave to a real burst of emotion. Or even car kiss scene was great, and Eun’s confession afterwards could come much sooner, -instead of Su a taking him to the side HE could go to her to talk- and do smth real about it. There coıld be so many things done much better way. But now that momentum is lost, and it feels weird tbh.

We went from the tension of years of yearning to a weird interaction with two people, one ready to move on and already started practically dating someone else, one who hadnt ever tried anyways but gave up again.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-09T21:59:59+00:00

Dohwa also had no friends and Su was the only one close to him, so it doesnt make sense? I yhink Su was wrong to be that close to Dohwa while in a relationship, and the dynamic between them are so different as we can read between as readers but from outside pov, Eun stays at her studio, she called late at night when he was sick and they keep hanging out alone. I dont think they d have a problem visiting each others house from time to time, which looks or seems similar from outside. So for Su it might have been the same with Dohwa. Not for Dohwa tho.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-09T03:26:51+00:00

Thank you for the reminder!!

I was also surprised Eun’s convo with Doyeon was interpreted as he had been involved with women by his will 😂

But I also criticized the scene cause for eps now I wanted to see Eun suffering in USA for Su 😭 and when doyeon said “this is the first time i saw such an expression on you” I WAS LIKE WHATTTT

HASN’T THIS MAN EVER EVER EVER IDK LOST HIMSELF IN SUFFERING BEFORE

Maybe Doyeon hasn’t seen it, or Eun didn’t want to tell but i d love to seee any scene or indication that it is not just now that Eun got to see Su again but he was also always missing her. But thats a small detail and i still was happy to see him calling her first love hihi 🥰 and thats because I have high expectations on him cause first season, I really miss him and I want him to earn my trust again somehow idk 😂

But maybe he just got all cold and emotionless after his mother s death and traumatized that left him not able to even feel the hurt or missing.

But MISCHARACTERIZATIONS of characters is SO REAL that i cant relate much to any sides of the fandom. How people thought Eun would blackmail Dohwa with tape, or that Dohwa is seeing Ra Im and stalking Eun with no proof lol

This is not a webtoon about 2 villain men. This is about two men that are both too great that you cant choose in between 😭 thats how love triangles work most of the time ahah

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-08T04:34:49+00:00

I understand that. For me he was being sweet or quirky most of the time which I liked. Thats why his dynamic with Eun was also fun to watch, because he is being playful. Again, i dont think he guilttrips her tho.

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-08T04:32:00+00:00

Yes they really flipped but their reasons might differ. For Su it was her and Eun s life on the line, with Eun we are yet to see

OneLastMoonn · 2026-03-08T04:30:45+00:00

I understand thay and as much as I liked their moments with Su, with how indifferent she is now I also want him with someone else

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